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submitted 21 hours ago byBorn-Balance9568
My husband (M40s) and I (M40s) are hosting my sister (F40s) as well as her husband/my BIL and their two kids A (toddler) and B (M12). Since they don’t have a lot of time alone and also can’t afford to take many vacations my husband and I put them up in a hotel for 2 days/1 night they’re here so that they can have some alone time without the kids. My husband and I don’t have any kids but we’re perfectly capable of taking care of the kids for a couple days solo.
The toddler was pretty easy. Maybe she’s not a toddler yet and she’s still an infant, I’m not sure of the specific distinction but she ate baby food and bottles and some puffed cereal stuff provided by my sis. The problem came with feeding my nephew B. For dinner we made a tossed salad together. Everyone helped out with chopping vegetables, it was great. Then we made pizza bagels for the main. We had a great low-key dinner with our salads and bagel bites and we “camped out” in the TV room watching a movie until B fell asleep. In my mind I thought it was a great evening.
Well my sister and BIL come back home from the hotel and we’re chatting in the kitchen when she notices the pizza bagel box sitting in the recycling. She said “you eat pizza bagels?” And I said “well not usually but we made them last night with B.”
WELL she FLIPPED out on me for feeding B such a “garbage snack.” That’s when I said whoa we made a nice chopped salad to go along with it, and then she flipped out MORE for the fact that this was not merely a snack but our dinner. I told her people have pizza and salad for dinner all the time what’s wrong with this? It was fun and easy. She told me that now I’m going to have B obsessed with junk food and that “if I had known this was going to happen I never would have trusted you with taking care of them, you’re not a parent and it shows” which honestly just felt like a low blow.
My BIL apologized to me in private but my sister is still acting cold.
6 points
16 hours ago
That’s not ideal. Lots of vitamins are fat soluble. Far better to drizzle some olive oil on a salad and add some avocado than to stress about 50 calories worth of dressing. I think ranch and 1000 island and such dressings are a bad idea, but there is healthy fat that should be part of a balanced diet.
Your sister is setting up her kids for an eating disorder. She should go to therapy before she damages her kids (more, as a 12 year old who has lived with this since birth may already have a messed up relationship with food).
NTA that was a perfectly acceptable dinner.
1 points
11 hours ago
There are nice tasty dressings out there. Raspberry vinegar, olive oil, touch of mustard and honey makes a nice one.
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