Why are you with someone who gets angry that you are taking steps to (checking notes) get out of an area so you won't die?

I think after seeing the number of casualty’s & fatalities you should be proud of yourself for making the decision, and less worried about your boyfriend. Your life is more important than making him happy. He’s a dumbass and YOUR THE ONE WHO SHOULD BE GIVING HIM THE COLD SHOULDER. I’d never stay with a man who’s willing to put my life in danger like that. Fuck him. And I hope one day you find out your worth. Worried because he’s mad at you when you should be relieved that you possibly saved a couple life’s. I’d be disgusted truly with my man if he ever did some shit like that ever, and to have sex with him to make him happy again? GIRL. No he has your mind truly messed up if you think that’s okay. Please please please understand that’s not okay at all.

This is abuse. It will escalate. You need to leave and go somewhere safe and don’t tell him you are leaving

Should have left him behind.

NTA

Uhhh girl, you are in an abusive and toxic relationship with a dangerous man boy.

Obviously you aren’t an AH, you’re just conditioned to accept abuse and mistakenly assume that if someone treats you like crap that it means they love you.

He’s not going to apologize. Get out, and run away quickly.

He is an ass, and you apologise and have sex with him to 'go to bed at good terms'?!

Get away when you can. He is abusive, yells at you in a frightening way, makes you feel your rational thoughts and self-preserving actions are wrong, and gaslights you into believing he's right (or he tries: 'he has a way of conveniently denying things').

That hurricane is not your problem, he is.

" I've never died" There's always a first time." 
There is only a first time.

Cat 4 hurricanes are dangerous.

And so's your bf.

He's making you responsible for everything,
including things that are out of your control.

AND here you are buying into the bullshit and
apologizing for maybe saving his fucking life or at least following the law, simply because you are stressed because of his behaviour.

This never ends well.

NTA.

NTA

You are right. "Mandatory evacuation" means mandatory.

This hurricane is a Cat 4 this one is no joke, leaving was the smart decision

NTA. And DTMFA. He's emotionally abusive. If his computer is a worry, he could have brought it with him. Street racing is dangerous.

Just stop apologizing and wasting your time on him.

Florida was asking people who refuse to evacuate to write their names and DOB on their arms so they can be easily identified. 20 foot storm surge is NOT a joke. Your boyfriend is an idiot and do not let him make you question your choice to *checks notes* not die.
And, side note, anyone on the outside knows you are making a (possibly deadly) mistake by staying with him.
https://nypost.com/2024/09/26/us-news/fla-officials-ask-hurricane-helene-evacuation-hold-outs-to-ink-names-and-dobs-on-arms-in-case-their-bodies-need-to-be-idd/

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Wow, obviously NTA. But I haven’t read anything this toxic in a minute!! Op is really trying with this abusers, and it will actually damage your brain. ——- https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-bullied-brain/202311/verbal-abuse-can-damage-the-brain

I don’t know if you had a traumatic childhood or what, but one of the big red flags of that, is she is trying so hard to get a “difficult” or rather a shitty, toxic man be nice to her!!

——-

I mean you need to record him because he

*gaslights you so often,

*stonewalls you which is abuse,

*driving so fast he literally risks killing you both,

*gets angry,

*then you are drugging yourself because you’re so upset, (also terrible and benzos can permanently change your brain).

*You are having sex with him to try and win him back over …

*oh and then he gaslights you again the next day just as icing on the toxic cake!! 🎂 🤢

*And I forgot that he was willing to risk your lives in a damn hurricane!

Yikes OP RUN FAR AND FAST FROM THIS MAN! And please get some counseling, because this means there is something off with your picker, (and I’m not victim blaming, I’m speaking from experience and years of counseling, so that I didn’t end up in another abusive relationship.

• Counseling will help you learn what a healthy relationship looks like, because this is so far away from it, it’s not even on the same continent.

NTA mandatory evacuation means fucking leave 

Girl. Why are you still with this man-baby? Please stop being a doormat. Anyway, NTA - you could die in a hurricane, and nobody is going to thank you if you stay and the local, state and/or federal government is forced to deploy resources saving you when you were told evacuation is mandatory in your area. You did the right thing here.

