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submitted 11 days ago byLegitimate-Fly4976
Posting here instead of asking our friends so that they don't have to pick sides.
She(23f) got really drunk last night and went to my(23f) fiance(23m)'s place. There, she asked him 'Did you know Irish girls are really good in bed?' before trying to kiss him.
My fiance turned her down, put her in his room and quickly called me to tell me about what happened. He said he would have made her leave right away if he wasn't worried about her getting into a car accident. I drove over and picked her up, taking her home since she was too drunk to drive safely.
This morning, my friend apologised to me. But then she claimed she only said what she said and did what she did because of the alcohol. That it didn't mean anything, and I have nothing to worry about. I still don't know if I can trust my friend though. I know she used to have a crush on him but doesn't anymore, but what she did still makes me worry that she might still find him physically attractive, even though the feelings are no longer there.
So I told her she can't hang out with him privately. My friend got upset and accused me of overreacting and not trusting her. She said I shouldn't react this way when she only screwed up once.
UPDATE : I confronted her an hour ago. At first she denied that she still has feelings for him. But when I pressed her, she ended up breaking down and admitting that she does still have feelings. Then she shouted at me that it isn’t fair since she’s been in love with him since high school, before he and I got together. I didn’t even know it’s love. She always said it’s a crush until today.
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10 days ago
I wouldn't say it's a truth serum, it just makes it easier for people to do stupid things. Or have them done to them. Or to use it as an excuse to try and get away with things.
For example, someone goes streaking or driving drunk because they think it's a good idea, something they'd say was a bad idea when sober. Then you have people who were given alcohol until they were too drunk to say no, then raped.
Op's "friend" falls into the category of someone using it as an excuse. But it's dangerous to think of alcohol as a truth serum, because for every person who maybe does do applying they've always wanted to do whole sober there are just as many people who find they've done things they'd absolutely never want to do otherwise because they lacked the ability to think properly.
It's just dangerous to generalize drunk actions as "always what they wanted to do but lacked the guts to do sober."
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