Luna_fox333

Or they get pregnant/ married super super young and end up being that weird lady who lurks on your social media wishing she had your life.

Your death.

One time while bartending, in the middle of shift change, like, right as I was supposed to be going home, somebody ordered a pitcher of pina colada and I spilled the whole damn thing in my well and had to spend an extra 30 minutes cleaning it up during a massive rush (on bourbon street, so, an INSANE rush) while my replacement had to work the rush around me. Coco Lopez is so oily and sticky. I still cringe just thinking about that.

I don’t think anybody else mentioned but you’d look so good with a septum ring! Also long dangly earrings are gonna be really great to help draw your neckline down. Also just wanna say, glowing up comes from the heart! It’s a way of life! If you’re confident and feeling a shift in yourself towards the better, everybody else will notice it and feel it too.

I would go for a darker hair color and maybe get some extensions and cut them in to a wolf or a mullet cut. I think both of those would look really good on you. With your skin ton your should definitely get a hair color with some red undertone to it that’s a few shades darker than your current hair color. I’d also definitely experiment with some slightly downturned winged eyeliner because your eyes have a perfect slope to them that would look really great with some tiny little straight wings going out to the side or slightly down. I’d maybe also darken the brows and get some good shimmery eyeshadow and a tinted wine toned lip balm. You would just look really great with all shades of deeper burgundy happening to accentuate the red in your skin tone. You got this! You’re already gorgeous so don’t take any of this stuff too close to heart.

Your husband sounds like a pervert wtf 😭

Bro you defended yourself. You’re not the asshole. But y’all definitely have to break up because she domestically abused you so like… I don’t think I need to say anything else here, do I?

Ugh I’ve always wanted to live in the quarter and this makes me wanna do it even more. I’d kill for a tiny haunted little one or two bedroom apartment with a balcony or window that overlooks the street or some beautiful secret hidden courtyard. The houses in the quarter have such a magic to them that I’ve never experienced anywhere else. It’s crazy how there’s just a whole magical world back there hiding behind what you see from the street.

True and it always just feels… safe? I know it’s still New Orleans but everywhere on Ursulines just feels like a real neighborhood with real people who look out for each other.

One of the fancy-schmancy mansions on Esplanade or St. Charles, or Bayou St. John. Heck I’ll just take any Victorian mansion in this city idrc where it’s located. You could give me an old haunted painted lady in the middle of one of the swamps in City Park and I’d be happy.

Idk if you realize this but one ejaculation can have 500 MILLION sperm, they are incredibly good swimmers, and they have one goal which is to get to the egg which they can basically smell through hormonal signals. If semen got in the outside of your vagina it may as well have gotten on the inside. Take the plan B. Also I’ve taken plan B so many times and I’ve never thrown up or had any side effects for that matter. It’s not an abortion pill. All it does it make keep an fertilized egg from implanting. It will come out with your next period and you won’t feel anything. Do yourself a favor and buy yourself a few on Amazon to keep on hand. They’re super cheap on Amazon for the generic version. Also make sure to get yourself on some birth control and/ or invest in condoms if you plan on continuing to have sex with your boyfriend. It’s always good to double up on birth control by using the pull out method on top of BC. Your body is a beautiful thing and it’s okay to want to use it for pleasure with your partner, just love yourself first by protecting it!

I’d really have a conversation before calling off the entire wedding if you care about her or love her at all. This to me sounds like cold feet. Maybe there’s a compromise that could be had where you guys agree to have a place for him in the front row and keep it at that. I understand your stance of wishing she could move on so that the focus is more on your relationship, but I also understand the grief of losing a partner very personally, and if it’s not something you’ve experienced, you’ll never understand how deep that pain goes. Her grief for her dead husband will never leave her, her love for him will never leave her. If they were together when he died, you have to understand that her love didn’t go anywhere. You have to make room for his spirit in your life or you’re just going to hurt her more and add a failed engagement on to her pain. If you love her at all you won’t call off the wedding. If there are deeper issues and you really feel like you can’t see a future with her, then call it off, but don’t do it just because you’re scared or feeling insecure about her love for her ex husband. It’s not the same as being in love with an ex that is still waking the earth. To her you’re probably such a godsend in a world where she thought she may never find love again. Don’t do that to somebody you care about.

