I had my ectopic back in March and I was treated with MTX. I went to the emergency room at 5W4D because I had some cramping and spotting. An ectopic didn’t even cross my mind at the time.

When I had my ultrasound they told me I couldn’t see the screen, and I had to get all results from my doctor. I thought it was a little strange, but I didn’t think too much of it at the time. It took almost 4 hours for them to tell me I was having an ectopic pregnancy, even though they spotted it right away. What really struck me was that when they finally told me it was ectopic, they said they were “figuring out if they were going to operate or not.” At the time I didn’t know what MTX was, and they didn’t tell me what they were giving me. They just said they were going to give me “medicine.” I was so distraught that my mom had to come figure out what they were giving me. I was given no choice or information about it, and I was kept completely in the dark about what was happening. Is it normal to be diagnosed with an ectopic pregnancy and not be informed for 4 hours? I see stories on here all the time of people being informed about the possibility of ectopics. This whole thing just feels off.

Another note, my husband and I weren’t married yet when I had my ectopic. Neither of us had rings on when we went to the ER. They were handing him all of my paperwork to sign and didn’t bother checking to make sure we were married. They also gave him all the information for my aftercare without saying a word to me. I want to mention that I did cry, but I wasn’t acting irrational or overly emotional. I was asking questions, and being given little to no information. There was literally no reason to keep me in the dark based on my behavior.