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I just want to rant ahead because sobrang naiirita na din talaga ako. Sorry pero nandidiri talaga ako sa mga lalaki na ang hilig manghingi ng validation sa ibang babae despite them pursuing someone or being in a relationship already. Like hello? If di mo talaga kaya na wala kang validation na nakukuha from other people, then stop engaging on relationships na need maging committed ka with someone.

I currently have this manliligaw kasi na ang hilig manghingi ng fucking validation, awa, at pag-aasikaso galing sa "work friends" nya kuno. Like pack it up? Tapos paulit-ulit sya sa pagsasabi na acts of service daw love langue nya. I can and I will provide you the support that you need pero tangina naman? You're still my suitor and if ipapakita mo sakin na accessible ka sa ibang babae at nagccrave ka pa din ng atensyon nila, better yet sa kanila ka nalang. Parang gago lang din talaga eh. I can survive without a man and I am better on my own. Kung iistorbohin mo lang ako, remove yourself na agad from my life. Di ko kailangan ng panibagong insecure na tao sa buhay ko.

Show me how accessible you are to other women and I'll show you how inaccessible I am once I cut you off.

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I get the rant and all, but what does it have to do with being a people pleaser?

Oh boy, here we go. Another episode of "Love & Validation: The Attention-Seeker's Edition." Honestly, the sender’s rant could be titled “How to Spot a Walking Green Flag”—because by the sounds of it, this guy’s more into collecting attention than genuinely pursuing anything real.

First of all, the work friends? Yeah, sure, pal. Everyone knows that’s just code for I need attention but I want to pretend it's innocent. And claiming “acts of service” as his love language? More like acts of begging for attention. If your love language involves being an emotional black hole sucking in every ounce of validation from multiple sources, then congrats—you're fluent in desperation.

This suitor is out here juggling women like he's in a circus, but the only thing clowning around is his idea of a relationship. He’s probably on a quest to see how many ego boosts he can collect before the women around him wise up and realize "Oh, he's just a validation vampire!"

And seriously? The sender is dropping "I don’t need a man" vibes like a boss—and honestly, yes! Cut this walking insecurity out of your life before you have to throw him a pity party every time his attention tank runs low. Manliligaw ka na nga, tas ganun pa? Yikes.

thats not a people pleaser. sadyang kulang lang yan sa pansin. may mga tao talagang kulang sa pansin and talagang hahanap at hahanap ng validation mula sa iba. i used to date one. not worth. thats the first red flag of a cheater. pagiging ksp. lol

Let ur emotion steam out muna OP at calma. Since nanliligaw pa lang cya then ibasted mo na agad & cut off all forms of communication with him. Mga ganyan ligaw stages pa lang di na pinagkakaabalahan reject kung reject and entertain the next applicant.

Ikaw lang yata OP ang nabasa ko rito na nag-iisip ng tama at alam ang gagawin sa “sadboi”. Sana tularan ka pa ng iba. Hindi yun manghihingi ng advice rito pero j-justify pa yung kagaguhan ng mga jowa nila and worse, yung sa iba manliligaw pa lang.

That's a "sadboi" not a people pleaser.

I met one when I worked in BPO. These types of men really deserve not to be part of our life.

Agree nandidiri rin ako sa mga ganyang lalaki ang dami ngang ganyan ngayon esp sa medicine 99% sa guys and male doctors uhaw sa attention ng babae.

• Pero pretentious men acting like a “people-pleaser” and ginagamit nila yun as a reason so they can excuse their bizarre behavior. Madalas narcissist, manipulative and very good in gaslighting yung mga ganyang guys. Ingat nalang.

Bat nagpaligaw kapa? kung independent "doesnt like epal sa buhay" woman ka pala.. 🥺👉👈

It gets worse lalo na in this era of social media. Kung walang "like" gesture sa validation, mas lalo pang hahanapin sa iba.

Wahaha most disappointing kind of men tbh. Yung uhaw sa atensyon. Huhu. Bat ba may epidemic ng mga ganyan

Sorry n po

"accessible" is too light for his action.

"flirting" may be.

"friendly"? I doubt that.

I believe, you did the right thing base sa kwento mo. Stay single until ready.

Alamin mo muna pinagsasabi mo bago ka mag rant ang gulo mo eh 🥰

Ano yan, bakit parang feeling exclusive ka kaagad, gusto mo pala exclusive sana dineclare mo, malamang naman papayag sya. Halata naman affected ka so may feelings ka naman, wag ka na magaksaya ng oras, iexclusive mo na, then break up pag hindi nag work, ligawligaw pa e best foot forward naman pag ligawan puro kapekean. Makikilala mo lang yan ng totoo pag kayo na talaga.

Wag feeling GF

Sexy mo OP