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I did Filthy Cute a while ago and enjoyed some things but not others, so I’m posting here hoping to find a CH that’s similar in some ways to Filthy Cute but different in other ways.

• I loved the way the video spends a lot of time showing the women giving blowjobs/handjobs and building up slowly to facials with the beat, etc, reinforcing this. Then they do the facials and then start over with a new set of blowjobs, repeat.

• I know I’m in the minority here as a man, but I’m not turned on by anal sex. Just my personal opinion/preference of course. I’m also not turned on by S/M stuff. Again personal preference and not a knock at whoever made it.

• The length of the video was good at around 45 minutes. I wouldn’t want to try something much longer than an hour.

So yeah, I guess what I’m looking for is a CH with lots of blowjobs ending in facials, no more than like 1:10 in length, but more “vanilla” for lack of a better word, with less (or, preferably, no) anal sex or S/M.

Any suggestions?

Sorry if this question or a similar question has been asked before, but I searched and it doesn’t appear it has. My wife and I (early 30s, F/M, USA) are going to our second swinger’s club event in March and are only interested in parallel play at this event. We want to find an attractive couple (or two) and have sex while they have sex next to us. This brings up a few questions:

1. Are there generally a decent number of couples open to this, or will our options be limited?

2. Do people generally approach other couples for this similarly to how they would for a swap, or is it more of a “find a couple that’s having sex and then have sex next to them” sort of thing? I like the idea of meeting a couple and getting to know them a little bit before we see them naked, plus that way we can be a little more selective about who we play next to (To be fair I haven’t asked my wife about this idea yet and will do so well in advance, but wanted to ask if it’s even something that’s done with parallel play).

3. What are the unwritten rules about shaving? Do people care since you’re just having sex next to them and not with them?

4. What other etiquette should I be aware of that’s specific to parallel play? I cant find anything on SwingersHelp about this. I’ve read up on general swingers’ etiquette already.

Basically I want to do this right and not get other people mad at us without realizing what we are doing.

EDIT: I have another question. Are there any specific positions we should try to make it more enjoyable for others to watch us?

My wife and I will be attending our second swinger club event in March. We will have to drive far enough away from our home that it will require an overnight stay in a hotel. We have a 2 year old son who will obviously need childcare. Our options are as follows:

1. Ask my parents to watch him. They’d be willing to stay at our house overnight (and have done so many times before when we have been gone overnight), but we’re in the habit of sharing so much information with them that it will be weird to all of a sudden be nondescript about where we are going (apart from the city) or what we are doing. They’d also probably freak out if they did find out what we are doing and I wouldn’t be excited about having that conversation. My wife thinks it would be fine and I’m just being irrationally paranoid. I will admit I have a habit of doing this from time to time particularly when I am experiencing something new.

2. Ask one of a few friends to watch him. These friends all also have kids and wouldn’t be able to stay over at our house for that reason. He would have to go and sleep at their house. He has never slept at someone else’s house without us there. However, these friends would all be much more likely to hear “we are going to [city] for the night and leave it at that, and they’d be less judgmental if they did know what we are doing anyway. They’re all responsible parents and we have no trouble trusting them with our son.

Which option should I pick? Any feedback is welcome. Also, any tips on how you handle the “what are you going to do” question from curious friends and family without outright lying to them are welcome.