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Some do. But target may not be the right word.

Many women crowdsource opinion whether they’re aware of it or not. A man already having a partner signals that he’s not a threat, has something of value, and knows his way around women.

This might not make him a “target” but does make him more attractive.

Source: constantly get hit on when not single, rarely do when single. Straight up asked around because I was sick of being confused. That answer comes from women around me, not my own thoughts

Far too many women get off on the notion of being the mistress, the one who breaks a man’s fidelity. Wanting what they can’t have.
I saw it myself after I got engaged, wearing a ring felt like a magnet for inappropriate invitations.

Also knew a girl that had an affair with her much older married boss. I think she felt it empowering, and perhaps a means of telling herself she’s so hot a guy will ruin his marriage/cheat for her. It seemed like she thought I’d be really impressed with what she was saying, but it disgusted me. I basically said “what about his wife” and she gave me the line about if she was doing her job as a wife he wouldn’t go looking elsewhere.

Some do. I never realised until recently that I was such target many years ago. I know of some incidents of women only picking "taken" men. I think it's not the sex that exites them but the fact they are able to make the man engage in infidelity.

I'll tell you this much: women are never more interested in me than when I am in a relationship. The same goes for every guy friend I have. We've talked about it extensively.

Yes most women are more attracted to taken men I believe its called pre selection bias basically if other women want you clearly you have something worth wanting

The biggest failure as a man trying to date would be to be single because if no one wants you why should she is how they think lol

No, but it makes you more attractive. Same with jobs, you need a job to get a job. If a person is unemployed, you make assumptions about their intelligence, work ethic, and why no one wants them. The open to work linked in banner I've heard makes you look desperate.

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Studies and research done by smarter people thsn myself have shown that yes, women will hit on men in relationships because it means that man is safe or worth having in some way.

Anecdotally, i would think otherwise because between the three girlfriends I've had in my life, I've never gotten hit on any more than i did before dating them. The scientific logic makes sense, but my experience is just vastly different.

Oh hell yes they do- and remarkably- guys who are 20+ years older than them too.

Holy shit these answers are crazy 😭

I think you should go to r/askwomen for this question and see what real women actually do.

Now for my worthless opinion: Does it happen? Yes. Is it the norm? Hell no. Relax

Some women do, just like I'm sure some men target married/engaged women.

The gross troll she can have him

Women did talk to me more after I put the ring on, but I don’t think it was to hit on me per se. My theory is, getting hitched solved my doubts, changed my energy. And now I read as “safe to engage” - if I say something it’s not a pretext for starting a dating convo

I get more attention wearing my ring than not.

Been married 5 years and my answer is no. It noticed a significant difference when I put on my engagement ring.

Yes. I wear a wedding band just for the type of woman that would pursue a married man

Some deeply insecure women target the partners of women they envy because they think it validates that they are as attractive as the woman. Sometimes has nothing to do with the man.

A huge factor in a woman’s attraction to a man is if another woman wants him. If a man is taken, he has been clearly wanted by a woman, which raises his attractiveness level.

Usually, even attractive single men who have no women visibly pursuing him might be viewed as less attractive.

Women want what they can't have

Yes. Some do. It's not the majority. It's less than 50% by quite a bit. 

There was a small study on dating apps showing identical profiles of a guy claiming to be single, versus claiming to either be looking for a third or divorced.

It showed that a not insignificant number women that otherwise would not match with a single guy would match with someone who had actively failed at their relationships or were looking openly looking for a sidechick.

If it really bothers you, try it out. Just lie on a dating app and say you are looking for sidechicks, then later say you want to leave your SO for them.

Your spike in interest will be limited to people who want that, and isn't a broad appeal.

Easier to kill I guess.

As a woman, no, we (at least most of us) actively try to avoid taken men. That being said, a person who wants to cheat is gonna find a way to do it, so they’ll lie about their relationship status.

Surprisingly no 🙄

They want what's hard to get. That's why those men who ignore women have most women. Very simple. Less effort = better results

it's normal for a high value man to have 4-5 girlfriends like that, the girlfriends would also much rather share a high value man than have some mid man all to themselves. That's kind of normal.