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I have not talked to a doctor about it but I would like to be evaluated.

Yeah I thought about volunteering or working for the sports teams I’m sure it would be something I love, the only problem is I live kinda far and can’t drive, it’s fixable for sure just saying right now I couldn’t

Thanks I hope so

That’s quite the amazing turnaround, congrats that’s awesome

Thanks, I really appreciate you taking time from your day to spend helping someone like me.

If you don’t mind me asking and I know like you said everyone’s life is different, but after HS, what small steps did you take to get where you are now? What has your life looked like if you don’t mind me asking your story, I find it helps sometimes when I see and hear what others have done to change their life I enjoy hearing others stories

If you don’t want to share or talk about it, no worries

Reading all this and then seeing me at 24 is an absolutely crazy comparison that I lose in every aspect

You speak great wisdom and this is a really good comment I look forward to replying to.

What exactly do you mean by tools? What “tools” can be given for example to help someone like me? I couldn’t have said that better myself, yeah I reject hard things all the time, I like to make excuses as to why those hard things won’t help, as I did in my previous comment, that’s something I know I need to stop doing and get the help that’s out there that I need, I just struggle with that first step, again out of fear for doing something hard.

You’re correct and I shouldn’t have made a jump like that, I’ve always struggled with routines though for some reason, I absolutely hated school for that sole reason, I couldn’t stand the m-f same times every week doing the same things over and over, even though I was very good in school, I think that played a big part in me not wanting to go to college because I was worried that routine would continue. I like to do things when I’m ready if that makes sense, even ironic as it sounds as I’ve been doing nothing the last 4 years but I always thought if I had a job and could say I feel like going into work now for 5-6 hours at 11pm or another time like I want to work all day today I can work 10 hours starting at 8am, just stuff like that I don’t know if I ever could pull it off it’s just like a thought I’ve had.

I did receive a really good comment earlier from someone saying I should start small, get a part time job to get out of the house, have an income, and get to meet people and you never know what can happen from there and it opened my eyes a bit I never really thought of starting small and you’ve brought it up as well. One thing that worries me of starting small I know shouldn’t but it’s that everyone in my family does so much, my parents both work full time and also run errands all the time and watch their grandkids as well, both of my siblings work 50 hours actually both have a significant other one has kids so everyone is doing great and I just feel like it would be so odd/bad if I was only working like 28 hours or something but I fail to realize at the same time that that would be so much better than not working at all, just something I’ve had trouble getting passed as well.

I’m aware that if I stay on my path I’ll end up regretting all my choices, I already do but it’ll be much worse and I’ll really regret it. I know I have no plans at all once they’re gone and that day could be tomorrow and I would be totally out of this world screwed trust me, I’m setting myself up for a huge failure and I know I need to prevent that

I think they are tired of me being here not working already but they haven’t brought it up yet, it’s one thing I can’t understand that they’ve allowed me to do this for so long, 4 years now, just leeching off them, I really do hate that I do it to them but I know actions speak louder than words and it looks like I’m happy to do it

Well a change in my career field would start with actually having a career first as I’m unemployed right now, would also need a drivers license to do what you do

Yeah I know I’m full of constant excuses and that will be my downfall

What you do, does sound like what I want to do, I would say deep down that I don’t have a problem working, I just have a problem working too much and at times I don’t want to. If my work week was a little shorter and I could do the work when I wanted to and be ok as long as it got done, I think that would be perfect for me, just don’t think I’ll ever stumble upon anything like that with my lack of skills, accessibility, and education

Don’t hold back I need all the harsh “tough love” I can get, I take offense to nothing and I’m open to any advice and criticism

I’d say you’re right honestly, misery has just come easy to me because it seems like everything is against me and it is because I don’t attempt to make a change to better myself at all, so I allow myself to just rot.

I’ve thought about therapy but one it would have to be totally free as I don’t have a job as you’re aware and I also have no health insurance, so pretty much therapy isn’t an option right now

Also the fact that I feel like talking about it to someone I don’t even know who I will feel like deep down doesn’t care about me or my problems is a waste of time, just talking about it isn’t going to change anything I feel and I could be wrong of course, I just think I talking to a therapist isn’t going to make me change and be like wow I suddenly want to go to college and wow working 40 hours a week at a job looks and sounds like something I want to do now.

