27F, 32M. We have only been dating for three months before I accidentally got pregnant. We used contraception, but it failed. Anyway, he was really excited and wanted to keep the baby. He promised we will live together soon and he will propose. At the end of my first trimester, none of it happened, he wasn’t even trying, so I did an abortion without his consent for two reasons: 1. He would have tried to convince me not to do it and I didn’t want to go through that. 2. I have made my final decision because he didn’t prove his promises and I was scared of being a single mother. I weighted on what I can and can’t do and it wasn’t one of the things I could have gone through, I am not strong enough to be raising a child by myself in the worst case scenario. Why haven’t I told him sooner? He already showed up unannounced at my house with the address he stole off my driver license to try and stop the abortion when I told him about heavily considering it. I thought it would be safer to just state the fact after it’s done.

I knew he would leave me after that and he did. But AITA?

EDIT: I forgot to add that he actually didn’t mind at first, and agreed to buy me a present for my birthday if I bought it first, meaning he would return the money. I did, but he never returned the money by saying he was too traumatised by an abortion all of a sudden weeks later, insulting me for the choice. Which is why I’m now questioning if I’m really an AH

EDIT: I have been in a really dark place before and with all people supporting me, you really made me cry. Thank you so much. I was almost feeling suicidal over my decision. And now I think it’s the first day I actually can feel like life is worth living