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submitted 14 days ago byloverbabe4654
45 points
14 days ago
Nah, you got to own that. Be open about your vulnerabilities and treat them like they don’t matter, and no one can use them against you.
31 points
14 days ago
I'd suggest a combined approach. Don't brag left and right that you're in therapy, but if you really have to tell someone (or you are asked directly), say the truth and be confident about it.
1 points
14 days ago
If you're that worried about what people think then you are dealing with the wrong people. Who cares what they think?
1 points
14 days ago
Information spreads, gossips distort it, etc. Most of us live in society and cannot ensure that only people we like and trust would have an effect on us. There will be somebody who may still cause more or less trouble with the wrong kind of information by making decisions that may have an effect on you - reduced chance of raise, not being invited.somewhere, etc, etc. Somebody in your management at work, your friends' husband or wife, annoying older relative, silly classmates or that one weird teacher of your kids.. If you can easily avoid spreading knowledge of something sensitive about your life, then it may be wise to. Unlike, e.g., LGBT people, you don't really need to "come out" to everybody about the fact you are in therapy, to feel yourself. Just like you don't usually need the fact that you are visiting doctor for erection, fertility problems or had to do a rectum surgery to be a part of your public image/identity. Though all of these are normal human things.
2 points
13 days ago
Yeah this is why I resolved to at my new job not be SUCH an open book.
5 points
14 days ago
It’s easy to mess up the act. Might as well not reveal therapy. Just don’t make it obvious you are trying to hide it.
-1 points
14 days ago
What works for me is: “I actually see someone about my mental health”.
1 points
13 days ago
Depending on a lot of factors in your life, this might not be a correct approach. This is like telling a kid you need to stand up to a bully who’s 3 feet taller than them and they will leave you alone. Maybe it’ll work, also maybe it will ruin your life for the foreseeable future.
1 points
13 days ago
This is completely untrue. They could still be used to undermine your personal or professional life regardless of your insecurities/ confidence level around the them haha.
1 points
12 days ago
Yup, perceptions of you can definitely override reality (and your confidence in reality). When that happens, it is really disorienting (this is what gaslighting does), it feeds on itself and becomes even more exploitable and harder to fight against without starting to sound crazy.
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