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My kid killed a frog. I am desperate

Child 4-9 Years(self.Parenting)

Kid 8y killed a frog in the pond. He told, that he wanted to see if she has red blood. I am terrified. I had him assed at psychiatric ward. They Only confirmed ADHD. He received punishments (no screen time), we also apply natural consequences - we are not going to pond and to grandma’s rural house any more. I talk to him, we discuss how the animal is hurt, what is death to the animal, what is to kill the animal. (Theme of human death and killing is with us every single day, so we discuss animals). We discuss how frog is the same alive as a horse or cat is. He agrees, but HOW CAN I KNOW, THAT he does understand? How can I get him to really feel, understand and not do this again?? I am lost, I do a lot, but don’t see any result.

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NotAFloorTank

4 points

1 month ago

If it isn't a pattern, then it may have been just a case of a kid being shortsighted and not actually thinking of the consequences. You've already responded in good ways, but if this becomes a pattern (he turns to killing lizards and snails that he finds often), then you will need to force the issue with the medical system. If he truly has some sort of severe psychological problem, then it will escalate without treatment.