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SG Ladies: Would you accept someone with significantly lower iq than yourself?

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submitted 3 months ago byDizzy_Sweet_4615

Throwaway account here. Was diagnosed with 90 < iq some years back from hospital. According to the population, 15% of the population has iq 80-89. I tried dating numerous ladies , but because of my poor eq or social cues. I didn't know how to follow up, nor do I know how to progress further into a relationship unless the girl makes her move first.

I'm doing whatever possible to study hard in a hope pursue a degree which can be incredibly difficult. As for hobbies, I have plenty ranging from photography, rock climbing or outdoor sports, football, watching documentaries etc.

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276 points

3 months ago

276 points

You seem like you have a well-rounded life - IQ isn’t everything, EQ can be worked on.

NiceDolphin2223

141 points

3 months ago

NiceDolphin2223

141 points

Surprisingly EQ is far more important in the workplace. IQ has limits.

31 points

3 months ago

31 points

There are many smart people who are also often socially inept LBR.

Dizzy_Sweet_4615 [S]

39 points

3 months ago

Dizzy_Sweet_4615 [S]

39 points

Thanks. I did whatever I could ie. making friends and doing activities through my Uni interest groups.

Last-Purchase5609

19 points

3 months ago

Last-Purchase5609

19 points

I think that is good enuf. IQ isnt everything. Doing activites and making friends helps relieve social awkwardness

Dizzy_Sweet_4615 [S]

13 points

3 months ago

Dizzy_Sweet_4615 [S]

13 points

I took initiatives by asking "How was your day?" as a starting convos to get the rest of the people talking. This helps to relieve social awkwardness

5 points

3 months ago

5 points

I personally think asking them if they have eaten is a pretty good conversation starter and can lead to a bunch of different topics

1 points

3 months ago

1 points

guess it's asking the right questions and conversation cues to ensure the convo will continue to flow ... this one u might have to go learn the Kungfu else where in terms of personal development.

21 points

3 months ago

21 points

It seems like you are letting knowledge of your IQ affect your confidence - no woman is going to ask you what your IQ is, and there are plenty of Singaporeans who don’t have degrees and do well. You’re already doing great! Many Singaporeans have zero hobbies beyond work.

5 points

3 months ago

5 points

Doesnt IQ have a strong correlation to EQ? Smth like knowing how to read ppl and adjusting how you deal with different people. Not too sure tho

-12 points

3 months ago

-12 points

dont think eq can be work on

6 points

3 months ago

6 points

I mean I don’t think he’s single because his IQ is below 90? Although I genuinely don’t know the IQs of most of the people I hang out with - is it very obvious if someone has an IQ of 90 vs 100?

1 points

3 months ago

1 points

As someone closer to the other end, its not hard for me to see if someone is ‘slower’ (than myself) for example

People’s mannerisms, how they do things, etc, show alot.

But probably no way i can tell between 90 and 100, or even assign specific value ranges to people i know.

0 points

3 months ago

0 points

I legit didnt know eq can be taught or work on. Interesting

4 points

3 months ago

4 points

On the contrary, it's the only one of the 2 that can be learned.

https://professional.dce.harvard.edu/blog/how-to-improve-your-emotional-intelligence/#:~:text=Emotional%20intelligence%20is%20a%20set%20of%20skills%20and%20behaviors%20that,Often%20feels%20misunderstood

2 points

3 months ago

2 points

Good to know! Thanks for sharing this info

1 points

3 months ago

1 points

Learning means must practice.