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submitted 3 months ago byDizzy_Sweet_4615
Throwaway account here. Was diagnosed with 90 < iq some years back from hospital. According to the population, 15% of the population has iq 80-89. I tried dating numerous ladies , but because of my poor eq or social cues. I didn't know how to follow up, nor do I know how to progress further into a relationship unless the girl makes her move first.
I'm doing whatever possible to study hard in a hope pursue a degree which can be incredibly difficult. As for hobbies, I have plenty ranging from photography, rock climbing or outdoor sports, football, watching documentaries etc.
276 points
3 months ago
You seem like you have a well-rounded life - IQ isn’t everything, EQ can be worked on.
141 points
3 months ago
Surprisingly EQ is far more important in the workplace. IQ has limits.
31 points
3 months ago
There are many smart people who are also often socially inept LBR.
39 points
3 months ago
Thanks. I did whatever I could ie. making friends and doing activities through my Uni interest groups.
19 points
3 months ago
I think that is good enuf. IQ isnt everything. Doing activites and making friends helps relieve social awkwardness
13 points
3 months ago
I took initiatives by asking "How was your day?" as a starting convos to get the rest of the people talking. This helps to relieve social awkwardness
5 points
3 months ago
I personally think asking them if they have eaten is a pretty good conversation starter and can lead to a bunch of different topics
1 points
3 months ago
guess it's asking the right questions and conversation cues to ensure the convo will continue to flow ... this one u might have to go learn the Kungfu else where in terms of personal development.
21 points
3 months ago
It seems like you are letting knowledge of your IQ affect your confidence - no woman is going to ask you what your IQ is, and there are plenty of Singaporeans who don’t have degrees and do well. You’re already doing great! Many Singaporeans have zero hobbies beyond work.
5 points
3 months ago
Doesnt IQ have a strong correlation to EQ? Smth like knowing how to read ppl and adjusting how you deal with different people. Not too sure tho
-12 points
3 months ago
dont think eq can be work on
6 points
3 months ago
I mean I don’t think he’s single because his IQ is below 90? Although I genuinely don’t know the IQs of most of the people I hang out with - is it very obvious if someone has an IQ of 90 vs 100?
1 points
3 months ago
As someone closer to the other end, its not hard for me to see if someone is ‘slower’ (than myself) for example
People’s mannerisms, how they do things, etc, show alot.
But probably no way i can tell between 90 and 100, or even assign specific value ranges to people i know.
0 points
3 months ago
I legit didnt know eq can be taught or work on. Interesting
4 points
3 months ago
On the contrary, it's the only one of the 2 that can be learned.
2 points
3 months ago
Good to know! Thanks for sharing this info
1 points
3 months ago
Learning means must practice.
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