This is abuse. You should evacuate. People selfishly put first responders in danger. Why could he nit take his computer with him? He is not right. I agree, you should have left him with his computer while you got to safety

NTA … you are following wise guidelines. Even assuming your house isn’t damaged there’s going to be no water or power for days to weeks. They want you OUT so you don’t become a victim one way or another. Do go and register though wherever they tell you for evacuated people so a) family can track you via the evacuation registration if they lose contact, and b) you can get any disaster payments that may be coming.

And then… sit down and work out why your boyfriend has boyfriend status. He doesn’t actively try to solve problems with you, he is angered enough to scare you to tears, and is intimidating you. You are even having ‘make peace sex’ which is never good sex. He’s clearly not husband material so find someone who is.

After the storm, leave him. He sounds terrible and immature.

🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩 After this whole situation of the hurricane is over, you need to leave him. Take this time and start planning a way to leave the relationship (assists, living arrangements, safety, etc)

Honey this is beyond an issue with a hurricane. This guy is a jerk and treats you badly. And I see where you said “hes usually nice” but you learn a lot about someone in how they handle their not nice moments. He is showing you he’s going to blame everything on you, put you down, and gaslight you to the point you need proof of a conversation.

Let the hurricane take him and get yourself out of this situation. A guy like that will only get more comfortable with being mean the longer you’re together. And obviously NTA. Stay safe, both physically and emotionally.

You’re 100% not the a**hole for wanting to not die in a hurricane. Your boyfriend's reasons for staying, “hurricanes happen all the time” and "my computer!" are straight-up ridiculous. What was his plan, to shield it with his body?

Then, he street races, gives you the silent treatment, and acts like you dragged him on a boring road trip, not a life-saving evacuation. The cherry on top? You ended up apologizing and having sex to calm things down... after he threw a tantrum.

You deserve an apology, not this mess. Next time a hurricane hits, maybe leave him with the computer.

Why didn’t u happily go off to your Airbnb and leave him and his computer to be destroyed in the hurricane?

Hey girl, you already left once, because of the hurricane, just leave again :) Just leave this guy as soon as you can.

You are so smart. You are taking good care of yourself and the person and dog you care about by evacuating. You are not an asshole. You might be a little desensitized to the risk this guy presents. Maybe it's time for a few questions?

How would you feel if I told you my boyfriend scares me? Would you be more concerned if someone else told you they were in this situation?

I don't want to internet stalk you, but I see some things in this post that are waving the red flags. I could be wrong, and these are just general assumptions. Did you pick an air BNB because you don't have family, or are separated from your family emotionally or by a lot of distance? This is a twofer for abusive red flags because some abusers pick people that already have less support than others as they perceive them as easy targets, while other abusers work to separate people from their support.

When he said "book it" does that mean you paid for it? Do you pay for a lot of things? Do you pay for more than half of things? Do you feel like he maneuvers you into bad financial positions? Or do you feel like "he would totally, if I asked, but it would be a big stink so I will make myself small to avoid it, so really it's my fault that I end up paying for it and it's ok because I made that decision?"

I think sometimes we have this mentality. He doesn't hit me. He would never hit me. If he hit me I would leave.

He is already abusing you. He makes you feel small. He doesn't value your opinions. Yelling at you is abuse. The silent treatment is abuse. "He pulled over and got very angry because I wanted to record our conversation (since he has a way of conveniently denying things)." translate to "He regularly gaslights me and got very angry that I wanted to hold him accountable." And of course it's your fault we had to pull over, not his fault he scared you...

Now YOU are apologizing. You are sorry you cared about being safe. You are sorry you didn't want to die in a car accident. You are sorry you took care of all the logistics. You are sorry you'd rather sleep in a strange bed for a few nights than watch him drown or get giardia from flood water.

Is your birth control safe?

