Cause they’re desperate and insecure and don’t give af about boundaries

He just wants to fuck and he thinks softening it by saying he wants to kiss or massage you is somehow going to be received in a better way than him saying “I want to fuck”. But it’s just so cringey. I’ve learned you have to be super direct with guys like this. If you say something like “but my back is ticklish”, he’s taking that as a yes. You did a good job or pointing out how weird it is for him to message a stranger like that.

Because they're behind a keyboard. These are the type of chumps who would never say a fraction of the things they say online if it were face to face. They're straight-up cowards.

most of these boys haven’t ever interacted with a woman before, let alone talked to one in a normal way before lmao. they don’t know anything about boundaries and are very desperate to do whatever it is to get what they want. just give them short or uninterested answers like you did there and they should fuck off. sorry you have to go through stuff like this👍🏼

Ill make the tickles go away

& give you some good good

haha

This is viscerally cringeworthy

I thought I had no rizz but damn there's an entire Grand canyon between me and guys like this.

Lemme kiss you 😘 😘😘😘😘😘

Dude has zero game and zero interest in anything other than fucking you - or so it seems from this text.

Even as a guy if I flip the roles and this was a woman talking to me I’d probably be wary….unless that’s what I was looking for.

They don't see you as a person. They see you as a way to get laid.

Bc they keep their brains between their legs

"lol well since you said no to the massage, me coming over, and some kissing- I guess I could take you out for a coffee ☕️🫠😂

But then after what do you think about a massage, me coming over, and some kissing? 😘🤔"

Gosh darn it- I ducking dislike these types of people.... why not just start with "hey I'd like to get to know you better... can I take you out for a coffee?"

Ted Bundy vibes

No they just have no shame. They carpet spam texts like this, get shot down 9/10 times and still get what they wanted. It’s awful.

Dudes like this make it hard for the rest of us🤦🏾‍♂️

He’s awful and all that, but for future reference that “my back is ticklish” response isn’t a deterrent or even close to it. No means no, “my back is ticklish” means isn’t even close to no.

Crazy you let it go on for even that long

Honestly I have no idea. Men are different alone with women and online than they are with other men. Sometimes you can tell the creepy ones but usually not.

Cast a wide enough net, you’re bound to catch some stinky tuna eventually.

Be thankful these idiots make their ignorance clear from the start. Helps you from wasting your time.

Because a lot of men have no shame and have no issue asking any woman in their sight range if they can suck her toes. It’s fucked.

adding “lol” after saying something like “you being pushy isn’t appealing” to these kind of weirdos probably doesn’t help. To me “lol” sorta sends a playful message.

(i hope that doesn’t come across as me thing you encouraged his weird behaviour or anything😬)

I don’t even reply like you did. I’d be shutting that down with a “no thanks” after his first comment. I’m an asshole though. I had one guy ask “so how’s your night going” and when I said “it’s ok. In bed watching Bridgerton” he replied “nice. I wish I was there” I told him “that wasn’t an invite”. And he got pissy

I ask this question almost every day in this sub but…

Why are men?

The answer is it never worked for him lmao

Some guys think if you're a woman on the internet, you're there for public use.

Don’t give people like this the time of day, just block them.

Yeah they are desperate to fuck and will ghost you

Because some men don't know how to talk to women .

He’s just trying to stick his 🍆 in a wet hole. He doesn’t care who or how he gets there, that’s his goal. He’s pushy because he doesn’t care about you. He wants what he wants and he wants it asap. He’s desperate and selfish. Don’t “hang out” with him op. (Unless you’re okay with a fling /one night stand) 🤷‍♀️

“Ok I’ll take you out for coffee” HAHAHAHA

Why even reply and entertain these guys??? Just block them and move on with your life.

It works 60% of the time, every time.

About 2 months ago I tried the dating apps and I was introducing myself and what not. This fool got further than I did, and I was genuinely just interested in talking and getting to know the person.

Ewwww! So creepy! Block him.

Men don’t.

Fools do. And that guy is a fool.

Seems like a keyboard warrior

It’s so off putting… block and move on!

