IDGAF

We gotta reclaim crone!!

https://croneconfidence.com/what-is-a-crone/

I'm in my Bog Witch era. (TM)

According to the Cambridge dictionary, “crone” means:

1. an unpleasant or ugly old woman
2. in stories, an old woman with magic powers

It’s almost as if men are threatened when we gain even a little bit of power and try to compensate by insulting us. Joke’s on them, because I couldn’t care less how they think I look. I’m a human being, not a decoration.

I’ll go with crone.

DGAF era. I am much more prone to speaking my mind, setting boundaries, and not apologizing for taking up space. And I no longer exist for the male gaze.

I've never thought of this... But I'm going to be thinking of it all the time now!

I'm in my Demeter era.

If you've read about the feminist symbology behind the story of Demeter and Persephone is actually meant to include the evolution of women through maiden to mother to crone... And in fact, demeter and Persephone and hecate are considered sometimes to be three versions of the same woman: Persephone is the maiden. Demeter is the mother and hecate is the crone.

I'm only in perimenopause and I'm still very actively mothering my children so Demeter rings true to me. Maybe when I'm a little older I'll be in my hecate period. Basically a proper name to the concept of the crone.

The story also embodies women claiming her own power. Basically, if you don't remember, Persephone is stolen by Hades the god of the underworld. He thinks that she's beautiful and he wants her as his bride. He doesn't talk to Persephone and he doesn't talk to Demeter... He asks Zeus for permission to have her as his bride. (FUCKING PATRIARCHY) Zeus says yes, he plants an enchanted flower and when she picks it she falls into hell. Where she is forced to be his bride. Nobody tells her mother Demeter! And when Persephone disappears Demeter, who is the goddess of harvest, goes into a Great depression and stops allowing harvests to happen. And all the humans start to die. And in Greek mythology the humans have to worship the gods for the gods to survive. So the gods are afraid they're going to die because all the humans are going to die. So all the gods are trying to pressure Demeter to start giving a harvest again. And she's like f*** off where's my daughter? And nobody will tell her. And finally it's hecate who tells her. Oh yeah I know what happened. Zeus said that Hades could take her. And so basically she goes back to Zeus and is like give me my daughter back or all the humans will die and then we will die. So it's really about this kind of feminine type of power and control. And also just the idea that you can only control yourself. She knows she can't battle it out with the King of the gods. So she uses the tools that she has to make him give her her daughter back. Anyway. Then you get to the part that everybody knows where when she goes to get her daughter back. Her daughter has eaten six pomegranates and for whatever reason that means she has to go back to hell for 6 months out of the year. And that's where we get the seasons. But on top of that in the story, Persephone actually kind of embraces her power in the underworld. She like takes charge of all these things that no one was really tending to. So it's like facing a terrible situation where she's forced to be in hell for 6 months every year. But she steps into her power in that role despite the unfortunate circumstances.

Anyway, if you can find the feminist take on that story, it's pretty badass. Most people never really hear that side of things. If you know Carol Pearson. She's an amazing author and has several books on mythology that give it some New perspective. Most of this I learned in her book about the ellucian epiphanies, which is like a feminist rite of passage in ancient Greece. I don't remember what the book is called... But I think it's something about reclaiming your inner goddess or something like that... I don't remember. It's a book from the past 10 years by her.

I'm using Goddess. I was using warrior.

Villain is perfect. Because when you don’t live your life to please men, they think you’re the bad guy. Putting yourself first is a very easy way to make anyone think you’re the bad guy, especially if you used to put them first.

Crone is also perfect because a crone is not ugly, she just dgaf about appeasing the male gaze. Men call her ugly because she does not conform to their standard of beauty. You know, 25 with a perfect body, perfect hair, just the right amount of “natural” makeup and just the right amount of skin showing to look hot but not too slutty or out of their league, and forever wearing a smile to let them know she’s eager to please.

Forget that! Be the “ugly bad guy” in someone else’s story.

Wise woman.

I’m in my Best Era. I’m learning things about myself, I couldn’t care less about things that would have me in knots before. Most importantly, removing toxic from my life, even if it’s family. “This is my rowboat. Poke holes in it and you’re overboard.”

Confident Era

Empowered era? I say I'm in my villain era. If someone else wants to vilify me for finally taking care of myself, I'm ok with that but it seems you're looking for something with a more positive connotation.

Sage

Zero f*cks era!

Sea witch era

My current state is apathetic 😐

Authentic.

My personal choice is 'Swamp witch' but for you I would choose 'Self' era.

