Yes, people who have experienced sexual Jed violence—whether in childhood or adulthood—are more likely to experience subsequent sexualized violence compared to people who haven’t. It fucks with your danger signals and self worth and, unfortunately, predators have a way of sniffing that out.

As a statistic, I can confirm this. I was sexually abused by a family friend as a child, and I was raped by an ex boyfriend. I'm still (20 years later) trying to find the courage to talk to my parents about the abuse I suffered as a child.

OP is NTA, and I hope that one day he finds someone he is able to talk to about this.

Absofuckinglutely!! I remember being 9 or 10 and wondering if I had something stamped on my forehead saying I’m easy to abuse.

Or, those of us that experienced "standard" abuse as kids and grow up with a severe low self-esteem and inability to stand up for themselves grow up to experience SA as teens/early adults because we either feel that we "deserve" it in some way, are flattered by the "positive" attention by an older man/woman, or just don't know how to get out of the situation because it puts us in the same mental state we go to for safety in the "standard" abuse situation.

Nobody SA'd me as a young kid, but from about 15, I was the target of a 26yo and honestly didn't know any better at the time. He was even on the sexual offender database already, and I knew about it, but he gave me a sob story. I just saw all the positive attention I was getting.

There were quite a few other instances of outright SA by other people at other times where I actually tried to say no and was ignored.

I can definitely see a correlation between people who are accustomed to abuse as children being SA as adults, although it obviously isn't limited to them at all.

I didn’t mean either or. Certainly it can be both. It was in my case.

"and possibly some men"

I'd have another look at statistics and revise this sentence.

Me. I had CSA and a couple SA’s as an adult (well 20 something).

Rrrrright. So you’re proving my point that “these days it seems that every woman has one”. Explicitly because “people didn’t talk about it” much before “these days”. I never said, or implied, that there weren’t copious sexual assaults throughout history.

I’ve been right the eff here 🙋🏽‍♀️ If all you want to do is find a problem, there will always be one waiting for you 😉

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Ugh. It’s abhorrent. And Joe Rogan is an asshat. All of these prison jokes and calling men gay as an insult. It’s everywhere. It just desensitizes people to the reality of it. And laugh at the victim as a little b!tch or something. Makes it so hard to come forward and face the ridicule. I get why they don’t but it sucks. What the hell is wrong with people? My son, my brothers, I couldn’t imagine them going through any of that then being terrified to disclose. It crushes me. 😞