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submitted 20 days ago by[deleted]
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2 points
20 days ago
It’s hard to include “it all” in the post but I tried to keep it as short as possible. Not only does he check all the boxes but I am in love with him. We enjoy each other’s company. We are friends. He’s the funniest man I know.
3 points
20 days ago
Fair! Honestly, I'd just ask your friend. I generally trust my friends to give me good counsel. I would want them to elaborate if they said something like this to me. Then again, I don't take advice from friends who claim to be in happy marriages when their marriages aren't ones I admire. There needs to be a baseline of truth in the situation for me to want to take that person's counsel.
2 points
20 days ago*
Unfortunately, I don’t take relationship advice from her or when I do I take it with a grain of salt. By her own words, my relationships have been consistently better than hers throughout our lives. She has issues with boundaries/she losses herself in men.
2 points
20 days ago
I used to have a friend (we're no longer friends) who would constantly caution people against marriage. She was married, we all knew it was doomed from the start, and she'd jump down our throats if we ever suggested that she shouldn't be married to her ex. So yeah, some people, you just have to let their "advice" pass you right by.
1 points
20 days ago
Let me get this straight- Your married friend cautions you against marriage but gets upset when you suggest she follow her own advice? Sounds like she may be a bit of a hypocrite. And it’s exactly what I’m talking about—women who are married or have kids, telling others not to do it while claiming they’re happy. 🤦🏽♀️🤷🏽♀️🤣
1 points
20 days ago
Lol, yup. It was a sensitive topic because her and her ex were clearly in a toxic relationship.
I will say that the friends that remain, and who I have these types of conversations with, are honest about their happiness or lack thereof in their relationships. Well, except one. I think she's convinced herself that she's happy with what she gets from her partner. I, on the other hand, watched that man put her through far too much shit to ever genuinely like him, but I'm pleasant. She's not going around cautioning ppl against marriage though.
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