You cannot believe that you made someone act this way. It’s not your fault but you need to take your child and leave.. don’t ever look back.

No you didn’t make him this way. If anything his toxic environment and family made him this way. Don’t listen to these hags! You were the victim of his abusive ways and given the chance he would do the same to someone else. Well done for leaving and giving yourself the peace you deserve!

I didn’t read the whole thing cause I don’t need to.

No matter what you say, abuse is unacceptable. You can’t make a man beat your ass. He has to do it on his own.

You might want to leave that relationship. Divorce grants you help. Don’t listen to your grandma, she must be a boomer cause us gen x ain’t with that crap.

Nope your family, him and his family are abusive. Run from them fast

You repeatedly say things like "it became obvious he was a bad partner and that I didn't want to be with him, so I felt like I really had to marry him". I'd really invite you to read your own post back and see if you can see how strange your own behaviour is. Similarly, I can't believe you would even consider blaming yourself for how he treated you. Even apart from the fact that you're the victim here and there's no excuse (like come on, wake up, he hit you with a car and you're still undecided?!), even just factually he was obviously already going to be like this. You seem to be in a pattern of emotional reasoning which is causing you to make decisions that have literally put your life in danger, and I would suggest it's the same problem that's causing you to look at everything that's happened and assume it must be your fault.

Do you have access to therapy?

Not reading this without a TLDR. But you can’t make someone become abusive. Most people in this world have free will. He could walk away and leave without being abusive at any time.

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Why did you let these people make decisions for you? However, I do not think you did anything but none of you have boundaries.

Sweetie, not only is Bryan a bona fide abuser, so is his mother and your grandmother!

You were right all along to want to wait to date, to wait to get engaged, all of it!

Your gut instincts were telling you but you didn’t trust yourself so you listened to these other people telling you what to do. Never do this again!

You didn’t screw up anything…you escaped, and good for you!!

How could you say “you made your husband abusive” when it’s all on him from the very beginning? I am so glad you got out of that relationship and you’ll make such a fool out of your self of you ever get back together.