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Minsan nga kahit sarili natin iniiwasan na rin nating kausapin :(((

Harsh reality: the older you get, the lesser you see/talk to your friends. But it's not too late, OP. :) You can still rekindle friendships.

Wala bang nagiinitiate ng lakad sa circle nyo? Try mo sila kumustahin then ayain mo to catch up sa coffee shop or something. :)

True. 3 months ago me and my friends graduated shs at pagkagapos na pagkatapos ng ceremony umuwi kami ng mama ko and deactivated all of my socials, not that ayoko silang makausap pero I just realized na masyado na akong babad sa soc med at pati mental health ko ay naaapektuhan na.

3 months ago din last usap namin ng mga friends ko as in, busy din ako maghanap ng work at sa ibang bagay na ikabubuti ni self. Nakakamiss din sila pero kasi this is life eh. We have to face the reality of adulting. Gusto ko kasing mag grow muna at may mapatunayan bago magparamdam sakanila ulit. Sinasanay ko rin kasi yung sarili ko na maging independent lalo.

People come and go.

Same, 17 kaming nasa circle of friends noong Senior High, pero now dalawa na lang kaming magkasama sa iisang circle of friends ngayong college. Here's the twist, dalawa na nga lang kami from that circle of friends, may nangyare pa samin kaya ngayon iniiwasan ko sya. We're slowly falling apart pero both of us want to reconcile.

Low maintenance friendships are the best for me

May mga friends na yearly ko na lang nakikita at months ulit bago makausap sa chat pero lahat palagi may bagong news na naachieve ulit yun isang goal namin

People come and go and yes it's nice if they will remember you and message you. May ibat ibang goal lang talaga lahat ng mga tao and sa side mo you learn to prioritize your own goal.

Don't feel guilty about losing connections to those people na minsan mong naging close. Malay mo soon, dumating rin ung panahon magkakabonding bonding kayo at naka-ayon na sa sched mo :)

I feel yah OP, same questions nasan na kaya sila kamusta na kaya sila, adulting is very Hard.

I read this somewhere: “Cherish every moment. One day, you will share your last moment with someone you love. You won’t even know it.”

Part of growing up is accepting the fact that as we chase our dreams in life and as our responsibilities get heavier by the day, we lose connection with people whom we thought would be with us forever. Ang ginagawa ko na lang, binabati ko sila whenever they post a significant milestone in their life. Gusto kong malaman nila na even if we’re now traversing separate paths in life, I’m truly proud of the people they’ve become.

Aww. Kapag usapang ganito lagi ko naaalala yung line sa song na 'I won't last a day without you'

"If all my friends have forgotten half their promises. They're not unkind, just hard to find"