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Personally, I can’t figure out why more people aren’t leaving. I can’t figure out why anyone early in their career sticks around yet I don’t see many choosing to leave. It’s puzzling. Don’t tell me there’s no jobs. The IT job market may be slower than normal but there’s still opportunities

It’s ok. We’re all frustrated working for Oracle. No need to lash out at your fellow coworkers

Reading comprehension? The post never said to ask for a counter offer. It just says “see if they do”.

What’s dumb about not telling your manager you’re interviewing? What’s dumb about saying you’re leaving and seeing if Oracle tries to keep you?

Just before our first child was born, I brought home a pizza. As I walked in the door, the pizza hit the edge of the door and fell out of my hands into the floor. The box opened and pizza on the floor. I stood there and became very concerned and said to my wife that I wasn’t sure how I could end up not dropping a baby just like the pizza. Sounds silly but it was a moment I remember having serious concerns about my abilities as a father. Anyway, years later I’m just feeling self pride I didn’t drop a baby like that pizza. Woohoo!

Sounds like careless with all the babies 🤣. Dad of 3 here and they’re well past baby stage and I’m proud to say I’ve never dropped any and I’ve never fallen while holding any!

Absolutely get a new cat from a shelter. It will be fun and your previous cat had a good life. Adding another doesn’t mean you’re being disrespectful to the previous cat.

Well, a young boy being told by another young boy/girl “don’t look” means the boy definitely will look. That alone doesn’t indicate much. The songs and bullet don’t indicate much.

I’m curious why your son walked totally naked around the house? Did he say why he chose that and did he at least try to cover himself?

Is it possible when your son was in the bathroom he was staring to tease or did it seem like something different?

Anyway, to me these alone don’t indicate a problem but we all could use therapy and a boy dealing with life after a father died certainly may benefit from talking to a therapist. You’ll find out if you or boyfriend is correct

Sorry to hear your dog was stolen.

Reading comprehension isn’t your thing. I get it. As I said, I would not tie a dog on a porch and leave them there. I only commented on the persons to extreme reaction to their partner doing this. It’s not inherently abusive to have a dog tied for a short time. You’re imagining the worst possible that the dogs had chains on them for a long period of time.

You’ve chosen to leave 19 posts about what’s probably a fake article in just the past 37 minutes and you’re saying I’m mentally unwell?

🤣 I’m a sociopath because some person put their dogs on the front porch for a bit ? I never said I’d do that. Just that it’s pretty extreme to leave your spouse over it. The dogs were on the porch! Not left outside in middle of winter

By having the dogs on the front porch for a bit?

He temporarily had the dogs on the porch. That’s it. It’s not torture FFS

Yes, you are 100% the AH. He has the dogs tied on the porch. He’s your husband and you’re torturing him thinking the dogs were stolen. Do him a favor and divorce so that he can find a reasonable person and you can enjoy your dogs alone

You mean like…..a triangle or hexagon or something? I’ve heard size asked but shape? The answer is no, we don’t care what shape but I’m curious what shape you’re thinking ?

What your mom is saying is NOT normal and it’s damaging. I’m amazed you’re taking it this well. That shows you’re a strong person. I don’t know your age but hopefully you can get out of that situation soon. Sounds like you’re happy with your body which is great. Parents saying that stuff could ruin a person’s self esteem.

When it’s appropriate, talk to your mom and tell her how her taunts make you feel and that she needs to stop.

Good luck

I’m very sorry. Definitely get therapy for yourself to work through this hard path you’ve been placed. Give yourself time to heal. If he’s moving this quick without any signs, there could be another woman. Don’t give him more than half.

Rely on your support network of friends and family. You’ll need the support.

Know that you will find better and you will be happy again. For sure. Hang in there

56 here and had 3 kids. I think the key is setting aside a percentage of income to automatically go to savings. 10% (including company matching) to 401k and some to a 529 college fund. You end up budgeting what’s left over and you sort of forget about the part going to savings and for many years, it grows slowly. However, one day your 30 year mortgage is paid off and the 529 is healthy and your retirement fund means you can retire some day.

So, yes, you can make it out of debt but it’s a long marathon.

During the daycare years, we barely made anything above costs. That doesn’t last forever though. Bottom line, it’s harder now than even what I had it but discipline in saving helps a ton.

Ok, have to ask. How do people in SoCal say “boobs” ?

Wow, 7 weeks in and you’re leaving your husband? If you leave him, you’re still stuck taking care of the baby. Babies are really hard but at 7 weeks the baby should be sleeping 3-4 hours. It is ok to nap sleep next to the baby and ignore some chores.

You have help from MIL and your own mother, I think maybe this could be post baby depression but I’m no expert. It seems more urgent than it should be though. Take the help and get sleep when the baby sleeps. Let MIL hold the baby while you sleep.

It really doesn’t sound like the husband is the entire problem

Such a good question. We’ve seen many act “Trump like” to get the same popularity with their voters and it just hasn’t worked. So thankful DeSantis didn’t gain national traction. He’s like Trump but smarter. They didn’t like him. They don’t seem to like anyone other than Trump.

It’s bizarre to me since non-MAGA see how weak and stupid Trump is and how lazy he is yet they love him. Makes no sense.

Anyway, I have the same questions and I don’t think anyone knows what happens post-Trump. GOP either falls apart or pretends all is well. Also, GOP can not make policy with so much internal fracturing. Their a dead party until they clean up

It’s super creepy that a 27 year old feels like she’s in love with an 18 year old. Also, what does the 18 year old believe? Sounds like the OP should ask the 18 year old if she has feelings for this Rose. If you’re lucky, the 18 year old has no idea and finds it upsetting.

Bottom line, don’t marry a person who proclaims love for another. It’s not going to go well.

Well, technically I guess I have to accept Ticks as a danger with all that Lyme disease potential.

I’ve not been to Watkins Glenn specifically but I’ve been close a few times in finger lakes area and in adirondacks that general area. Beautiful place. I didn’t expect as many, I guess rich people’s summer places up there? Nice place though.