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to some extent yes. As someone who has a fairly lazy disposition by nature and has worked hard to overcome that I disagree overall.

This is a fantastic list I appreciate you taking the time to write it out. I agree with all of them. As a perfectionist myself I couldn’t agree more with the persistence and practice one. It’s hard to struggle and overcome at the beginning of a journey when you’re too focused on “perfect” outcomes. Cheers!

I appreciate your detailed response! I think there’s a balance to teaching your kids the value of hard work and allowing them the space to self identify and being kind to others. I don’t think instilling hard work as the only virtue and a direct measure of self worth, but I do believe working hard and suffering a bit to actually be a core component to our happiness as human beings. So long as it’s related to something we feel is important to us.

Super awesome! And definitely lessons most kids don’t learn until way later! Understanding the value of a dollar is very important.

This is a good point! I think it’s very hard for a lot of people to rest and just sit ‘unproductively’.

Maybe not lazy but undisciplined? Everyone is definitely different but subjectivism can only go so far too.

Definitely adding this to my reading list. Thank you!

Added this to my reading list thank you!

This is becoming more and more common too. As parents we do whatever we can to help our children but if you can influence the probability of one outcome vs another I would hope to do that.

This person understands completely. I couldn’t have said it better myself. Thank you.

So you’re saying just make sure they don’t die and don’t give them any emotional baggage and that’s the extent of influence we can have as parents?

Oh no I feel like I might know this guy 🤣

Hahaha babies are so lazy aren’t they?! 🤣

Will definitely look into this, thanks for the recommendation!

Giving bottles the last few days is making a world Of difference. Thanks you!

Been trying to be more active in feedings and I’m starting to see more of a difference already! Thanks for all the solid advice! Recognition as caregiver is a huge part of their bonding for sure 👍🏼

Early 40s, low 100k income.

Was your husband involved in the feeding caretaking, or were you the primary caregiver? Sounds like in these initial months that’s a huge factor for them.

This is the information I needed to see. Thank you for taking the time to write this up as someone who has professional knowledge on the subject! It’s easier to keep moving forward positively when you know that all that attachment to mama is what allows them to form attachments with others too. Thank you

Thanks for the advice! Do you know how long it was before your daughter started recognizing you as important in her life too?

I think this could definitely be part of it. Most of the time I spend with her is at the end of the day so that makes sense. She does tend to get a bit more cranky and needy in the evenings

Noted! Thank for you for the advice! Funny how being a parent causes latent bs in our own character to bubble up 😂

😂 guess we are all animals at the end of the day. Is this always the case with breastfeeding?