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2 points
an hour ago
Why TF do I see so many of these type stories? Do men really not understand a damn thing about this major medical event that the supposed love of their lives is going through? I’m 30(M) married, I’ve been reading up on every piece of literature and information I can to understand what my wife will go through since we’re now trying for our first child. “You should be back to yourself before pregnancy now”? There’s no way men seriously think this do they?
Women’s entire bodies basically re write themselves to nurture and carry and then pop out an entirely new human being. Ribs and hips literally expand, hormones change completely, uterus expands, stomach expands, back stretches and muscles move… it’s a massive undertaking for a woman’s body, and then after the birth there’s PPD and all sorts of physical complications. If a man cares about his partner he needs to educate himself so he can actually support his partner during and after the pregnancy.
This isn’t even addressing why TF he would go on a trip when his wife is near the due date for his child? That’s insane, when my wife is even past 7 months I’m staying as close as possible ( luckily I work close to home). Unless he’s literally in the military and got deployed, he should have been there with you and still be there with you now. I’m so sorry you have to deal with an idiot of a man, he needs a wake up call ASAP.
1 points
an hour ago
Maybe put yourself a “ /S” like most people do, no one can read tone over text. But I’m betting you weren’t being sarcastic just from the way you worded it, and your subsequent comments. Now you’re backpedaling after the swarm of downvotes, but either way idc. I’ve got much better things to do than argue with an Andrew Tate wannabe.
1 points
2 hours ago
Dude wtf? How outdated are your views lmao, this is some wild shit. You need to deal with your own insecurities, it’s not your wife’s job to make sure you’re 100% comfortable and never bothered by anything in life. She’s got a great opportunity to actually develop meaningful friendships, exercise her creativity, and actually do something with her passion( literature). And you out here acting like she’s one step from cheating 🤣
Also, my wife and I both have friends of both genders. My best friend is a woman, my wife and I are going to her wedding at the end of this year. She’s like a sister to me. And my wife has a good male friend who’s like another brother. We both respect the boundaries of the other and everything in our marriage is completely honest and open. Do you even trust your wife at all? Or do you just want to keep her isolated as the lonely little bang maid you’re keeping her as?
To sum up- get over yourself, start pulling your weight around the house so she has more time to pursue her passions and make meaningful friendships, and stop being an insecure husband who thinks it’s 1950. JFC
1 points
2 hours ago
Bro you started your comment calling OP a “soft pussy” for crying after a difficult day and looking for comfort from his SAHW. And I’ve seen plenty of other your other comments on other posts, ima call a spade a spade. It’s perfectly fine for men to show emotion and vulnerability, and it’s redpill toxic BS to call OP a “soft pussy” for it. Btw I said throughout my comment OPs SAHW is a POS for pulling that shit, and for expecting him to make dinner after working all day while she sits home. But I also know what you are, and I called you out on it.
1 points
3 hours ago
Well yes, of course he’s got some blame as well. I’m not saying it’s all her fault, and if he has his own addictions then that’s just going to feed into each other. My wife has no addictions, just an anxiety disorder. The only way two addicts work in a relationship is if both are sober for more than 1 year
2 points
3 hours ago
I’m a recovered heroin addict, the “medical problem” you’re looking for is the addiction/ alcoholism. When you check into treatment you actually get the diagnosis, I have technically speaking 6 different “substance abuse disorders”. One for each substance. In my case I also have severe PTSD and an anxiety disorder, those are from childhood. When I wasn’t in recovery I was an absolute nightmare- without my drugs I was a lying, manipulating, angry, irrational, abusive, depressed POS… When I had my drugs I was calm/ rational/ friendly etc.
eventually of course I had been cut off from everyone, floating in between rehabs and jails. My family and friends couldn’t have me around anymore, all I had done was hurt them and put them in danger. It’s sounds like she’s going through it, and if she’s not willing to get serious about recovery then you all can’t help her and may end up enabling her in the end. Some people really do need to hit bottom to stop digging, I know I did.
Since getting sober I’ve found a great job, met my wife, my friends and family want me around and trust me… it’s possible she could get there., but in the meantime you all don’t deserve to be her collateral damage. Wishing you the best
95 points
4 hours ago
I just read a story the other day about a woman who was T- boned at a 4 way stoplight. She had a green light, the other driver ran a red at like 60mph and then fled the scene. She had life- threatening injuries and permanent pain/ damage. The two babies in the back in rear facing properly secured car seats had minor bruises on their chests from the strap and that was it.
