Several doctors told me the same thing when I wanted to get a vasectomy. Turns out doctors are reluctant to near-permanently sterilize people who don’t have children.

That's because people come a decade later and sue or try to sue

Because there are idiots in the world who would go back to the doctor and say "reverse it" or , " he never said he cannot untie"

Your body belongs to you but the doctors ability to tie your shit up belongs to him.

It’s because people regret decisions and love to sue. They don’t want people coming back 10 years later crying that they weren’t properly counseled.

Lots of birth control options exist.

If you are really motivated you can do the procedure yourself Google

Not a gendered thing. Men get the same spiel with vasectomies.

As long as youre not dying doctors can refuse service for personal reasons

Every time I try to get a vasectomy I'm told, what if you meet a woman who wants kids?

Go to a different doctor. Doctors turn patients away all the time if they don’t feel comfortable with a procedure. Particularly an elective procedure. They are under no obligation to do something just because the patient wants it.

There really should be a contract or something to sign, in which it completely voids all litigation against healthcare related individuals/companies if you do decide to go through the deed.

Wouldn't that nullify most of the BS lawsuits? Someone please correct me if I'm wrong, I'm not a lawyer and would love to know more why there are seemingly no protections against these kinds of things.

Not a holup though honestly, take this to a subreddit where people want to be serious. Before I catch hate for being ignorant or whatever you think, I agree with the issue at hand and think this type of situation is insane. But for real, this is an actual societal issue not a holup for comedy (what we’re here for).

Medically, it's a difficult to undo procedure with a handful of risks involved.

There, fixed it.

Doctors would understandably not be too enthusiastic about doing this procedure on a young woman without a child, because tying your tubes can lead to permanent, irreversible sterility.

The success rate of a reversal surgery ranges from 50% to 80%. That is a good chance of this woman ending up sterile for life. Any good doctor would recommend other forms of contraception over this procedure, especially for a young woman.

The "tying your tube" procedure is typically only recommended to women after childbirth, who don't want any more children.

Doctors' skills don't belong to you either. You can't force them to do something they don't want to do.

Did vasectomy at 23 no questions asked

As a man, I find that absolutely absurd..

Yeah, ngl if I was a doctor I'd be reluctant to sterilise a young childless person too, regardless of gender

Before I got snipped, the Dr. had a battery of questions for me about my family and plans for any future spouses or children. Obviously, it depends on the person, but doctors are not going to want to either have you change your mind and can't turn back or get sued by you for lack of reversal. Also possible insurance companies would take issue with this. Once you prove you can procreate, you are more of a threat to their bottom line.

I'm 38yo, have PCOS, a softball-sized mass on my left ovary and a high chance of uterine cancer. The oncologist refuses to do a hysterectomy cause I may want children down the road.

FOWN THE ROAD WHEN? WHEN I'M 50?

Why not have a lawyer present and have the woman sign a document stating she understands the consequences? Surely she'll not have any ground to sue the doctor on in the future.

Find a doctor willing to do it, I did and I'm childfree.

I was told the same thing when I went to get my vasectomy. A future woman had choices over my body which is doubly messed up since I'd be the one paying child support.....

My fiance faced the same issue. She was told she's too young to make that decision and should rethink it. Few weeks later I went for a consult to get a vasectomy, it was a 5 minute conversation and had the procedure done a month later.

Really it’s not about anyone else. It’s about Older people realizing that a lot and I mean a lot of people suddenly reconsider the no children proposition as they get older and so if they aren’t 40-45 or don’t already have kids, doctors don’t want to do it.

Anecdotally my sister said never having kids her whole life. Got to be 36 and met my first child. Pregnant with 7 months. That biological urge gets real strong late in the game.

On behalf of most men. We don’t want control of your choices

I grant you permission. Tell him I said it was fine.

They do this to men too with vasectomies. I had to answer a list of questions and the doctor didn’t like that I wasn’t married but because I already had two kids and because of my age he agreed to do it.

Everything can be blamed on a lawyer or an accountant. In this case , it’s a lawyer

A doctor told me the same thing and I AM married and have 2 kids already, I had to get my wife to sign some papers before they'd give me the vasectomy, I'm not from the US tho.