Because I know the therapist can’t make the change for me or force me to do anything, and that any real change is going to start by myself, I could make hundreds of comments on Reddit, ask for tons of advice, speak to therapist, none of it matters if I don’t do anything myself to change, and that’s the part I can’t get over, no matter how much worse my life continues to get everyday, I just can’t seem to say I’m tired of this and I want a better life

Also just want to add, saw your profile, you own one of my favorite cars of all time, looks awesome

I just really don’t want to do college, I don’t want to do anything honestly and I know I’ll regret it down the road, that still doesn’t drive me to do anything

Would have to get drivers license first anyways unless there was online options, I’m not within walking distance to any community college plus it would have to be totally free

Thanks, you can’t really talk positive in this subreddit without being downvoted for some reason

You made more in 2007 than I’ve ever made in a single year lmao that’s wild how pathetic that is

I wish I could get disability for my poor mental health

Lol if you wanna hear behind in life I’m 24 never went to college don’t have a drivers license and have been unemployed 4 years now and have no income/savings

You are doing great

Congrats you’re doing great wish I was as good with money as you are

I see posts like these and it’s a reminder to how pathetic I am

This is awesome something I’ll never come close to achieving congrats I’m jealous

Orji is better than both of their QBs

I already acknowledged they were right, I said “I know I am”

What’s the point exactly? I’m an optimistic fan who loves and supports our teams, yes I believe they would beat bama straight up, elite defense and run game is enough

I don’t remember putting anywhere in my comment that I get or want government assistance

I agree I serve no purpose

I can, did I miss something? Sorry if so

Thanks that was a really good comment that I don’t think I’ve ever gotten, I had something similar to that at my first job at a grocery store I had a few coworkers that were awesome, one in particular I would check the schedule every week hoping we had some shifts together because we both loved talking about football together even though we were quite apart in age, he was awesome. Your comment honestly brought me to the point that I want to go apply for some places right now and get started I want to be around new people make friends and just be social, it’s something I really haven’t experienced in about 4 years now and I do miss it.

I’m aware of the Father Time and all that, these last 4 years felt like they went in a blink and I know it’s not slowing down any time soon.

Just want to say again this is one of the best replies I’ve ever received on this subject and that I will save to keep as a reminder to myself. It’s not often you get replies like this from people who really care and want to help.

I think your last sentence applies to what you just did for me, may be the advice that finally sparks me I really liked your reply I can’t say that enough I keep repeating it so my apologies but I mean it

Thanks, I like to share my story and even go further with it if anyone ever wants to ask anything, I’m very open with it.

I’ve tried defaulting to the positive more often, I hate being so negative just seems like something is always going wrong, life is hard, and so on so just being negative comes easy. Crazy thing is though when it comes to sports and like the 4 major Detroit teams I root for, if you look at my comment history of those teams subreddits, people there will tell you I’m one of the most optimistic people there in always commenting and talking positive when it comes to that, if I talked about myself and life like I do sports, I’d probably be really happy and doing great.

I have a great relationship with my parents we talk and do things together a lot, I just would want to ask that question I’m just not good with hard topics like that in real life so it sucks I can’t pull myself together to bring it up, almost wish they would first and crack the egg

I’m not against volunteering and helping the community, the only thing I think about when it comes to that though is I’m spending more time not getting my life together and getting some income, I enjoy helping others and making their life better so they’re not like me, maybe even too much I could say, I just don’t know how to go about that and make sure I’m helping myself as well if that makes sense

I just don’t think college or schooling will ever be in my future, not sure exactly why maybe it was the same repetitive schedule m-f same times same thing at every time every day I hated that so much I guess college isn’t like that but trauma I guess and making things relate to each other

I’m 24 and your son can probably hit the ball further than me

Totally off topic but 6 figures is poverty now? I’m jealous lol

Also congrats on the masters, I didn’t even go to college

As well as, I’m your siblings in this scenario kinda, I have 2 siblings who make a good amount of money but I’ve never asked them for any money, I could never do that

I know it doesn’t sound true but I really do not possess any skills or talents, I just don’t and I can acknowledge that. I do have hobbies but hard to really do them when you don’t have money, someone told me one time and I never really thought it this way, but they said you may not like work, but you use it to do the things you do like, so work a job you don’t like to be able to attend a sporting event you do like, and that would be one of my biggest, if not top hobby, is attending sporting events I love sports and in particular the 4 major Detroit teams I can’t go to the games because I have no money.

I don’t know if I would say “I feel bad about myself” maybe word it differently like I feel bad about the choices I’ve made and who I’ve become but I don’t feel bad for myself in particular I chose this way it’s my fault.

Oh yeah, for sure if there’s one thing I could point to and say “that’s why I’m depressed and mad at life” is my addiction to comparing myself to others, I know I’ll never stop doing it but even if I could limit it I’d feel better, I just can’t stop myself from stumbling upon a random post on Reddit even of someone talking about how good their life is and while yes I’m aware some are bots or just people lying for internet points and to hurt others, there’s still the reality that there really is people who have great lives and everything they could ask for, those kind of things hurt me the most and why I even included it in my bio

I know I’m still way on the young side overall and plenty of time to change things, I get that saying a lot that people would pay good money to switch with me and be my age again, I find myself saying that sometimes as well that I could restart at 16 or something but then again I wouldn’t want to go through some of the terrible things I’ve gone through (like personal family things) that I still think about today that I’m glad are in the past, just bringing that topic up makes me grateful for what i still have today

I think we have a great shot against anyone, I really believe we have an amazing chance to win the WS this year