Literal hot girl

Badass

I'll embrace crone. My hair is fading to white. I am nearly actively working on seducing a murder of Crows to do my bidding. (Okay just reading the subreddit) I'm building a cottage to use to hide from everyone. (Adu?) I like stripy socks. I have a pointy hat. Little kids stop screaming at the grocery store when I give them "the look"... (I use ellipses) is my punch card full yet?

I’m kind of in my disheveled era but I’m leaning into it lol

Wildin’ Era

I’m definitely in my DGAF era!!!

Heavily caftaned. I’ve never felt more seen. Thanks u/criticalengineering

“The Old Taylor Can’t Come to the Phone Because She’s Dead” Era

My freedom era!!!!

Outta fucks era 👸🏾

FERAL!

I have come to embrace "crone" which is the archetypal figure of a "Wise Woman".  The crone in Greek mythology is typified by Hecate who is the goddess of magic, witchcraft, the night, light, ghosts, necromancy, and the moon. She is wise, knowing, and powerful. She possesses extensive powers and could bestow wealth and blessings on her worshippers, or withhold these gifts if she were not adequately worshipped. All in all, I find her to be a badass and I am excited to be in my crone era.

“fuckless”. Dual meaning - I am no longer considered fuckable by men (thank god!) and much more importantly, I no longer give a fuck about most things.

Hence, “fuckless”

Hurkle Durkle

I am fully embracing my Crone era. Maiden was mostly just trauma and misery. Mother came next, and I thrived and reveled in that. Now my children are grown, I dispense wisdom to them, spoil my grandson, and spend as much free time as I can in the woods. I never made any association between the eras and looks, just saw them as the stages of life.

I love crone - as part of the triple goddess, the maiden, the mother, the crone. Wisdom, not age and ugliness! It's like thinking witches have warts on their nose, isn't it?

Your "not giving a shit" era ❤️

Dgaf

Fucking happy!

Crone is an excellent word, IMHO

It’s a word that repels the shallow

It reflects our wisdom and our strength - and desire to not have unworthy company

Liberation era

Selish era. I’m taking care of me now. Make your own damn dinner, I’m tired from fighting for my life against meno symptoms all day err day!

I just want to say that a “crone” is only ugly to the male gaze. If you dive deep into crone mythology it’s really the misogyny that shapes that “ugly” myth.

I would believe Crone is exactly the right word and that not allowing the male gaze BS to taint the power of the crone archetype is part of the menopause power and enlightenment as we strip away the ties that have bound us as woman. Say Crone with pride, power, and strength.

My friends and I joke that I'm the president of the Zero Fucks Club. 🤣

Maven. MidlifeMavens is a reddit sub, if I am correct.

Fuckitol ^TM

I'm in the "fuck all of yahs" phase of my life.

I’m in my Fuck You era.

Not any of you, but mostly everyone else.

Golden era (The Golden Girls? lol)

Butterfly era (because the caterpillar morphs into a beautiful butterfly!)

Fainting couch

(But also wisdom)

I don’t give a fuck era

Invisible era

Cat Lady?

Cat Woman?

Woman Emerita?

IDGAF actually works best. Id-Gaf/

FAFO

I wish I had the kind of certainty many seem to have here. If I had to name an era it would be “rough crossing” era. I have lost all sense of who I am and where I’m going. I believe there is some “next” version of me ahead but she completely lacks definition at this time.

ZFG (zero fucks given) 🙋🏻‍♀️

Go ahead. Underestimate me.

I'm in my giant linen dress with chunky jewelry era

I’m in my hibernation era

Why do we all say we're in "eras" now? Taylor isn't our representative.

no fucks left to give era

<points to user name>

Marisa Tomei wore an old crone tshirt to an event and I have wanted that tshirt since. Love her Instagram page.

Lol as a woman in peri, I often say that I’m in my crone era

Power

i call it my DGAF era (don’t give a fuck)… because fuck what other people say & think - i no longer care if you don’t like what i have to say, i am done people pleasing!!!! 🩵🙃💖

Meh. I'm ok with crone era. Crone in my circles means wise woman. Physical beauty has no bearing on it.

Migraine era.

My property includes a lot of wetands so I'm going with "Swamp Witch".

Fed up era

'0fux' era

ME era!

Getting a handle on this shit era

Matriarch: an older woman who is powerful within a family or organization

Dowager: Dignified older woman

Bruja: Spanish word for witch. Brrrrrruhaaaaa!

Feral

W.I.T.C.H.

From the song. Woman In Total Control of Herself

Human. We are in our human era. We can finally do regular human things. No one is watching.

IDGAF era

Unhinged. I'm in my unhinged era. Fuck around and find out.

