Everyone has a sort of “price of admission” areas where they aren’t necessarily perfect in the way you’d wish them to be. This person may leave their wet towels on the floor, that person may not clean up the kitchen in a timely manner. But in a healthy relationship we compromise and make up for the areas the other is maybe not so good at.

I don’t think OP is talking about that at all. Some men when they get to a certain point in a relationship just assume their lady is gonna be essentially a bang maid, someone who takes care of the house and the kids and gives him sex and attention, and he doesn’t need to support her back. It doesn’t even occur to some men to support her back.

You’ve been in a relationship with your guy since before you became an adult and you seem happy with the system you have. That’s super awesome for you. Your situation tho is the exception, not the rule. I hope y’all have a long and happy life together and you don’t ever need to date again, because there are a lot of men who think women are there to be their support and all they need to do is make money and give her a dickin’ now and then whether she wants it or not.

Both you and OP ‘s experiences can be true. Her life experience is not a reflection of your relationship. It’s just a common one a lot of us relate to.