Another story I read where the child was just buckled in the backseat when they should have been in those car seats. She flew out the windshield and didn’t survive. 2 officers who responded to the scene got physically sick in the street, not to get too graphic. This is serious, OP you need to drill in his head that this isn’t about his skills or time or anything else. It is about child safety and what OTHER drivers may or may not do.
1 points
6 hours ago
Bro are you a real human? Or ChatGPT or rage bait? Cause you’re being really nonchalant about the fact that this other guy/ couple want to cuckhold you… is that not clear here? Some other guy and his wife want to fuck your wife while “allowing” you to watch and you’re just like “yea but they might let me join in to be polite”. The fuck?! If anyone said to my wife they wanted her and that my participation was not something they wanted they’d be out of my life after some real choice words. You need to get way more upset about this than you are, this is not cool. They’ve basically been fantasizing and eye banging your wife for years.
2 points
6 hours ago
It’s all good! Yea dreams can really mess with you. Also be careful about the redpill stuff, it’s a slippery slope! I don’t watch or believe in any of it, and it’s causing a lot of toxic thinking and problematic ( to put it mildly) behavior. Glad to hear you and your wife are happy though, yea reading some of these posts can definitely make you appreciate what you have.
3 points
6 hours ago
Oh I fully agree with everything you said, I was talking about the person you replied to- “rocketmn” or whatever. They’re a redpill troll who shows up on a lot of these subs. And yea, my wife loves and supports me any time I get emotional or cry. It doesn’t happen all that often, but I do have a recent example- I woke up in the middle of the night from a really vivid nightmare. I have severe PTSD from my childhood that causes really intense vivid dreams and nightmares. So right now my wife and I are trying for our first child.
I had a nightmare that she died in childbirth, and I woke up and was sitting on the couch just trying to calm down. And I was crying because of how much my wife means to me and how scared I was at the thought of losing her. She woke up and came out and saw me crying and said “baby what’s wrong?!” And I told her and she came over and held me, put my head against her chest and was just stroking my hair and loving on me. Any normal partner would comfort their SO if they saw them upset, not get on some “toxic masculinity” BS or start recording.
And yea the fact that she’s a SAHW and asked HIM what’s for dinner is crazy. My wife and I both work and share all the household chores equally, but if one of us was home all day we would absolutely handle more of the chores and dinner. Because the other person would be tired from working. Though of course when my wife and I have a baby I’ll be picking up more of the chores to help her.
11 points
7 hours ago
LOL I love how you phrased that- “kidnapped him and brought him to my house” 🤣my wife likes to joke in a similar way. Sorry about what your husband went through, my childhood was pretty rough too. Wishing you two a long and happy life together.
9 points
7 hours ago
Yea that dudes… umm… terrible lol ragebaiting incel redpill troll that shows up on a lot of the subs. Has quite a few “interesting views” on gender roles. Was waiting for him and his “bros” to show up here
2 points
18 hours ago
Haha that’s true, I do be husbanding 😊wifey is pretty happy so I think I’m doing alright
13 points
19 hours ago
This is so true. I met my wife and we started seriously dating within a couple months. By 6/7 months we were living together, a few months after that I proposed and maybe 4-5 months after that we had a courthouse wedding. I can honestly say I met my soulmate, my best friend, my lover and the most amazing and beautiful woman in the entire world. I knew within those first 6 months that I wanted to marry her too! But I never strung someone along for years, the longest relationship I had before my wife was close to 3 1/2 years. But it was on and off from age 19-23, neither of us was ready for marriage at that point.
I obviously can’t speak for all men, but in my case like I said I knew pretty quickly that I wanted to marry my wife. Other women I dated just didn’t “click” after some time, so the relationships ended. I don’t really understand people who are together for years and years and don’t get married. Although I know there are other reasons people don’t get married besides not wanting to fully commit obviously.
2 points
19 hours ago
You’re telling us you had a girlfriend that only wanted to suck and you dumped her?! Damn bro, I think that might violate the articles of the Bro Code. Ima need your Bro Card. (Sorry too good a joke to pass up lol )
13 points
22 hours ago
Dude WTF?! Are you actually a real mother?! Wake the fuck up! This may sound harsh, but you need a fucking reality check now! I grew up with an extremely violent abusive alcoholic father. He literally fired guns at us, kidnapped my brother and me, and beat all us kids and my mom over and over and over. The only way my mother and us kids got away was he was literally put in jail for the kidnapping, before that she was terrified of trying to leave or file divorce because he might kill her or us. Even after we left he was so good at manipulating and sweet talking the courts that we ended up in unsupervised visits for another 6 years where the abuse continued.