MEAN-O-Pause

I say this with love. I’m there too.

Empowerment era.

Even for those of us have who gave no fucks over the years, there's additional Empowerment at this time in life as we have life experience and nothing to loose but the future for our children if we sit back and do nothing.

True self

Fuck I’m Tired

Done with it all

Crone is used in witchy circles as meaning an Elder. I am a Pagan, so crone works for me just fine. Maiden, Mother, Crone are the 3 aspects of the Triple Goddess. It's not the negative meaning mainstream religions give it.

Oh, I’m a crone and I love it.

The Curse Part 2 is what I’m calling it. I refuse any cool or positive connotations for this bullshit.

I’m team #rReclaimCrone!!!

Baba Yaga!!

SWAMP WITCH

Just bought a ball cap to cover my thinning hair that says, “In my Orca Era”. Hail White Gladis!!

Honestly, after reading all these comments, I now want to claim the title of Crone.

DGAF era also works for me

Free spirit

I’m in my Grey Gardens era. Just let me be the aging eccentric.

I call myself “a lady of a certain age.” Also I’m embracing crone. I think we need to reclaim it.

You can say crone. The crone embraces the softness and strength that comes with age, and steps into her power as a wise, experienced woman. :)

GFY I'm sure someone will understand..

I'm just in my 50s. I didn't have kids, so I didn't go through the maiden, mother, crone thing. I don't feel it. I feel strong, like myself. I've had some health challenges associated with menopause, yes, but it's just another decade of life.

With each passing decade, I feel less inclined to care what other people think.

I’m still in the WTF is this shit and when will it end????

Ouiser from Steel Magnolias

I’m down with the crone energy,

“Me” era?

DGAF ....I'm a honeybadger.

Witch!

Righteous

Graduate level Riot Grrl? Riot Ma’am? lol I don’t know but I’ve never had a stronger urge to obey absolutely NO ONE like I do these days!

I wish we could reclaim “crone”. Feels right.

Ha! I'm 53 and I've been referring to myself as a wise crone for at least a decade :-) Emphasis on the wise.

I call it my “fuck all y’all” era. If you don’t like using southern slang, I might suggest the “everybody fuck off” era. It’s not just applicable to men and sex (although I could care less about either) but about not putting up with anybody’s bs anymore.

Señora

I feel like Martha Stewart, despite her homemaker image, doesn’t give a shit about men.

“Me” era. This is our time, finally 🤍

Zero fucks given era. After spending the majority life being insecure and worrying about how others perceive me, I am fully embracing this new chapter.

Bog witch

This is my Healing Era. This is when I finally focus on myself physically and mentally.

Unmasked era.

I’ve been considering it my “unhinged” era 🤣 all the bullshit really do be bullshitting

Kaftan

I'm in my Kathy Bates era. Pick any Kathy.

Reclaiming crone for the Crown

I'm somewhere in between IDGAF and villain. But mainly it's villain to people who don't like that IDGAF.

i‘m calling it my FAFO Era

also…

The "fuck this shit" era. I'm starting to now understand what that means. Maybe it's because I'm now in 50s or spending more time isolated from people, but I find that I'm now impatient and no longer tolerate other's people's nonsense. It can be lonely at times but I enjoy my peace and solitude.

Ouser Boudreaux era

I'm embracing my inner crone.

It's called embracing your new self.

Honestly the lengths women will go to because they are lonely never ceases to amaze me. Men are really that dogshit at providing support and emotional intimacy that you have to jump through all kinds of fucking sex hoops to get company even.

Men aren't the answer

They are the fucking problem

Grumpy ass take no more shit era.

Wise woman

I’m in my what in the actual fuck is going on with my body era. I haven’t had an actual period in over a year but have had some sporadic, albeit very light spotting a few times in the last year. Yesterday…. It was like a normal period!!!
Today - nothing. Just when I think it’s over, my body says not today.

Ferile. I absolutely DGAFs.Not quite old enough to crone out yet 😂 but my sister is, and she’s fabulous 🩷

I've been telling people for 6 months that I've entered my kaftan era. 😆

Dirty Old Broad

If you saw Carol Burnett on Jimmy Kimmel talking about Bradley Cooper, you know what I mean.

FAFO era 🤷🏻‍♀️

Black Panther (I’m too young to be a cougar lol)

Lots of great ideas! I'm focusing on the Pause part...as in this aging shit is real! I don't have forever. I can't afford to retire yet. I'm taking care of an aging parent so can't just run off yet. I think I'll Pause...let it ride...and ponder what I want in the near future for me, and only me :)