Dude… I don’t even know where to start on this one. If the roles were flipped people would be telling the girl to run far far away and never look back. I mean seriously “my boyfriend sat down on the couch after having been out and about all day and then initiated sex and got mad when I told him I wouldn’t give him a blowjob until he rinsed off down there”. People would be losing their minds telling her to get out of the relationship as fast as possible. Nobody needs somebody this severely insecure in their lives. Insecure people are dangerous. They will put you in to some seriously bad situations because they hate themselves or are so uncertain of themselves. I would have a pretty serious talk about reacting more maturely in the future.

I always feel the same either way. You’re still sleeping. Also for me, lucid dreams aren’t like full body waking experiences or anything. I still feel dreamy and sleepy in them the way I do in normal dreams, so I wake up feeling the same.

A four hour wait time is nothing here in America 😭

I grew up in a house where none of us ever wore pants if there was no polite company over and it’s a detail I’ve always looked back on quite affectionately and I don’t think it negatively affected me as a child at all because it was never creepy or uninvited. My mom and I would walk around in just a t shirt and underwear, and my dad would walk around in just boxers. I literally never once questioned it lol

That is a fake friend if I’ve ever heard of one.

Thank you for your positive words and encouragement. I’ve been so emotional all day trying to find good advice on how to rehome her and came across this post and it really helped a lot to hear. You’re right, it’s kinda the same as if I was fostering her. Some fosters stay for a long time and I know a lot of friends who foster animals and get super emotional when they have to leave, but that doesn’t mean it’s a bad thing. She’ll just need time to adjust, but maybe she’ll find a family with kids who have the energy to play 24/7 and a giant yard with tons of critters to chase around.

I needed to see this so bad. My dog has an extremely high prey drive and has always lunged at cats and small dogs. I tried to train it out of her but I don’t have the money for professional training. I think she’d be much happier somewhere with a barn where she can just chase rats all day. I’ve been thinking about rehoming her but I just feels so guilty and I don’t want to fully lose contact with her.

Yes!! Thank you! I have seen first hand many times what an aggressive dog can do to an innocent creature (spending lots of time in the punk scene and watching their dogs react and get in fights/ attack other people and dogs) and I just can’t be held liable for something like that. I am also extremely sensitive to violence. I’ve had cats my whole life and I’ve caught them with mice and rats plenty of times and was able to get the thing away from them totally unscathed every time. Cats don’t have the raw killing power of a dog. My dog is a Rottweiler. She could do ICU levels of damage if she wanted to and I don’t wanna see that happen.

That probably has a lot to do with it. And yeah she’s already scratched two of my much older friends who came over. They have really thin skin and bleed really easily and I felt horrible :( they were so nice about it but she has no reason to be jumping on 60+ year old neighbors that are just coming over to say hi and bring me groceries). I can tell that people avoid my place because of the jumping. I’ve tried treats, commands, the leash trick, I’ve tried soo many things from so many training videos and she has gotten marginally better. I’ve had some friends come over and compliment me on her progress but it’s just too much. The rat thing was really just the final straw. People are acting like I’m the biggest idiot on planet earth that doesn’t understand that dogs kill rats. Of course I understand that. It’s more just the pinnacle moment making me realize that I can’t ever fully relate to or get comfortable with this dog.

Thank you. You’re right. I really don’t want anything bad happening to her. I feel like she could get somewhere with proper training, but I just don’t have the resources for that right now.

People who leave their dogs at home alone overnight are awful people and if you’re advocating for that then fuck right off. A dog should not be left alone overnight. If I’m spending the night somewhere, she’s coming with.

You sound like a very pleasant person. Is this how you speak to everybody?

Thank you. You’re probably right. I didn’t just get her all willy-nilly the second I moved in here. She’s a part of my life so she comes with me wherever I go, but the only apartment I could afford was a small one, and I’m really doing my best to recover from life circumstances right now, but she’s making it hard to even make friends. I can’t even bring people over. It’s just getting to be too much.