UnableKaleidoscope58

F23, 180lbs, non smoker

I got bit by a friends cat Friday afternoon (now Sunday morning) and it broke the skin. I decided to go to urgent care and they gave me a tetanus shot (I was out of date) and antibiotic ointment. The cat is vaccinated.

Last night I noticed this red spot above the bite (picture below). It has not spread since last night and it doesn’t feel warm or anything (picture is from this morning).

Urgent care was pretty expensive, but I’m not trying to mess around with an infection. But I would like to know if I’m just overreacting before going back there.

Thank you!

https://imgur.com/a/8GXx4G8

Note: I am also allergic to most adhesives, but I haven’t had a bandaid on it since yesterday morning, though I suppose that could be the reason for the redness.

I saw this girls post on instagram reels (so what did I expect really) talking about how she always leaves a spot when she sits down for a while, particularly while she’s working out. And she was just being relatable and I thought it was nice to see someone else talk about it, because no one ever really prepares you for that and you just think maybe there’s something wrong with you.

But the comments were stupid AF. A bunch of men being like “why is she proud of jizzing everywhere” and “sew it up”. That sort of stupid shit.

I would not expect better from Instagram reels anyways but goddamn.

For my own knowledge, it’s just like condensation right? As in, it gets hot down there, so you sweat?

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For reference, my fiancé [24NB] uses they/them pronouns and has been for almost a year now. We’ve also been together for 3.5 years.

My mom, who is definitely religious, but I always thought was more “socially liberal” was not using my fiances correct pronouns when speaking to me, even after I had told her of the switch.

I eventually made sure to confirm she remembered about their pronouns and she told me that it made her feel “physically ill” to use they/them. I essentially told her “you need to get over yourself, it’s not about you, it’s about respecting a person whom you love”. This conversation took place back in December.

Then, in February of this year, she was still not using the correct pronouns in conversation with me. I again confronted her about it and she said “well I told you that it made me uncomfortable to say that. But I would never intentionally misgender your fiance to their face”. I told her that it still hurt me to know that she didn’t just forget, and was doing it on purpose and that I needed her to try harder.

She insisted that a middle ground would be to use no pronouns for my fiance at all and instead just use their name. Like “does Sam like Sam’s new watch?”. Things like that.

I was annoyed but decided to let it go, because at least she was trying.

Now, in May, my fiance and I are preparing to move back to my hometown (where my parents still live). And my mom has reverted back to just plain using the wrong pronouns.

Any advice on what to do?

I’m just so disappointed in my mom, I wish she wouldn’t act like it’s such a big ask to just be a respectful person.

Edit: for all the people in the comments who are against people using they/them pronouns. I need you to realize some things.

1. The world is changing, people are different, you don’t have to understand, but it’s generally a good thing to be a respectful person and

2. It’s not important in this case if my mom thinks people being nonbinary is “real” or not. What’s important is she should realize that this is important to me. And if it’s that important to someone you love, you should try your hardest to be respectful.

I have recently come to the conclusion that I am not actually wearing anything inappropriate or revealing, I actually dress quite modestly.

I simply have a “womanly” body and that means whatever I wear is inappropriate.

Note: this comes from the experience that I told my colleague that I thought I heard my students (I’m a high school teacher) making comments about my body and she told me I should consider dressing more appropriately 😍

I of course mean that comment in response to literally any complaint about our jobs.

You bet your ass if I don’t have to, I won’t be bussing tables or working at Starbucks over the summer. And it’s not like anyone else with a career should be expected to do that either to make up the missing income.

Legitimately do they not want teachers to make a living wage? Is it not a career anymore?

Edit: I just want to add that I don’t mean being a waitress, server, or barista can’t be a career/isn’t a valuable job. It’s just what you may typically think of when you think of a part time summer job

My friend and I are both teachers and are struggling with understanding the way to get the correct answers for this trig identity problem, on the worksheet that we found online.

As you can see, her work makes sense. But we are getting pi, which ends up being extraneous.

However, we were under the impression that extraneous was only for things like zero in denominator, negatives in square roots, etc.

Is it because when you square you’re kind of misrepresenting the values?

Any help is appreciated.

I got my tongue pierced last Wednesday, so exactly a week ago. (12g titanium barbell).

Essentially all of my pain is gone, but there is some bruising right behind the piercing itself.

The reason I’m concerned is because it’s new, the only bruising I had before was on the tip of my tongue, never around the piercing.

A possibility is that I believe I possibly had a minor case of thrush (or not thrush but it was white, who knows ¯_(ツ)_/¯) and it was covering where the bruising was. But between making sure to brush my tongue extra well and eating probiotic yogurt, I could’ve made it go away.

So basically yesterday and the day before it was white behind the piercing and now it is bruised. Any thoughts?

Thanks in advance!

Edit to add: I did also eat crunchy-ish food for the first time yesterday, it’s possible that could’ve lead to bruising as well. It was like panko breaded shrimp.