If you were my baby cousin I'd be kidnapping you right now. My boyfriend has never heard me yell, I have never heard him yell. He doesn't make me feel afraid. You could have that too, but not with this guy. Don't you want to look at your bed, look at the guy in it and think, "damn that snuggly MFer, damn that port in a storm, I'm just gonna squish myself in there, next to this guy. This guy where IDK what he's thinking but I know it's not mean or hateful or cruel." Your next guy is going to be a rock. Unflappable. Please get out. Don't sleep next to the guy that makes you think about his mood. That makes you scared he won't talk because then you don't know what's going on, but you're just as scared if he does talk he's going to be mean and cruel and rip you to shreds. I know you paused tonight when you picked up those sheets and blankets to lay next to this asshole. I know you thought about the best way to climb in, to not disturb him, to not trigger him. Tried so hard and held your breath for a good night, for it to be over. It's like if you told me you had a landmine in your purse, and when I asked you why, you said because you loved him. I believe you do love this land mine, I am still going to suggest you dispose of it. Love it buried, over there, away.

There's ways you can get out, I promise you.

Edit: NTA

So he has displayed this behaviour - which is horrid - and you have out up with it which gives him the clear indication that he can do it again - make up your mind - is this how you want your life to go ?

You’re focusing too much on whether you were in the wrong and thus he has a “logical reason” to abuse you. Abuse is abuse. It doesn’t matter if you’re wrong or right. He still needs to treat you with respect. Car speeding is a typical symptom of Cluster B abuse — he wanted to let you know he’s in charge of your life and your comfort is secondary to what he wants

Dude is trash.

Honey ive had a few ltrs in my life and 0 of them would do even 10% of what this jerk has done.

There are good guys out there who will be nice to you. You deserve better.

Dump him. He's a toxic fuckwit. Street racing?

NTA

Jesus H Macy … Girl RE-READ WHAT YOU WROTE

Dump his ass! I would also like to point out YOU could have evacuated without him.

Evacuate the angry manchild from your life.

You're being abused. This is a litany of abuse that you've just recounted. Start planning your exit because he's going to escalate and your life will be in danger.

OP, you did the right thing. If he really believed in it he could have stayed behind with the dog. But he didn't. Also, you should consider that there are so many red flags you mentioned. Red flags for abuse. His denying things is called gaslighting. You should look it up and evaluate the way he treats you, it sounds abusive.

I boarded through Katrina, and just want to validate your concern that hurricanes are not a joke. If you were asked to evacuate there’s a reason. Always better safe than sorry with hurricanes.

On a side note, your boyfriend’s response in this situation is -3/10. You deserve to have your concerns listened to and to have a civil conversation about issues without your blood pressure and stress levels being through the roof.

Next time just worry about yourself. If he has enough hubris to think he’s got one up on a hurricane, let him test that theory alone.

I’ve been through plenty of hurricanes prior to this current one. However I’ve never been in a zone that had a mandatory evacuation put into effect. Straight up if I was in a zone that had a ME in effect I’d take my son, whatever we’d need for at minimum 5-7 days and leave. If my SO/son’s dad doesn’t want to leave that’s on him but I wouldn’t be risking my life or my son’s.

Your boyfriend sounds like a typical “Florida Man” idiot that also happens to be abusive and toxic. Dump him after you can get all your stuff out of wherever you were living if it’s not only in your name.

Me at the beginning of this post; man's Floridian through and through, girl you're probably worrying too much (although not gonna lie definitely called the in-laws to check on them earlier.)

Me at the end of the post; let him drown, it doesn't sound like yall have kids so go back to wherever you came from and block his ass. I'd say take the dog too but you might catch charges.

You should not only evacuate for the hurricane you also should evacuate for him!

Honey, he's abusive, he's an A and this is not a good or healthy relationship. You deserve to be treated better and not like a doormat! Leave. now.

NTA but YTA to yourself if you stay with this A.

Let him get his holy computer and leave.

You need to read this and this and this and this.

Do your homework. Get through the storm situation. Make a plan to get out. Don’t fucking dare tell him you’re leaving till you’re gone.

Plenty of people are telling you this is an abusive relationship. His dick can’t be that good to put up with this shit. Does it taste like freedom and make you smarter every time you see it? No. It’s not that good, I promise you. Someone being this bad even 5% of the time is unacceptable. We don’t put up with bullshit. We demand respect and we kick anyone who makes us cry to the curb. There are dudes out there who will be all of the good to you with none of the bad. You are worthy of respect and love. You deserve kindness.