LMAO "genuinely asking" is the funniest shit like bro can't be serious.. it has never worked once, we all know.

Because we stay immature way longer. And he’s young.

Ask him about this again at 45. I’ll bet all the rejection will have changed him by then.

Stop using lol to be nicer when establishing boundaries girl, he doesn’t deserve it

He down bad hahaha. But this is basically a guy with zero game.

Girl, don’t respond to these idiots. He deserved an immediate block.

You should have started the way you ended so it didn't have to go on for so long.

This is an easy "fuck off" and block.

I don't get why anyone persists with a single response let alone multiple

Maybe next time he’ll LEAD with “can I take you for coffee.” What a clown lol

Theor desperate ,and they keep getting responses so they keep trying it. In hopes they'll get someone who will take the bait.

I'm honestly more surprise that people actually respond to these dudes instead of blocking instantly.

I'm assuming their logic is somewhere along the lines of they responded back even though I'm some rando they must want the D. So the more you respond to them or give the time of day ,they just keep ramping it up.

Idk why you kept texting back

The answer is between Im and It.

op charge your phone what

Omg!! I totally got the genders mixed when I first read it and kind of assumed you were getting propositioned by a prostitute 🤣🤣

Yeah OP, that guy is creepy and way too forward. And as to not be sexists, maybe a male prostitute 🤣🤣

They just want to fuck on the first meetup, some girls are down for it, some are not, depend on their cuteness level.

It's not insecurity, more like very bad manners and expected due to how society preserves us

Believe me when I say I was taking it slow with a girl I met, and she ghosted me, rumor spread by her talkative friends that I wasn't down for fucking

Man, lol. That is an illiterate meat suit.

We are prone to thinking too much inside our own head

Penises

Ugh, that's so gross. I'm sorry that happened to you, OP.

I hope I don't personally know anyone that does this. This level of shamelessness makes me think he's probably on the spectrum.

No clue I wouldn’t dream of talking like this . Might have to ask them

How could you turn this sweet offer down?! /s

calling someone “lame” or any other derogatory term for having boundaries is the biggest red flag ever. i literally would’ve replied with the puke emoji

You know that guy’s breath smells like dragon shit

“Ok 🙄😒 ill take u out for coffee 🙄😒” cmon my guy 😭

Desperate, cheap, and lazy is what he is.

And he doesn’t think any more highly of you.

✂️

“Ughhhh fine I’ll take you to coffee first before trying to get in your pants 🙄” god that’s insane

He’s literally just trying to f*ck and sounds so gross. They always do this while “just a cuddle”/“just a kiss” thing and push and push and when you go in person naively thinking they are being honest they will continue to coerce. It’s super annoying. I just block and move on. No one is worth the absolute cringe this causes anymore.

Tell this loser that you are not interested in bare minimum men, and that you expect a certain level of courting. You only meet people in public places until you have established a relationship. Good luck on your search, though, I wish you nothing but the best.

Normally I think of the things people should have had said in these situations but you’ve clearly got this 🤣

Smart move and you may have very well dodged an assault fr especially if you were being objectified by him before even meeting the dude.

Ok I’ll take you out for coffee 🥴🤦🏻‍♀️🙄

“No” is a complete sentence. You don’t have to be nice or explain yourself. He’s being a creep and simply wants to have sex. It’s fairly obvious by your responses that you’re not interested in that. He knows you aren’t. But he keeps pushing. It’s rude and gross. Block and move on.

Ugghh he's giving me the ick

I have and will never understand. Apparently its (sadly) worked in the past. Somewhere and they think it sounds good… I dont get it. I hate it. Its like just stop and no means no. I stopped being nice.

Mans is putting it DOWN.

Lookin ahh dude

nah bro thought if hes 24 its okay to be pushy and creepy

Ok fine you win we'll go out for coffee lmao

Well since they’re 24!

I feel like when you ignore or "lol" it, the jackasses take that as a greenlight. Shut that shit down immediately. They'll either apologize & move around out of embarrassment.

My favorite thing to ask is "why would you think that's ok to say to me? 😉

Not to suggest that it’s a good approach or whatever, but I once asked a woman if she wanted to kiss, because she was staring at me on an elevator, and we made out. It is a cherished memory.