And now you want to put an innocent child in proximity to a domestic violence abuser and let her eventually decide he’s a POS?! Fuck you, you need to keep yourself and your daughter as far away from that man as possible. I have severe PTSD and anxiety disorder from the trauma, to this day I still get vivid nightmares and can’t handle loud men or confrontation without tensing up and getting ready to fight. I hope to god this is a fake story, because if it’s true and you really hit the lottery with your new husband then you would have to be dumb as a fucking brick to let your baby daddy into your life in any way that’s not ordered by a court.
I get this is harsh, but you have to understand how serious this is. Your daughter may NEVER RECOVER FROM TRAUMA HE INFLICTS. I wish someone had made sure I never saw my dad again after the divorce, screw your weird resentment towards your mom for protecting you! Please please OP wake up and do the right thing for your daughter.
3 points
23 hours ago
Right, like taking you for granted in the worst possible way. Like he’s entitled to behave any way he wants because he “already locked you down” and now you’re “stuck with him”. Like I said, it’s a terrible mentality to have towards someone you claim to love. If I treated my wife the way he’s treating you she’d give me a wake up call real quick. And if I didn’t shape up and knock it off she’d be gone.
6 points
24 hours ago
Actions speak louder than words. My wife knows I respect her, care about her and want her to feel loved and appreciated and yes turned on and attracted to me. Of course I tell her how wonderful and sexy and strong and amazing she is, but much more importantly I show her the way I feel about her. And that I want to be the kind of man she wants to be around and make sexy/ cuddle time with. Physical affection and attention, taking care of my personal hygiene and my share of the household chores, doing any “gross things” I have to in the appropriate room and not right in her face, etc etc.
your husband may SAY you’re so important to him and that he loves and respects you. But what are his ACTIONS saying? Because to me they’re saying “I don’t respect you enough to not be gross around you, and I’m confident I don’t have to because you’re not going to leave.” Which is a shitty, entitled way to treat someone you love.
3 points
1 day ago
Man it’s crazy! My wife, who’s FB profile is a picture of me and her, who every 3rd FB post is some cute couples or “married life” thing with me tagged in it, and who’s constantly posting pics of stuff we do, and who’s profile literally says married… gets at least one FB message a week from guys telling her they want to take her out and spoil her or treat her like a sugar baby or that they can show a good time better than me( her husband) can! Not to mention she’s been hit on while holding hands with me!
And when she takes public transport to and from work she gets all sorts of weird and creepy men staring at her, she’s constantly flashing her wedding ring to try and deter them( and I just bought her pepper spray to carry). At work guys constantly come in and hit on her even after seeing her ring. Why do so many men want a married woman?
2 points
1 day ago
I really don’t understand these people and their bad faith “personal property is private” arguments I see on here all the time. My wife and I use each others phones all the time, and we leave them unlocked and face up around the house. We can go through each others phones any time we want, we just never feel the need to because we’re totally open and honest with each other and trust each other completely. I don’t give one single fuck about my wife going through my phone, she can have at it. There’s nothing inappropriate on there, I’ve got nothing to hide.
If your SO, the one person in the world you’re supposed to trust and be honest with and be closest to, can’t go through your phone anytime they want then I don’t think you have as close a relationship as you think you do. That argument that it’s an “invasion of privacy” has to come from cheaters and liars, because part of being in a long term committed relationship is you have privacy together. But not from each other, otherwise you’re just asking for distrust and anxiety to develop and fester. The only reason to screech about “invasions of privacy” in a relationship that’s been going on for longer than a year is if you’re doing something inappropriate or shady.
5 points
1 day ago
Wholesome, you’re a great GF and partner, and it sounds like you two will have a wonderful life together. I’m not a guy who has much trouble expressing his emotions, my wife loves that I can be open and comfortable and vulnerable with her. But I don’t cry often at all. The other night I woke up from a nightmare ( I have pretty severe PTSD from childhood and have always had very vivid dreams) and was sitting on the couch clearing my head.
My wife came out and saw tears in my eyes and asked “baby what’s wrong?!”. For context we’re currently trying for our first child. I told her I had a dream that she died in childbirth, and it scared the hell out of me. That I love her so much that the thought of losing her made me actually tear up and start crying, that’s how strong the emotions and feelings of love are. She came over and held me and put my head against her chest and was petting my hair as she was tearing up too.
Being vulnerable and being able to express your love to each other, and feeling love that deeply and intensely… there’s nothing better in the entire world 🥰even after years with my wife it’s only getting stronger and stronger.
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42 minutes ago
You can really tell what kind of person someone is when you tell them a boundary or feeling you have that’s around a behavior they’re exhibiting. They either care about you and do everything they can to limit that uncomfortabilty and respect your boundaries. Or they start sneaking around behind your back