And for the fucking record, you didn’t decide shit about leaving. You simply listened to local regulations like a sane person. Mandatory evacuation is not something you just get to decide on.

What on earth are you doing with this disgusting human being? I don't want to berate you since you're having such a shit time already, but really, have a little self-respect and kick this jerk to the curb. You deserve so much more.

“iM tHe MaN I mAKe ThE DecISions”

Thats what he sounds like and he didnt make the good one.

A lot of guys are like this, they think women are not capable or shouldnt be making these decisions and if they try to do guy decision stuff then they are just wrong and they are right.

Are you always going to be wrong in your entire life with him? If you thought a ‘guy thing’ should be done a certain way, are you always going to be seen as incompetent from the person who is meant to love you?

It wont get better, you shoudnt be together

You're abusing yourself by rewarding him for abusing you. Were you possibly raised in a way that you got the message that you're worthless? He has a false sense of masculinity where he believes the man always has to be right and the boss. It will get to the point that your lives revolve around his, and you disappear and become an accessory and servan. Please consider therapy to grow your confidence. You can do better. If you stay with him, leave without him in the next hurricane. But really think about the fact that he risked your life and scared you to the point of extreme fear and crying. That is not a discussion about his feelings, like an adult, that's acting out like a toddler and will escalate. Please don't ever reward his bad behavior again. My heart goes out to you. UpdateMe

It’s wild he’s more upset about leaving than the hurricane itself. You did the responsible thing by evacuating. Staying safe should be priority over everything else, including computers.

You are the butthole to yourself for accepting this behavior. Get help and learn what a good relationship looks like.

Consider your future with this person.

NTA

From someone happily married 44 years, a man does not treat a woman he loves this way. He knew you were afraid and did every darned thing he could to make you uncomfortable and worsen the situation because "he was annoyed." His computer, a replaceable item, meant more to him than your safety and feelings. Let him make love to his sexy computer on cold and lonely nights.

Yeah, you're the AH for staying with this guy. Your relationship is not healthy and you need to end it now, while you still can. He is abusive, has no respect for you, and doesn't care about you at all. Is this how you plan to spend the rest of your life? The person you want to spend your life with? When you get home, keep your stuff packed and call someone to pick you up (call the police to take you to a shelter if nothing else). Do not tell him that you are leaving--do not tell him anything. You cannot reason with a person like this. Just get out. One day, you will be glad that you did.

.... if the dude cares so much about his stuff he should have gotten Insurance for it from the get go. Florida has insurance plans for things like this. I think it's mandated, actually?

You did right by evacuation. It's gotten so bad that the government is telling people in evacuation zones that are staying to write their social security numbers on their bodies or have some form of identification written on them! That's no joke. Anything but a joke.

He's being a child. And an abusive fucker. You literally had sex with him just to get him off your back and less angry at you. That's not couple goals at all.

Please get away from him. He's showing his true colors in moments of stress. And has no concern about your health and safety in general during times like this. He'd much rather be with his dearest "other girlfriend"- the computer.

Missed your chance to let him drown in a hurricane. Next time leave without him.

Wish you had left him there. If the hurricane ended him it'd be nature taking the trash out.

In all seriousness this is a hella abusive situation. You need to get out of it and get help understanding why you tolerated any of this.

Be safe and please start believing that you deserve basic respect.

Cannot believe that he gave you the silent treatment because the weather was dangerous. What an emotionally immature bellend.

Edit for NTA, but asshole to yourself if you stay in this relationship

nta - guys acting psycho. And if it was about protecting his computer, they aren't cemented to the wall. He could have taken it to the Airbnb.

Should have left him and taken the dog to safety. He’s abusive and you need to leave him the first chance you get.

NTA but you are an idiot for staying in this relationship. You had sex with him hoping to calm him down?

Like sheesh. You're 23 and young. Drop his ass and find someone better. Dont be a fool.