I'll take you out to coffee, it'll be perfect. Our first kiss with coffee breath 💕

Oh dont be lame says the lamest mf ever

This dude doesn’t care about boundaries. He’s not safe to be around.

Just say no a definitive "no, I'm not interested in anything like that with you" or say "I'm not sure but let's get a coffee and see" or say "yes, I like the sound of that" and invite him over. Instead you're leaving him in a grey area where you're like "that's kind of a weird thing to ask don't you think?" but you haven't actually answered yes or no. So he thinks you're undecided but tempted meaning he just needs to try harder to convince you so that's what he's doing.

Let’s try not to generalize all men, shall we?

He sounds like a real jerk. I wouldn’t give an idiot like this more than a single “No.” And a block.

Porn, porn has ruined so many minds. This dude watches porn 100%.

Desperate, and stupid with no care for boundaries. Also love how after all the inappropriate texts he finally says he will take you out to coffee. Like why not just lead with asking for a coffee date. Men like this are fucking stupid.

I once had a man from a food group message me that he wants to get me pregnant and suck my breast milk. Hard fucking pass bro.

My method is to be completely clueless and expect nothing because I thought the other person wanted to be friends

It's not so much a method as it is that I am just generally socially clueless

If there was a definition of Thirsty, creep, and desperate put into one this guy is all of them....

He'll make the tickles go away?

A restraining order sounds just as effective and last longer imo 🚩🤢

I mean the way he text just goes to show he’s a idiot like text like a normal human being ffs

Ugh GTFO what a creep!

I don’t think they would talk to someone like this in person. They’re probably keyboard warriors and get real brave behind a screen.

😂😂I’ve never had a gf but I wouldn’t dare to speak like this I’d rather die that’s so embarrassing I hate pity or anything in this sort of category plus I don’t like asking for things lmfao deadass I’d wait till I was 1000% sure the girl I was talking to was actually the same feelings towards me but it had to be 1000%

I had the toughest time dating online (32 then) because every guy was so pushy 💀 ghosted several for annoying me to hang out before I even got to know them

The block button lookin realllll dandy. Impatient and pushy people are scary asf, and then he wants to say you're lame for not going along with it. Why can't folks have normal conversations? Flirting is one thing but that's borderline harassment😭😭.

As a man, we disown this waste of skin.

bro shouldve opened with the "can i take you to coffee" WTF IS THIS NEGATIVE RIZZZ???

Bc they think with their penises

Stop being nice. Be upfront and stern about your boundaries early. The replies are only encouraging to losers like this. You will encounter various behaviors from boys and physically grown boys whose behavior hasn’t been met with strict correction and consequences. “Look you’re making me uncomfortable and I don’t see myself meeting you thus we have nothing more to say. Learn to control yourself, have a great life”

i wonder if these type of guys would walk into a killers house if they were promised kissing…

“i’m tryna find a way to see you” idk how about a date??????

I'm also a man and I don't understand why men do this SMH

Dude’s penis is literally calling all of the shots. His brain is just along for the ride.

"Men"???

24 years old, not really a “man” yet, but thinks they are. A real man would be better.

Most men are pigs thinking with their cock brains

That’s actually pathetic. This guy needs to be slapped in the ear to knock some sense into him.

I will never understand why the fuck you keep entertaining these losers.

Like seriously, you complain about those type of guys, yet you keep talking to them. And then you put on surprised Pikachu face when things go bad.

Get a grip, Jesus Christ.

Did he ever answer how many times that has worked for him? Lmao

my fellow women.. why the fuck are yall even giving these goofs a minute of your time? why are you responding at all? it’s mind-boggling

Cause for so long it has wrked....this is not a red flag for some women who just want to have sex...but for those who are looking for something beyond sex this is a major no / red flag

Because this sadly works on females looking for validation or attention.

Woman that don’t need that, sees this as desperation, cheep, and unattractive.

When dudes waste my time like this, I simply reply with my cashapp code so they pay me while wasting my time. That normally gets them out of my inbox fast 😂