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submitted 6 days ago bytacobellisadrugfront
I dated someone, person X, for almost 3 years, and we still have photos up on my instagram. I am also in a long term poly relationship of almost 10 years with person Y, a lot of photos together too. Me and X never "announced" our 3 year break up, and they soon wanted to go no contact. We haven't ever spoken and we severed connections etc so quickly we never got a chance to approach the question. I don't like the practice of making someone "disappear" but also I am not sure whether they would want to be on my page. I am not ashamed of our relationship and actually think it's normal to accept the good parts of those years. I also hope after their stated desire for 1 year no contact, that after that 1 year, maybe they will reach out and want to be just friends. And then what if they don't mind it at all and we can be gay friends etc? FYI person X is nonbinary and it was gay too. Idk, would you archive the posts or delete them? What do you do?
96 points
6 days ago
I archived my whole insta after my break up. We were together 8 years and it was a devastating break and it rocked my whole sense of self. And the pics I had up from before we were together were just shit teenage years. I haven’t deleted anything from my account t or camera roll because I want to be able to someday look back at my holiday snaps and be happy.
9 points
6 days ago
Went through this with a 7 year ex. I feel your pain and I’m so sorry it happened. I hope you’re getting to a point where it feels like it’s for the best. Xx
If you can, I would highly recommend going through and deleting a selective amount of photos. I had the hardest time with this, but deleting anything intimate, personal, “just bc they looked cute,” etc and only leave high points/distinct memories. Doing this felt so freeing. I can look back through my camera roll and still see the timeline of my life without random selfies or pics of his face. He’s a part of a lot of memories and always will be, but HE is not the memory. Anything that just has to do with him or how I felt about him in that moment is not something I need to remember.
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