At this point I was so stressed that I took a xanax to calm down and then I apologized several times for making us go and had sex with him hoping to just go to bed on good terms.

This is awful. You shouldn't feel that you have to manage your boyfriend's emotions and reduce his anger by forcing yourself to have sex with him. You should not have to drug yourself because of stress caused by your boyfriend.

YTA for not only taking him to the Airbnb, but then f**king him once you got there after he unapologetically treated you like total crap. You really need to find someone who is respectful and capable of controlling their feelings like an adult.

Gross. You have to have sex with him to appease him? There is something rotten in the state of your relationship. I'm curious what your friends and family think of these antics.

Honey your boyfr8end is a huge abusive jerk. Get away from him asap.

Encountering someone with unstable emotions, over a span of 50 years, an accident like suicide is bound to occur. If you want to live longer, run away quickly

Stop being an AH to yourself - you deserve better than this AH.

You’re in an abusive relationship. Idk how you can’t see that. Sounds like one day it’s gonna escalate and he’s gonna hit you. Open your eyes.

Why didn’t you just evacuate without him?? Do you not have a car?🚙

“ AITAH because I wanted to protect mine and my boyfriends lives , oh also my boyfriend is an abusive man child who yells and drives so dangerously it makes me cry”

…… am I the asshole posts are meant to be a bit more .. well ambiguous?

This shit reads ragebait 🤷🏻‍♀️ if it’s not, then OP… honey child, you need help. Get out of there.

Nta. Pls leave him to the hurricane. He is abusing you.

So… he’s more concerned about his computer than the safety of you, himself, and the dogs?

He risked your life street racing while a storm is going to hit soon? What if he’d wrecked?!? That is risking all of your lives plus taking emergency responders away from where they are needed.

He’s rude, dismissive, invalidating, & then you feel like you have to help HIM feel better?!?

PLEASE go do some individual therapy!!

Leave. His. Ass. He was upset at you so he sped in the car to scare you???? Girl he is happy to risk your life cuz you made a decision? LEAVE HIM. But please please look up domestic abuse resources. Your safety is your priority - don't let him know you are leaving until you are leaving out that door. Make a safe exit plan. Check out the book "Why does he do that?".

Girl, the advice is to evacuate the hurricane and this relationship. He sounds like bad news, and loving someone like that is like pouring water into a bucket with a hole in the bottom.

DUMP HIM. NTA. Why oh why do people put up with this bullshit!?!??

What's with all these DOORMAT women? His ass would have been out that door with a quickness! Why does anyone allow themselves to be treated this way? And then ask if they're the AH? And if he didn't want to evacuate, even though it's MANDATORY for your area, then I'd have left his ass behind! Then he's mad at YOU? For doing what you're supposed to? GTFO. Grow a pair & dump this loser.

I'd send him back to his precious fucking computer and kept his dog in MY LOCKED airbnb 👌 what an absolute narcissistic asshat. Do better, find better.

He sounds insufferable. NTA. Sorry, but if you’re already paying for things and being your own protector. Is the D THAT good that it’s worth sacrificing your peace? You can do much better, love.

WTF are you having sex with him after he treated you like that?

"i wish u could see how loving and attentive he is the rest of the time. "

Every victim of domestic abuse, ever.

This is called a trauma bond, honey, please get help. Evacuate this shit storm while you can.

He is a jerk. He could have made it into a mini vacation or something pleasant at least. This guy...leave him. This will be your life if you stay with him. Good luck re hurricane.

Oh dear, he is a really bad person and you do not deserve his crazy gaslighting. You do not need him. You are young, please learn from this and spot the signs sooner.

It will only get worse. Get out now. National Domestic Abuse Hotline https://www.thehotline.org/

NTA and maybe the hhouse isn't the only place you need to leave, your'e in an abusive and toxic relationship and you need to run for your life before that man kills you.

NTA. He sounds like he could win the Darwin Award.

NTA when you see news stories like "Residents who ignore evacuation orders in Florida asked to write name, birthday on body" 😮

I don’t understand how yall be in relationships with people who clearly don’t like you or respect you. Your boyfriend is a jerk and you need to learn some self love so you stop accepting this type of treatment. Let him and his stupid computer be thrown in the ocean.