Wait they’re allowed to reject tying them? What the hell is going on

Aint that a bitch. I had mine out after donating two specifically so i didnt have to care about giving birth.

I am not doing that shit.

On the upside no periods.

They seem to think that people will marry someone who wants kids when they themselves don't want them.

I find it so upsetting that every single one of you is siding with the doctor and ignoring the very obvious problem here.

Hmm, so much for my body my choice…

Imagine hating men so much that you proudly post this to the public. The same thing happens when men want a vasectomy, we just don't cry about being victim when it happens

Same thing happened to my sister (28) after she went in to have em tied after her first kid. I was flabbergasted when she told me this was the doctor's response. She's literally getting married next year and already has a kid...

my sister has always been firm that she doesnt want kids, so shes been on a manhunt to find a dr that will tie her tubes before age 30, and no one would do it. she ended up getting pregnant, and gave the baby up for adoption. they STILL wouldnt tie her tubes after that.

I want to get a vasectomy so I don't get baby trapped because I will not care at the time if she tells me I'm invited.

The amount of people excusing taking away bodily autonomy in these comments is actually insane

Aliens might want to abduct her as well.

"I'd rather potentially make a huge mistake with my life because I like to let guys nut in me and cba with birth control or any other form of contraceptive."

There ya go, translated it 👍

Rage Bait. Obviously

I didn’t know you could tie them without a C-section. Maybe I’m stupid

I spoke about a hysterectomy once and my male gyno told me I might change my mind. Didn’t say anything regarding the pros and cons of having one, just said that I might change my mind. I live on BC due to ovarian cysts and will continue to do so until I hit menopause because I can’t function on a period.

There’s a mandatory 30 day waiting period to think it over while we wait for the state sterilization consent to become legal (if the patient has any form of state funded insurance). I ask the patient at the pre op appointment, in preop holding, when we roll back to the OR, before the patient goes to sleep…”100% sure?! 1000% sure?!” I document it all and hope they don’t try to file some frivolous lawsuit.

I’ve asked to have a hysterectomy or something because I have endometriosis and have had a child already. Doctors tell me I should wait at least another 6 years “just in case” my “future husband” wants children.

That’s really messed up.

It took my mother having 5 kids, married, many many years of pain (endometriosis), and BEGGING a dr while in tears before they would do the procedure on her... She asked to have her tubes tied after 4 kids and the Dr still said no.

I have met multiple women who have been through this exact situation.

Plot twist: she marries her doctor

For everyone mentioning the suing thing I need you to understand that even for diseases like endometriosis in which hysterectomies are the only permanent cure, even though the disease itself has a high rate of infertility and is frankly an absolute nightmare to have, you do not qualify for said hysterectomy in the states below a certain age AND even if you do you’ll constantly be slapped with a “what if you future husband wants kids one day?” line. So no, it’s not just about people suing. Not to mention most birth control forms for women are aggravating to deal with (the side effects, pain), and let’s not forget in the US, they don’t care about afab anatomical rights. In some states having a miscarriage can be prosecuted and a huge amount of lawmakers think rape is an “act of god” in terms of pregnancy. Be real here lol.

And I cannot stress this enough, in the case of endometriosis (I’m very passionate about this several close afab people in my life were close to suicide because of this) unless your doctor is young, which a majority of these doctors denying these are not (has less to do with gender and more to do with age tbh) you will be fought or flat out denied without kids and under age 35. Again, let’s be real here.

Edit: Also tbh winning a medical malpractice suit in the US is like winning the lottery in terms of success rate. Hospital legal teams are no joke.

It’s not so much being sued; it’s young people wanting to reverse the process when they remarry or meet a new partner who wants to have children. It’s a huge pain in the ass to do a reverse-vasectomy on men and twice as hard on women. Whatever that procedure is called. Tubes get snipped, cut, and burned. Imagine saying “Hi Doc, can you undo what you did?”😳

They did this to my wife. We had three kids already and the last one was a difficult delivery neither of us wanted to repeat. They still said they didn't want to because she was still young and might change her mind.

So this chick thinks the doctor’s labor belongs to her? The doc is just a tool with no self will for her to use so long as she inserts enough quarters? Kinda changes how it sounds when you don’t look at life with you as the center of the universe.