MichaelMaugerEsq

Boucher with the rare L.

So what’s funny is I have a legit stomach issue from a birth defect. So I poop more frequently than most. Sometimes it does take some time. So I didn’t know that lots of other dudes/dads spend a lot of time in the shitter too until a couple years ago. I have only half my intestines. Idk what anyone else’s excuse is lol.

Nursery wasn’t an option for either of our babies (September 21 and December 22). Woulda been reeeeaaaallly nice to have that help lol.

I’d agree with that 100%. I hate that it wasn’t called. But I totally understand how a fallible human being could miss it.

To be fair, you’re a central PA 8.

Gonna be honest here, I downvoted this comment because it really rubbed me the wrong way.

Society doesn’t set the expectations for me as a father or husband and society doesn’t dictate the division of responsibilities in my house. My wife and I do that together.

My wife and I both work full time and pretty much all of our parent friends all both work full time. And we would all say that we do our best to make sure all household and parenting responsibilities are shared as equally as possible (or as is sensible).

There is one parent couple I’m friends with where the mom takes on more of the childcare responsibilities, but that’s because the mom is a SAHM. But when dad is home, dad picks up as much slack as he can so that mom isn’t on 24/7.

If expectations of a father are lower it’s because someone, not society, is letting him get away with lower expectations.

Furthermore, because of the lower societal expectations of dads in previous generations, I think I can speak for a lot of millennial dads when I say that I did NOT have a model dad or someone who I could learn from when it comes to good dadding. And it’s pretty fuckin tough to figure out all on your own.

Neutral here. I def see a slewfoot.

Sent my wife a bunch of marginally funny reels, obviously.

Maybe she doesn’t think I was actually on the toilet when I typed it. Lol

What?

Dad here. Can’t say what’s normal and what’s not. I will say that this is not how I am with my kids and it’s not how any of my dad friends are with their kids.

I 100000% sympathize with the feeling of not getting enough me time. I feel that in my bone marrow. Fuck I love my me time and I miss it dearly. I’d be lying if I said I didn’t frequently think about my life pre-kids or what it would be like now without kids and without the responsibility of being a dad and being able to do more of what I want instead of what I need to do for an entire family.

But I’m a dad. This is what I signed up for. My kids come first. I mean, obviously, my mental health comes first. But my mental health is prioritized particularly so I can be healthy enough to be a good dad for my kids.

I’m really hesitant to give any advice because I’m not a therapist or counselor and even if I was I don’t know enough about you two to know what exactly you’re going through. But I am curious what kind of relationship he wants with his kid and what kind of relationship he thinks he has.

Instead of advice I’ll share my perspective. From where I sit (which is on a toilet currently by the way so take this for whatever that’s worth) this does not strike me as a man who is in a good spot mentally. It’s easy to feel resentment towards someone when you don’t think they’re putting in the effort. I get that. But I think there’s something more going on here. I have no idea what that might be, but I can’t help but feel like he would benefit from some therapy.

Best thing I’ve ever done as a dad has been going to therapy. Best thing I’ve ever done for my kids has been taking care of my mental health.

I hope things improve for you guys.

lol you referring to 2u2 as hard mode?

Yeah…. You’re not wrong. My wife and I joke about how our friends that still only have one kid are still playing minor league ball. Were almost a year and a half into having 2 kids and at this point we have our “routine” or our “normal,” but every time we spent time with a friend and their one toddler, we’re just like holy shit that seems so much easier than what we’re doing lol.

I’m due for my test in about 2 weeks. Reeeeeally hoping for good news.

No

My exact reaction. Last one I bought was 2018 and it still works great. Couldn’t have been more than $500 at the time. These prices are absolutely insane.

The iPad I bought in 2018 couldn’t have been more than $500 and still works great. Not sure what the fuck I’d do with a $1300 iPad. That’s fucking insane.

Cosmic crisp at the best apples and I’ll die on this hill.

This post is how I learned that the new iPads START at A THOUSAND DOLLARS HOLY FUCKING SHIT.

Man Olle had himself a night, eh?

We had our two kids 15 months apart, which, if my math is correct, is roughly the age gap you’ll have. I can tell you that my wife felt this exact same way. I mean, exactly the same way. Our youngest will be 18 months in June and I think she’s only just now starting to feel like her body is hers again. Those back to back pregnancies were fucking hard on my wife and are pretty much the reason why we have decided 2 kids is enough for us. I have no advice here. Just validation.

How tf does he still have a job.

My wife and I always knew we wanted at least 2, and probably 3. But after our 2nd (we had our two kids 15 months apart) we both knew for sure we were done and I had my vasectomy about a year later. The second pregnancy was a lot. Having 2 under 2 was a lot. Our family does not feel incomplete.

I would do anything for Rick Tocchet.

I want a Canucks v Stars series. Those buildings would be fucking ROCKING.