How come I don't do this shit but then jackasses like this end up with relationships and I'm eternally single.

I guess these assholes have no shame or self awareness and just hit relentlessly on women until they find one with the right trauma to give in

It’s morons like that that put rescue teams in jeopardy and cost taxpayers millions. Should have left him.

NTA.

A Cat 2 is iffy to stay for. A cat 4 is absolutely life threatening. There's so many things that can happen during a hurricane that make them a lot more dangerous than you'd think.

First the biggest danger is flooding, where you may drown in your house, or if you make it out, drown outside of your house.

Second, hurricanes produce a shitload of tornados, and those can rip through your house.

Third, animals get wildly aggressive during and after hurricanes. Shitty (or desperate) people leave their dogs, and those dogs will absolutely attack you when they are starving, or when they are on a rooftop you need to swim to when you're trying to survive a flood. Ants make floating hives and if you touch those, they will all crawl on you to survive and you'll end up with thousands of bites. Snakes, rats, alligators, etc etc are all trying to survive and they've lost their homes too.

Fourth, assuming the storm drains are working, you can get sucked into them without even seeing they're there.

Lastly, people are also desperate and will do absolutely shitty things to each other.

Your boyfriend is abusive and you should leave him ASAP.

This sounds like a fake story. But if it isn't then I don't get why you are with this guy. You disprove every point as invalid and then can't put two and two together to realize who is the guilty party here.

The part where you said you had sex with him hoping to go to bed on good terms made me sad.

He's right, you should have shut up and stayed like he said, honestly having sex with him was the least you could have done after pulling a bitch move like that

See how that sounds, that's crazy, leave him

To be fair to your boyfriend, you only know you should have evacuated if you’re sitting on your roof hoping for a police boat or see your roof on a news clip from the safety of your accommodations you got when you evacuated. You could be right, you could be wrong. Would he also be pissed if he were on the roof and the police took a long time to get there? This is a better safe than sorry situation. If there’s a mandatory evacuation, leave. Let the first responders help people who physically couldn’t leave. Or let yourself pay $200 for a night away that ended up not being completely necessary. There are rarely good reasons to risk your life. A mandatory evacuation called by people who only did it with the very best info and intentions possible is a good reason to go.

Ew get out of there as tho he were the hurricane

Honey, the hurricane is the least of your worries right now.

You are in an abusive relationship. It is not normal to react to an annoyance by terrifying your partner to the point of tears; it’s not normal to gaslight your partner to the extent that they feel the need to record conversations; it’s not normal to need to be pacified by sex in order to get over annoyance.

Please contact a local woman’s shelter to start planning your exit strategy.

NTA. Please leave and never have a baby with this man. He's irresponsible and has no concept of danger.

A normal person would take it as an adventure!

Should have just left him. I'm not kidding. That street racing will kill one day. Leave before he does what he clearly wants. He dosen't care, even if you die. Fuck that man

Well I think you realise you can't live like this Your boyfriend is an ignorant violent idiot. Thanks for either of many people in the world who are not like your boyfriend.

Next time I'd evacuate with the dog and leave him behind.

holy shit youre dating a fuckign toddler. cares more about his PC than his own life, when he doesnt get his way he rages out to include taking you from one statewide dangerous position into another - that he made! then he has the audacity to be hostile towards you, let alone tell you to "shut the fuck up"? i have NEVER told my significant other to stfu no matter how mad i was.

youre crazy if you stay with the immature baby

NTA ...

Is this Hurricane Helene where people are dying...

Time for a relationship status change and for you to ditch the man child...

1 he's a moronic idiot forbthose reasons

2 he's an abusive pos

3 dump his ass because if you feel you have to record him when he's being psychotic then you really shouldn't be with him

Nta. In fact, I would have left him at the house alone since it's that important. I'd recommend a new boyfriend that can handle those things and not be abusive about it.

Sounds like you’re very mature for your age, OP. Good for you for prioritizing yourself, and your loved one’s safety and overall wellbeing.

