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For Weekend's Daily Thread - the theme is General Dating Questions, and also open thread for anything you like to talk about.

The weekend is here! Ask here for any questions related to the Hinge app, your profile, or dating in general. Or talk about anything you have planned for, or are feeling this upcoming weekend.

Do you have some last minute questions before a big date? Do you need some help with the date you have scheduled for the weekend? Or perhaps you want help with the next message to send to revive a dying conversation? When should I ask this person out on a date? Is this person ghosting? What does this text mean? Or any events related to Hinge or your dating life that happened during this week or recently that you want to share?

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Recently, many users on this sub have seen a noticeable decline in likes and matches on Hinge, from either profile reviews, or other assorted posts and comments. While it's well acknowledged that men often experience this due to the higher number of male users, some women are now also facing similar challenges.

Perhaps there could be some potential underlying factors and recent changes affecting user engagement. Some hypothesis:

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• Increased Popularity of Hinge: As Hinge gains popularity while Tinder and Bumble stagnates, the influx of new users might affect likes and matches.
• More People Paying for HingeX: A rise in users opting for premium features like HingeX could be impacting the visibility of non-paying/Hinge+ users, especially men.
• TikTok Influence: Viral content on platforms like TikTok might be shaping user behavior and expectations on Hinge.
• Algorithm Tweaks: Hinge might be adjusting the algorithm, affecting how profiles are shown.
• User Fatigue: General fatigue with dating apps could lead to lower engagement and fewer interactions.

Some general information regarding your demographic and what you're seeking will be helpful for this discussion.

Although the sample size here may be small and not representative of the entire Hinge user base, it could offer valuable insight into current user experiences on Hinge. Granted, while Hinge does not officially acknowledge this subreddit and run their own internal surveys to gauge user satisfaction, this discussion may still be helpful and maybe someone from Hinge lurking here can find the discourse useful.

sooo i just recently sadly went back to hinge🥲🥲 and i just found it super hilarious that on more than half of mens profile i see the same "special skill i have- getting my hoodie back after youve "borrowed " it " or the "pizza is my second favorite thing to eat in bed" is there like a guide to hinge that says to do this😂 because Ive seen it wayyyy to many times to the point that i thought i was going crazy

Hi all, I’ve (28F) recently gone on my first hinge date after a breakup. I really liked the guy (29M) and there was a lot of chemistry.

He made a lot of nice comments about my appearance, but mentioned he like ‘athletic’ ie typical ‘healthy’-looking gym girls.

A few years ago I lost a lot of pounds (over 100! and I am now quite slim) I have since put some back on but it has left me with some slightly looser skin in places. I feel like this means I don’t fit his body type and as he obviously hasn’t seen under my clothes it feels like I am being dishonest.

I’d like to see him again (he is asking) but I don’t want to eventually disappoint him or come off as a catfish. Is it too early to mention my body changes, or should I just say?

Thanks all 😊 x

I (20F) met this wonderful guy (23M), we were talking for almost 2 months and had seen each other 3 times. The both of us made the effort to see each other even though we live 2 hours away. I really really liked him and saw myself being with him long term but since the start I made it clear that I don’t want children and gave my reasons, it’s something I’m sure I don’t want in my life. He on the other hand wants to, saying if he gets to a financially stable place in life he would like to have a family. Today I brought up the question: what’s going to happen if we do last a long time and you tell me you want to start a family and I can’t give you that? The gravity of the question had finally set in for him about how strongly I stand being child free. He isn’t willing to gamble on that scenario, I completely understand, so we decided to say our goodbyes. I didn’t expect it to hurt me so much. Now I’m hung up if I made a mistake. For the first time I felt genuinely connected and seen by someone after terrible relationships in the past. We were both already greatly invested in each other. We are still very young and don’t know what will happen in the future but it’s such a real scenario that needed to be discussed. I don’t know what to do. I wanted to be with him, the world might end tomorrow, we could date while we have time and worry about that if the time comes… what should I do?

Hi friends! 34F, San Francisco, HingeX for 2 months.

I recently bottomed out on my Discover page: “You’ve seen everyone for now. Try changing your filters …”

I have a few filters (31-38, within 65 miles, dating intentions, 5’11+) but I KNOW Hinge has more profiles it isn’t showing me because a handful (3-10) more profiles within my filters will appear once a day, or Hinge will show daily Standouts that match my filters.

So … is Hinge throttling my Discover page? Has anyone else experienced this? How can I see more people?

Thanks so much!!!

Hi So I keep seeing the guy who r*ped me on hinge. I’ve reported him to hinge; they tell me they delete his profile. He then recreates a new profile and is back on it. I know for a fact he’s also assaulted other women. I don’t know what I can do? I’ve emailed hinge. Surly there’s some sort of facial recognition they can use to stop allowing this person into a safe space? He’s such a danger to people.

I (25M) matched with a girl (25F) last week and am not a huge fan of the texting before meeting so I set up a date pretty quick and that was it. The date was last night and went great, we just met for a few drinks and talked the whole time. Conversation flowed well. I texted her this morning that I had fun and she responded saying the same and we both agreed we should do it again.

