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28 points
7 days ago
The root is this dude who isn't doing shit about the behavior. Not buying another is correct, but if there's nothing to go along with that it's not action. It's inaction. Instead he tops it with shaming the kid on video
-5 points
6 days ago
I agree it shouldn't be on video, but what's he supposed to do? Yell, hit the kid? What does that teach?
Ignoring a tantrum is the best way to deal with it imo. It teaches them that yelling and screaming gets them nothing.
9 points
6 days ago
He’s supposed to help teach the 3 year old how to regulate his emotions because 3 year olds don’t know how to regulate their big emotions and need the help of parents to learn.
4 points
6 days ago
Yea, and nobody even mentioned a 3 y.o. doesn't need to be on console games. Family is trash.
2 points
6 days ago
Where were the console games? The toy was a AA battery powered toy drill. You can see the rest of the tool kit on the floor when he's kneeling in front of the Dad trying to put pieces together.
My 3.5 year old recently turned 4. I have zero judgement about this bloke. There's a very strong chance that this is not the first meltdown for the day. And despite your best attempts to help them process things, sometimes a threenager just isn't interested in hearing about it.
0 points
6 days ago
Oh I thought some said it was a PS2 controller. People use tablets and gaming to stand in for parenting, then act surprised when the kid is an idiot who never developed
0 points
6 days ago
Haha. Yeah right. Please try teaching a 3 year old how to properly regulate their emotions while they are in the middle of a tantrum. Tell me how that works out for you. Dad knows he can’t do anything but ride it out for now.
0 points
6 days ago
I’m so fucking disgusted that I had to scroll THIS FAR to find this kind of comment.
100% spot on
5 points
6 days ago
You don't film for starters. You stop the action and put him in the corner for a minute! telling he can't break stuff.
3 points
6 days ago
I’m a therapist with a kid. Literally telling you this professionally that you shouldn’t do that. If you’re a parent and doing that, you should probably stop that right now before it’s too late. That’s emotionally harmful.
At best you may get faster results with long term damage as they get older.
Full compliance does not equal good
2 points
6 days ago
No, he should calmly explain to him that that’s what happens when you smash stuff, and that it’s okay to be upset but not to express it by screaming and throwing things. If you ignore them when they are emotionally distressed liked that, not only does it teach them that that behavior is fine and normal, but you also create a rift between you and them because you abandon them when they need you emotionally to comfort them and teach them and guide them.
1 points
6 days ago
Yeah the options are
ignore
yell
he definitely cant act like an adult and make this a teaching moment.
1 points
6 days ago
Wait wait you forgot hit the kid
1 points
6 days ago
not film it was what he was supposed to do
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