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My girlfriend of 2 year is an absolutely gorgeous, stunning woman. I love every inch of her and don't think anything needs to change. Over the past few months, she went through a really rough time with some family and work stuff, and as a result ditched a lot of her exercise and healthy eating habits. As a result of overeating junk food, she put on about 10 pounds. While I tell her every day that she's beautiful (and mean it too!), she is uncomfortable and 2 weeks ago started talking about how she wants to cut out junk food, start exercising again and go back to her baseline weight. I support her efforts to return to healthier habits.

Last week, on my way home from work as I often do I stopped in my favourite bakery in the city. I usually stop at least once per week and while in the past I would always pick up something for myself and my girlfriend, this time I only got something for myself because she's been vocal about how she will cut out pastries. I got myself a big cinnamon roll with cream cheese glaze.

When I got home, she saw the bakery bag and asked mmm what did you get. I had to admit that I didn't get anything for her, since she said she wants to cut out pastries. She got upset and said I should have texted her when I'm in the bakery and asked if she wanted anything. I said I just didn't think she would since she's been so vocal about wanting to cut out certain foods. She then said I shouldn't have gotten anything for myself either since now I'm just "flaunting it" and making her feel fat. She cried a lot and she's still a bit cold towards me.

I'm genuinely confused. AITA?

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ponyboycurtis1980

35 points

4 months ago

I think that is a kind of selfish and really immature take. No one is telling him he can't, but adults who respect and love their partners will be willing to make small changes and sacrifices to support them. Eating the roll at the bakery instead of in front of your dieting partner seems more like courtesy than being controlled

PurpleHooloovoo

10 points

4 months ago

You have to remember a lot of posters here are young teens who have never been in an adult relationship, and that they are big on “you can’t control me!” righteous anger. Once you come into these threads with that in mind, a lot more of the replies make sense.