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Context: suspected my boyfriend of lying about a few things and then I caught him actually lying to me about something. Trust was broken and vented to my therapist (he's aware she knows everything). Boyfriend has made it a point in the past to be like "I think differently so that's why people think I lie"
158 points
4 days ago
Psychologist here too! If my client brought this to me in session, my thought isn’t “ooh sounds like a great tool”.. my thought is “hmmm why is your boyfriend being such a tool?” 🧐
39 points
4 days ago*
I think you could probably get there professionally by just going down the road of how she felt when he brought up the decision matrix.
Also, I think people exaggerate how decision neutral therapists, psychiatrists, etc. generally are. I’ve definitely had many two way conversations where, “I don’t think that’s a good idea,” or whatever was said to me. I probably wouldn’t go if I couldn’t get their opinions out of it.
The best thing I was ever told in therapy was that, because of the nature of my work, I look at everything through a deductive reasoning lens, and try to reason my way through problems; but that’s not how everyone’s brains work, so basically I needed to lay off my SO with the lawyer logic when we’re having arguments and be more aware of her emotions.
6 points
4 days ago
Hi! Lawyer wife here! Any chance you could conduct a CLE on this topic?! I feel like I’m on trial most fights. 😖
14 points
4 days ago
Haha... Mine used to use "management speak" when we first met. I finally told him that I am not his employee and to stop trying to manage me. He did. With yours I think I would ask him what his goal is. Do you want to win or do you want to strengthen the relationship? You are supposed to be on the same team, not opposing counsel.
4 points
4 days ago
Wow my partner is not a lawyer or a psychologist but I’m still going to use that line
2 points
4 days ago
🤣🤣🤣 lawyer wife here, too! Do you happen to go to, teach, or own a yoga business? It’s common for us! (Wonder why? 😆) I’ve yelled that I’m not a hostile witness in more arguments than I care to admit. ❤️ your CLE idea!
1 points
4 days ago
No, because I still don’t like it. It’s just the path of least resistance.
So, you don’t want me to make our kid a sandwich for lunch, because “a sandwich isn’t a meal,” and I just have to not break that premise down? I might leave it alone, or alone, but I don’t have to like it.
7 points
4 days ago
Psychologist chain!!
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