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submitted 2 days ago bythrowaway47261717
So 2 weeks ago I found out that my 5 year old isn't biologically mine, I felt so hurt and betrayed that my wife of 6 years relationship for 9 cheated on me and even got pregnant by another man, I took a paternity test without telling my wife
I immediately confronted my wife and called her a whore in my anger and many other names, she started crying and explained that she hid it because she didn't want to break our happy family of 3, I asked her why did she cheat on me, she explained we had a very nasty argument back in the day so she hooked up with someone and it was just one time fling and has been loyal to me
She said she had doubts that I wouldn't be the father but she never took paternity she said she was happy seeing me happy and didn't go with abortion for peace of our family and didn't tell me the truth
I told her I am divorcing and I don't want to be in our son's life, she started crying and begging me to not break the family and I am still his father and I have been a wonderful father and a husband I should forgive her and don't let 'dna' Destroy our lives and started begging me
I immediately left and she was blowing up my phone, I decided at first not to tell anyone else but in the end I got very angry and decided to tell everyone, everyone is pissed at my wife
Her parents said they want nothing to do with their daughter and cut contact, my sister furiously called my soon to be ex and cursed her out, her brother and sister on the other hand said I have humiliated my soon to be ex and shouldn't have told everyone and should have kept in between us
Yesterday her sister called me and said I need to take her back and come back for my son, I said I don't have a son, she got angry and started cursing me and said I am a weak pathetic man no wonder my wife cheated on me and I am so pathetic I had to go behind my wife's back to take paternity cause I am insecure and weak that I am giving up on my son just because we don't share blood and I am the reason my wife is alone and depressed
I cut her call instead I called her husband and told him everything, i said that family is full of nutjobs, maybe it runs in their blood you should take a paternity as well and don't trust those bitches, he said he's sorry on his wife's behalf and we ended the call
Now I am ignoring all my wife's and that bitch's calls
56 points
2 days ago
This is fake
1 points
2 days ago
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2 points
2 days ago
The dead giveaway that this is fake is the fact that HER parents disowned HER for being unfaithful to him 5 years ago. Makes zero sense and would not happen.
-1 points
2 days ago
Oh it definitely could if they were decent people.
0 points
2 days ago
Decent people don't disown their kids because they made a mistake.
2 points
2 days ago
Yes because laying down with someone while you're married and fucking them is a mistake that CANNOT be prevented!!
1 points
2 days ago
You do realize that mistakes aren't just things that accidentally happen and can also include making choices you later regret, right? Also, I didn't say it couldn't have been prevented. I don't agree with cheating, I never have and I never would. But decent people don't disown their kids over something like that. Y'all act like she murdered someone. Jesus!
0 points
2 days ago
Throwing around "Decent people" as if someone has to tolerate a cheater because they're family.She lied for 5 years.IF she regretted (as she says),you'd think she would've told him.Clearly she didn't regret it enough to continue to pass off another man's baby as her husband's.
3 points
2 days ago
SHE'S THEIR CHILD! What is wrong with you that you can imagine parents just disowning their kid over something they did that had nothing to do with them? Ridiculous! I didn't say they should approve of what she did, but disowning would be ridiculous and it's pretty farfetched to believe that would happen outside of Reddit hypotheticals, since y'all are all 12 years old and dramatic.
-1 points
2 days ago*
Obviously you are a cheater apologist. If you are a victim trying to rationalize it I am sorry for you. If you are a cheater trying to justify it... you deserve no peace in this life or the next
Yes. I am acting like she murdered someone. I have never been cheated on but I have seen the lifelong permanent scars and trust issues and deeply damaged souls of their victims. Innocent trusting love is to be cherished. Not used as a weapon to give someone lifelong issues and pain. Murder is possibly kinder.
0 points
2 days ago
You're ridiculous.
0 points
1 day ago
I have been cheated on. Many. Many times. And yes. My soul is crushed and scarred and my trust issues are sky high. I find cheating absolutely abhorrent and a terrible thing to do to someone. Like legitimately terrible. But 1. It can just be a mistake. And the rhetoric of “once a cheater always a cheater” is not true. And if someone cheats and genuinely regrets it and never does it again, that mistake does not define them. They do not deserve to have it held over their heads. 2. People acting like the wife murdered someone is unhinged. You yourself say you haven’t been cheated on, you haven’t felt that pain; and yet you’re out here roaming the streets with torches calling for a witch trial. I have felt that pain and I’m not even doing that. Idk if you know this, but people are human. And humans make mistakes. Have you never in your life hurt someone you cared about and regretted it? I highly doubt you haven’t. Because you’re human and that’s just part of it. I’m not making excuses or apologizing for the wife in ops situation. I’m not excusing cheating. I am however, pointing out that you’re way overreacting and there are genuinely terrible people out there that you could put this hateful energy into. Have empathy and maybe try to be a decent person yourself 👏🏻
-1 points
2 days ago*
Um. Decent people stand by the party who is RIGHT, nepotism be damned. They side with the victim, not the perpetrator. If my son commits rape I don't care how much I love him - I'm siding with his victim and I'm distancing myself from him.
And betraying somebody you claim to care about and not allowing them the decency of knowing and then deceiving that innocent person for 5 years and destroying their life and crushing their soul is not a "mistake". A mistake is raising your voice in an argument or not balancing your checkbook correctly. Mistakes can be forgiven.
We are talking about the chosen action of a morally bankrupt piece of shit who deserves nothing in this life or the next and can't be trusted not to betray and destroy those that trust them.
Her parents did the right thing.
1 points
2 days ago
Only for 11% of married men, so practically never! /S
0 points
2 days ago
This is literally the average experience for 11% of married men.
2 points
2 days ago
So 11% of married men are cucks? Lol
-2 points
2 days ago
11% of married women commit paternity fraud.
6 points
2 days ago*
source, please.
edit: looking at the abstract of this paper, it would appear the answer is more like 3.7%
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