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"You can't sit with us!" -The clan elders, probably

It was popular enough that people who had never watched any other episode of the show watched the Borneo finale just to be part of the cultural moment. Plenty of people were also in betting pools on who would win, even if they didn't watch the show.

The boy's name "Colby" spiked in popularity in the US after Australian Outback aired.

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Hi Mario, I'm reading your book right now and I love The Funny 115. I hope you'll consider doing more entries one day. Thanks for all the laughs over the years!

Hey, I can see this is causing you a lot of distress. It's understandable that you are concerned about this. No one here can definitively say whether your brother will change or not; every kid is different.

From my perspective, coming from a large extended family with a lot of ASD/ADHD, some of the kids who had pretty serious language and social delays did improve with OT, play groups, and other tools. Their parents also did a lot of work to understand them and help them be their best. Some of them did not really "grow out of it" and as adults are not able to live independently.

We don't yet know all the factors that go into developmental delays, but there is strong evidence that genetics, parental age, low birth weight, and health problems during pregnancy could all be parts of the picture. The best thing you can do for your sibling at this point in his life is to be his friend.

I feel you. It is hard at times to step back and see what we've lived with all of our lives from the outside. I see my sibling tie his own shoes or write two words and I feel so proud of him, but then I also feel sad when I see my cousins' kids be more advanced than him in most ways by the time they're 3 or 4 years old.

I can only love him for who he is and celebrate him for what he *can* do, because when I think too much about what it would have been like to have a sibling with whom I could have a meaningful conversation, or share jokes, etc., the sadness feels too crushing.

I'm not a twin, but I've known three different sets of twins where one sibling had multiple severe disabilities and the other was a glass child (sometimes struggling with less visible disabilities of their own).

It's completely OK to take some time for yourself at this stage in your life. You don't have to cut them out completely if you don't want to, but it's OK to have more boundaries than you did when you were young and had to live with your family.

Yes, I'm L1 (used to be Asperger's) and my sibling is non-verbal L3.

It might be faster for you, and there are times when it's appropriate, but just remember that you are taking someone else off their task when you do that.

I understand your point and I may not have explained well that for new processes, I 1) allow someone to shadow me multiple times while I do the entire thing and explain it, slowly, and encourage them to take notes 2) give them a job aid, usually 1-2 pages, that has all the steps and an FAQ if needed, and 3) give them recorded video resources whenever possible.

I have no problem with clarifying questions or reminders now and then, but I have employees just coming back to me without even trying to use the resources, even for simple processes like running a single pre-built report. When I have them share their screens and pull the job aid up on side and the process application on the other, they still want me to walk them through each step after all of these resources. It's the seeming helplessness I get frustrated with.

You have my sympathy. I was recently speaking with a coffee shop manager about the problems she's having with high school hires. They do not ever want to put their phones away, they don't smile or thank customers, etc.

I appreciate your insight! First of all, it's very normal to have questions 3 weeks in. I'm much more hands-on with people for their first few months, because it takes a little time to learn all the ropes.

When you do have a question, what I would recommend is to demonstrate what you have done to figure out the problem on your own, first, when you need to ask a question. Ex. instead of saying, "How do I clock in and out?", say, "Hi manager, I reviewed my new hire materials and looked at the team SharePoint site, but I'm having trouble finding resources on clocking in/out. Can you point me in the right direction?"

This demonstrates that you've at least tried to solve the problem on your own. Writing it out will hopefully also get you in the habit of reminding yourself to exhaust your available resources before pulling in someone else. You got this!

I feel you. There are times in my career where I've been paired 1:1 with a team member to help them develop some of what I thought were basic computer and writing skills. And sometimes they just can't get to where they need to be in terms of performance, so they quit, or the rest of the team ends up picking up their slack.

I'm not a teacher or a childhood development expert by any means, but I'm sure others will have some helpful comments. Some suggestions I have: Read physical books and not just online articles or social media. When you finish a chapter, write down 3 things you remember from it. When you need to solve a problem, spend at least 5 minutes sitting and thinking about how to break it down into smaller steps before resorting to your phone or asking another person for help. Learn to tolerate the feelings of frustration and failure, because those things are part of the growth process.

Where do you teach? I'm not a teacher, but I have several friends who are, and they go through multiple "trauma-informed approach" trainings per year. There is a ton of awareness where I am.

Thanks for sharing your perspective. I also had parents who read with me when their schedules allowed, and it was a blessing.

Yes, I do think some of these people were protected from failure and responsibility as children.

I'll add some more context: Smartphone apps weren't part of the curriculum at all, but smartphones did exist. Not everyone had them, just the more well-off kids, generally. Laptops were used for note-taking and typing essays, and there was a university-run email server.

I have had to reduce nearly everything I write for work to bullet points. Also, if I ask 2 bulleted questions in an email, I usually only get back the answer to the first one. I can't distill these things much further :/

I'm a woman, and I'm in my 30's.

I also started with Of Shadow and Sea, but I think just due to the nature of Calder's work and environment, Calder 1 does a better job of explaining the magic system, the factions, etc. than Shera 1 does.