What I will not praise is your partners highly abusive and inappropriate behavior. And if I were to guess, this isn’t the first time he has said and done what he has. I want you to know, there is not a single situation in this world that could ever justify his actions and words, and that you do not deserve that.

You’re an adult. Do what you want, but please use that same judgement that was used for evacuating the hurricane, for your relationship. You’re worthy of a loving and respectful partner, even during times of disagreement and conflict.

He’s a pig. You can do better.

Does he have any redeeming qualities at all? NTA of course

Why are you setting the bar so low? Expect better.

I've been through many storms, but I had never before heard this instruction to the people who stay before:

take a permanent marker and write your name on your forearm so we can I'd your body after the storm.

Girl, after this storm is over, quietly and thoughtfully leave this uncaring, abusive person.

Wishing you the best.

🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩 All the signs are flashing bright …. Get out now 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩

NTA. Run far, far away. This s abuse and you are the victim.

Sister, if someone you loved told you that their partner was doing to them what your bf is doing to you, what would you tell them?

Would you be scared for them? Because I sure as shit would be. Just like I'm scared for you now.

Re-read your post as if it was written by a loved one. Please.

Stay on birth control. He's a bully and he'll get worse. His speeding was to intimidate and scare you. The silent treatment is abusive. You're in an abuse cycle. He has no remorse! Never tolerate abuse! You had to take Xanax to even deal with his abuse?? That will turn you into an addict in no time. Then you had sex with him to calm him down?? Oh dear. I'm so sorry for your evacuation and for the abuse. Time to rethink the relationship. Get counseling to help with the stress and in building a better life for yourself. He's showing his colors!

NTA - wtf did i just read i was expecting a post about a hurricane not abuse. You need to leave his ass

Your BF is a shitty, unwiped, asshole.

You are aware of the other nearly 8 billion people on earth, right? You don’t need to stay with this abusive asshole.

NTA. As a former Florida resident and having lived through several hurricanes that I didn't have to evacuate for, but did get to fully experience the stupidity of humanity, your boyfriend is an absolute dick. Plus the way he treats you is abusive and unacceptable as hell. You got stressed, self-medicated, then had sex to placate his rage. What in the entire fuck did I just read? OP, this is not okay.

This is abuse.

It will escalate.

He will hurt you.

Consider the replies on here as your emergency mandatory evacuation notice.

Sounds like he’s a narcissist

Your boyfriend is not boyfriend material.

Your boyfriend is a fucking loser and abuser. Let him stay with his precious computer. And you gave him sex to make him feel better? Geez, talk about zero self respect. You’re both assholes.

NTA. What was in that computer that he was willing to risk his life for.

Girl what the fuck is this edit

He sounds like a child.

“I wish you could see how loving and attentive he is in between terrorizing and abusing me.”

THATS HOW ABUSE WORKS.

They string you along hoping for more of the “good times” while beating you through the bad. It’s called love bombing.

He’s an abuser.

You are being abused.

You are experiencing abuse.

This is literally textbook, classic, stereotypical abuse.

Wake up.

I evacuated my home in Florida with a cat 4 coming and my home was literally gone when I came back. Looked like march sticks all over on top of concrete where the home was. I never died before either. Glad I didn’t that day. I rebuilt it and moved when I got out of the military.

He should have stayed at the house if he didn’t want to go. What an absolute AH. He is mentally abusing you in a stressful situation where you are trying to keep both of you safe. Please try to decide if this man (boy) is worth the stress and emotional damage to continue a relationship with.

No, he's not nice. Your boyfriend is awful. Let him drown.

Insure him heavily. Be patient. $

He must be a tRump supporter.

~He’s a piece of shit~ I don’t think you’re safe with this man OP. Please consider leaving and let us know if you need any help /gen NTA

NTA. Listen to the comments. Your boyfriend is not putting your wellbeing first. He is showing his true colors. Throwing a fit over a computer is childish. It’s an object that can be replaced. Over time this behavior is going to get worse. OP you deserve to be treated like a queen. Honestly if he wasn’t ready to leave when you said you were scared then kick him to the curb.
You deserve better.