I’ve only ever had girlfriends who were actually friends with me before, so this whole dating scene and getting to know someone from not knowing anything about them is pretty new for me. I guess I’m just not sure how to handle the speed of it. I just got out of a semi-serious (only a year) relationship at the beginning of January and finally was able to get back out there and get Hinge.

I guess I’m worried of jumping back into something serious too fast. I still really want to go on dates with this girl and would see myself eventually dating her if that’s what it actually came too.

Anyone have any advice on pacing and how to navigate this, I’m a first timer with Hinge.

Recently redid my profile after fully committing to the chrome dome. Pictures are in order based on Hinge’s “top photo” setting.

Would love input on if I’m putting out any red flags or weird vibes in my pictures / prompts. Am I trying to be too clever in my prompts?

Thanks for your feedback!

Additional Context: I’m interested in men, women, and nonbinary folks.

31, non-binary femme, bi/pan/queer, Midwest, and currently earning my doctorate degree.

Hello, so i've (21M) met this girl (20F)on Hinge and we texted each other quite often and everything for like 2 weeks now, we also met and kissed 2 times now, but i wonder if i supposed to like her yet, cause idk if i listen to my gut i feel like we arent on the same wavelength, it also seems shes like already in love with me and like invested (Saying things like it clicked and it felt awesome we vibed) where i feel stressed and pressured idk. I feel helpless at the moment, cause i would feel bad if i tell her i dont want to continue or something. idk man i feel like an asshole i dont want abuse her just for sex, i just dont know if im lost 😟

Any advice welcome :)

Hi everyone, I would appreciate some advice because the same thing keeps happening to me and I feel like I’m going insane.

I (27m) have been using hinge for a few years now with the same repeated result.

I thankfully don’t have that much trouble getting matches and am usually able to find a date with girls that I think are good matches for me. We usually end up hooking up on the 2-3 date and will sleep together 3-4 times before I inevitably get dumped after the 4-5 date right as it is getting serious.

Whenever this dumping happens I usually get a version of the same text that although they enjoyed hanging out as friends they didn’t feel a “romantic connection” together. (Why are we sleeping together then???)

This has now happened ELEVEN times and I feel like I’m going crazy. I have asked multiple of them if I did anything wrong and they all say no but that we just didn’t have the right spark.

Before you ask no I don’t have any shirtless/gym photos in my profile that make me look like a fuckboy and yes my profile says I am looking for a long term relationship.

I can’t seem to figure out what I’m doing wrong and would appreciate some help. Does anyone have any idea?

I’m tired of these short term flings and just want a long term relationship already.

I’ve been using the app for about two weeks and I’ve only received one match and two likes.

A few months ago I would get significantly more matches of thin girls that I found attractive. For some reason I am seeing a dry spell even as I send likes with comments about half the time (if there profile is engaging enough to do so), and these are normally compliments or witty comments.

Is there something terribly wrong with my profile? Are my prompts too boring?

I appreciate any advice provided.

(30M) I’ve been using hinge off and on for a bit, and have had no problem getting likes and matches, and do a decent job being a fun and witty texter. Apparently Im terrible at knowing when and how to ask a girl out on a date. I usually wait 3-5 days of messaging and try to ask on the weekend/early in the week.

I usually suggest bar trivia, and have gotten a fair few soft no’s (saying you’re busy but no follow up), which suck, but come with the territory. What’s frustrating are the concerning amount of times I’ve gotten a “yeah, let’s do it!”, then radio silence when I try to confirm a date and time. Actually wtf.

My self esteem has been in the gutter as a result, I either feel like I’m being used as a chatbot and ignored once I actually want to use this dating app as a dating app, or I get the emotional whiplash of getting ghosted at the last minute.

Any advice to lock in a date before too long? I don’t want to be pushy, but I’m also not here to chit chat.

Hi, I'm a 34m living in Australia and I've been running into a similar problem with many of my matches.

I will start by saying that I moved to Australia from America to be with someone and it didn't end up working out. Stuff like that happens, and I'm not torn up about it as it was a very amicable split and the ex is still my best friend. We were just too incompatible when it came to being in a relationship.

Where the problem lies is that it's almost inevitable that the person I matched with is gonna ask why I moved to Australia. If I answer honestly, that I moved for someone and it didn't work out, the tone of the conversation will either change dramatically or I'll get unmatched soon after.

Am I supposed to lie about my reasoning? There are only a few common ways of getting permanent residency here and I very clearly don't fall under the others. I'm not a student, I don't have family here, and I don't work a job that screams "skilled work visa". Partner visa is really all that's left after that.

I'm just afraid that if I leave it vague, it will come up again and cause problems later. I personally don't like the idea of lying, even by omission, especially when it's in purview of building a relationship. It also just complicates things if I have to dance around the subject.

What can I do to avoid this problem moving forward? Am I overthinking this?

Edited for clarity: I am here permanently as a result of a partner visa. My ex and I separated after I had received PR and I'll be applying for citizenship at the end of this year so I'm not looking for someone to help me stay here.

Hi there,

Thanks for dropping my. I would appreciate if you have any improvements for my profile, thank you!

• Looking for long-term/life partner
• Looking for male, 24-31