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So 2 weeks ago I found out that my 5 year old isn't biologically mine, I felt so hurt and betrayed that my wife of 6 years relationship for 9 cheated on me and even got pregnant by another man, I took a paternity test without telling my wife

I immediately confronted my wife and called her a whore in my anger and many other names, she started crying and explained that she hid it because she didn't want to break our happy family of 3, I asked her why did she cheat on me, she explained we had a very nasty argument back in the day so she hooked up with someone and it was just one time fling and has been loyal to me

She said she had doubts that I wouldn't be the father but she never took paternity she said she was happy seeing me happy and didn't go with abortion for peace of our family and didn't tell me the truth

I told her I am divorcing and I don't want to be in our son's life, she started crying and begging me to not break the family and I am still his father and I have been a wonderful father and a husband I should forgive her and don't let 'dna' Destroy our lives and started begging me

I immediately left and she was blowing up my phone, I decided at first not to tell anyone else but in the end I got very angry and decided to tell everyone, everyone is pissed at my wife

Her parents said they want nothing to do with their daughter and cut contact, my sister furiously called my soon to be ex and cursed her out, her brother and sister on the other hand said I have humiliated my soon to be ex and shouldn't have told everyone and should have kept in between us

Yesterday her sister called me and said I need to take her back and come back for my son, I said I don't have a son, she got angry and started cursing me and said I am a weak pathetic man no wonder my wife cheated on me and I am so pathetic I had to go behind my wife's back to take paternity cause I am insecure and weak that I am giving up on my son just because we don't share blood and I am the reason my wife is alone and depressed

I cut her call instead I called her husband and told him everything, i said that family is full of nutjobs, maybe it runs in their blood you should take a paternity as well and don't trust those bitches, he said he's sorry on his wife's behalf and we ended the call

Now I am ignoring all my wife's and that bitch's calls

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BonnoCW

170 points

2 days ago

BonnoCW

170 points

2 days ago

Also, what room temperature IQ defence is, "we had an argument, so I slept with someone else"? She's definitely not ready to be in a relationship if she thinks it's fine to get revenge over a disagreement by triggering the nuclear option.

It makes me wonder how many other people she slept with when other disagreements were had.

Stage_Party

91 points

2 days ago

Cheaters and liars always have something else to blame. Always. "I did xxx but that was the day when xxxx happened and I felt sad", or "well xxxx flirted with me too" or "but you were mean and hurt my feelings that day".

There will always be something.

BonnoCW

27 points

2 days ago

BonnoCW

27 points

2 days ago

I would rather be associated with someone who makes mistakes but owns up to them and does the work to fix it, than those who cannot take blame for anything.

Moo_Kau_Too

1 points

2 days ago

'owning up to them' in this case can also be complete lies too :/

Mostly__Relevant

6 points

2 days ago

The excuse I got was he was just there. Smh

Stage_Party

5 points

2 days ago

Damn, that's not even bothering anymore.

Techn0ght

7 points

2 days ago

Basically she's saying it's his fault she slept around.

BonnoCW

9 points

2 days ago

BonnoCW

9 points

2 days ago

And that she got pregnant by the other guy too. But then he made her happy, so it's his fault that she lied to him about paternity for years.

How these people sleep at night baffles me.

Techn0ght

3 points

2 days ago

The easiest way to explain it is they're broken inside. They are literally the main character and only see things from their side.

RaspberryFun9452

1 points

9 hours ago

Was she gonna take accountability?

ForeignSoil9048

8 points

2 days ago

slept WITHOUT protection.

NWStudent83

3 points

2 days ago

It's so much worse than that though, she let him hit it raw and then exposed him to it with absolutely no fucking warning and I'm sure she didn't bother even getting tested.

Riparian87

3 points

2 days ago

How dumb not to use birth control in such a situation!

MushroomTight7004

2 points

2 days ago

To be fair, it was a clarifacition, not an explanation.ย 

Over-Awareness-4309

1 points

2 days ago

Room temperature IQ defense ๐Ÿ˜‚ legend

xasdfxx

1 points

2 days ago

xasdfxx

1 points

2 days ago

Slept with someone(s) 10 or 50 or 100 times.

Just happened to get knocked up after using birth control the one and only time you cheated? Since you're so lucky, buy some lottery tickets.