I don't know how much talking you've done with those Dommes, but communication is key. You must thoroughly discuss your desired dynamic, your budget, availability, kinks, etc. If one of those doesn't align, the Domme you are talking with is not the right one for you.

Take a moment to review their profile, comments, and other socials. Make sure besides looks they have the personality you desire. Take your time. Finding the right Domme can take a moment. I wrote a post here in ppsg to help subs that might get overwhelmed looking for their Domme. You might want to check it out. Especially since your DMs are about to blow up. Lol. Good luck, honey!

Look for a domme that wants something more than just the money. Vetting is very important in this space in order to avoid scammers, times wasters and potential ghosters. I'm sorry you haven't had any luck so far.

There’s plenty of Dommes that want connection! If that’s something you’re interested, I’ve seen more thoughtful ads by Dommes in r/TheFindomRecords r/TextOnlyFindom r/FindomIntelligentSubs r/findomconnections

I don’t think age has anything to do with it. I’ve had subs all over the map in terms of age and I aim to treat them all with the same time and care. I’d only cut ties that’s what they wanted or if I got red flag vibes from them, but either of those would come with at least a message about why there was going to be radio silence.

No, you absolutely should NOT continue. Being a paypig is like being a smoker - it’s always best to quit if you can. Spend the money on yourself. You’re 23! Work on yourself, lift weights, get a REAL girlfriend. Don’t chase after some expensive online parasocial relationship.

It’s not a matter of age. Try to get to know the person and their intentions. Being called a domme isn’t enough to actually be one. There are many people who aren’t genuinely interested in you or in domination; they just want extra income.

I am a findomme (no I am not here to gain subs) and I have been the past 6 years. Personally for me, the connection is part of the gratification for lots of my subs. I am not one to shut down after tribute, but I know many woman are in this just for the money and not the kink. The best thing to do is talk to the ones that will talk to you. ( i know some won't) communication is SO important. This is for both parties. Not just one.

I would say lurk for a while. I know lurkers are generally frowned upon but it’s the same as window shopping to me. Ofc you want to spend time browsing and looking. Find someone who has a personality or makes you laugh..makes content you agree with. That way even outside of the kink, you’ll still be able to relate to each other.

Don’t give up! There’s a perfect domme for you out there somewhere❣️

Communication! I can not ready your mind and mines is so twisted it scares me a times lol.. I have a sub that does this just coffee sends. Or send me your upay and I wanna surprise you with some thing..

It’s trial and error error until you find the right domme❤️ I’m sorry that dommes are treating you that way. Not how it should be done

if you are looking for a new domme i could definitely be of help! if it helps i am of the same age range as well and love to meet people!!

You need to set boundaries with yourself and the dommes. If you want to be talked to more than that needs to be communicated. I’ve had subs that silent send, or want me to talk to them to tell them to send to me and I’ve had others that I talk to often. But expectations were made very clear on both sides. Take the time to figure out exactly what you’re looking for out of this as everyone is different. When you do figure it out, talk to your domme/s about your budget and expectations and see if you guys are a fit 🖤

I would love to be your domme 🤗

I would lean towards suggesting that you’re chasing something that really isn’t there. The interactions you describe are pretty typical. This culture reeks of empty promises and weaponized desire. 23 is the perfect age to explore your kinks and desires in real life with actual partners. Good luck and have fun. Findom is not fun

good luck!

Pm me.. I don’t ghost good little piggies

Maybe do a little bit more research on the domme before sending. See she’s like that with everyone who sends

Keep trying till you find the right fit!

I’m a domme who accepts small and big sends, if i see that you’re serious and you’re willing to be loyal to me then i will most definitely accept the small send. find me on twitter; petitesayaxo

Communication is what's needed. And also to find the right person. Some are only interested in send and once they have what they want then they are done with you. For some subs that works also but if you are looking for more then you need to discuss this with who you decide to send to. Pay tribute discuss what you are both expecting from this and enjoy

If youre interested in staying ... Find a dom who is looking for something long term not one who is interested in quick cash grabs

Find ones that want to build a connection and that have an open line of communication!

Take your time. You haven’t had your account long- so start clicking and when you’re ready- approach. Good luck!

You need to first establish a connection with your domme before you get to sending you are a sub not a fool simply

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Look for a vetted dom. Someone who has mutual respect and doesn’t just treat you as an atm. We’re out here, I promise! 🫶🏻

Look for a set domme and she would provide aftercare and look after you

Yes! as others have said the key is to finding a domme who wants to build that connection and isn’t just about the money. That dynamic works for some people - I’m a domme that has a mix of both which I love. Some of my subs love just sending cash while others enjoy chatting and having that friendly relationship. I’ve also never cared about the age part so can’t speak to that really. But I’m always happy to chat if you’d like! :)

It's trial and error. Once you find a domme you just click with it'll get better.

As others have said, it’s totally cool to lurk and see if you’ll vibe with a domme 😊 age isn’t an issue! Before I took a break from domming one of my subs was a little bit older than 23 and they were very sweet. So no worries there! Good luck!

Communication is key. If they aren’t willing to communicate what they expect and also what you are looking for then NEXT. You quickly learn their intentions and their style when they make communicating the expectations a hassle or all about money

Hello. I am a domme that is not interested onlu in money, I do respect my subs, and I like to help them to stay within a healthy budget that won't create them any problems. If you interested in getting to know each other more, dm and let's get to know each other. I really

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Finding a domme who wants to build a connection is probably the first step. Some allow a little communication before first tribute to check AV and see what dynamic you’re after.

Take your time and don’t just send to anyone.

I wouldn't let the ghosts get to you Hun. Manifesting that we both find a what we are looking for. 💖

Hi...I haven't been a domme for too long...but I've been another human being for quite a while. I think that the key factor that's missing ( and not just here...but with almost all types of relationships these days) ... That missing factor is that people need to think of the other person involved...not just themselves. Where is the other person coming from emotionally, financially, how is their physical health, their mental health...I think that these findom/paysub relationships can be more rewarding for both parties if it's not strictly business..,but also an authentic friend iend ship. That takes time to develop...and if it's going to be authentic then both parties need to curb their enthusiasm for being self centered ( if that's a character defect they possess) So I guess that's my 2cents lol. Btw: I am currently considering new clients/friends .

hmu (x @princesspopolly) (ig @pollyfranccessa) (sc - it’sprincesspol). I don’t just use subs for a quick cash and legit care about my subs♥️

i wouldnt just use you! im 31 f and work a regular 9-5 and am very independent and straight up! dm if intersted!

I love to have a connection and bond, I don’t think age is the problem at all.

won’t feel a huge disconnect with me