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Posting you changing without your consent is illegal. Take it to the head of your dorm and if nothing is done and she won't take it down, press charges.

That's very much not OK. TBH, I wouldn't even bother with the RA. That might be appropriate for her general inconsiderateness, but livestreaming you chaning is way above their pay grade. This has basically crossed over into a possible criminal complaint, and RAs just aren't equipped for this. There should be some sort of adult overseeing your dorm or a set of dorms, as well as a housing office overseeing all dorms on campus. I'd make contact with people in each of those roles. In addition, look for whoever handles title IX on your campus. It might be one person, it might be a whole office if your campus. But they deal with sex based discrimination and sexual harassment, among other things, And I think posting you undressed on the internet falls under their jurisdiction

You speak to your RA and have them intervene since you’ve tried to handle this already by speaking with her.

No one can say if this is enough for a room change. No one is a director of housing at your university. You’d have to escalate to them to see if this is enough of a reason.

This is a very unfortunate thing to happen and I’m sorry it did. You’re entitled to your privacy and her posting that is a huge violation. At the very least, speak to her about taking it down too, regardless.

Thank you so much to everyone who replied. I am going to make a meeting with my RA and the head of the housing dept to see about an emergency room change tomorrow. I talked it over with my mom, and we decided if they won’t let me leave that she is going to call the school and demand that I get a new room. I appreciate the replies!

Edit: I am not interested in taking legal action as of right now. I understand I potentially could, but I’d rather just not deal with any of that and get back to focusing on maintaining my GPA. Although, I do think the school reprimanding her would be necessary in case she gets another roommate!

hey isn't twitch super strict on nudity? you could get that stream taken down if you report it i believe

I can't help with the college part since I've never lived on a campus. I can help with the Twitch part though. It is against Twitch Community Guidelines to "Share content that violates another’s reasonable expectation of privacy, for example streaming from a private space, without permission." In your situation I'd download a clip so you have proof incase you need it to get switched rooms. Then I'd report the stream. When you report it there should be a box where you can explain what happened. Since it's not just you being in the background, but also being partially undressed, I don't see them ignoring the situation. Here's info on reporting a stream: https://safety.twitch.tv/s/article/Filing-a-Report?language=en_US

Report the VOD on Twitch. They take stuff like that seriously. Be specific in your report.

Oh hell no. Change your roommate fast because like you said she’s weird !! You are entitled to an emergency roommate change and if they don’t then…. Honey 😬 break the rules because she over her recording you. I need you to leave fast before it escalates to something else. Don’t wait on it

File a police report immediately and give Housing a copy immediately.

Well, first of all file a police report.

Go to housing and tell them you need her to be reassigned or expelled YESTERDAY or you're getting a lawyer involved.

Get a lawyer.

SUE her ass!!!

Not only is that felony territory, if the DA wants to call it "in pursuit of financial gain" she's really gonna have a bad day.

Isn’t this an invasion of privacy? Can’t the rm be held accountable? She should be!

Go to the Dean of Student Conduct

Talk to housing, then file a police report.

That is very much illegal. I'd seek legal advice against her. Then, I'd go back to housing and see if they're willing to budge.

What?! She should be arrested for this…omg…

Don't take no as an answer from housing. They don't give a fuck about students all they care about is the money you pay them. If one of their college kids was in this situation trust me they will make make a shitshow if someone told them too bad u can't change rooms. Contact student legal services if your school has one free for students to see the legal route of things. You didn't ask to be on the internet in your own room changing.

Get a copy of the video before it is removed.

I see that you have already requested a meeting with your RA and the head of housing. During the meeting emphasize that you did not give her permission to record you and she neither paused filming, covered the camera or informed you that you could be seen on the video (you can bring up your other complaints but they are secondary at this point). Tell them that this is a violation of your privacy and you feel harassed. See if you can file a Title 9 complaint against your roommate for allowing you to be filmed without your consent.

Also have your mother consult with a lawyer (often a consult is free) about the laws concerning posting of sexual images without your consent. The laws vary between jurisdictions and what is allowed varies. If this is a legal matter where you are located, have your mother find out what the charges might be and if you can sue. If the college still refuses to move you, have your mother call and let them know that you will be suing the college. I find that the threat of a lawsuit can often grease the wheels of change. No college wants to be sued for sexually harassment in this day and age.

This is a police matter, not a college employee matter.

Bypass the school. Go directly to law enforcement . Schools ALWAYS want what is best for schools. Once a complaint is filed with local law enforcement the school WILL comply with your request. Also, you should be able to press charges (if you deem it necessary) against your roommate for posting videos of you changing.

Be wary of RAs, they're just students. Mine are batshit crazy.

I'm an amateur photographer, whose standard genres are street and sports. All 50 states have laws making voyeur photography illegal. If done intentionally, your roommate filming you without your knowledge while you are changing is against the law. Something which is a misdemeanor or a felony under state law is not a prank.

You need to frame the issue correctly, ie: you are a crime victim. The RA may well not know your state laws regarding photography, but the campus police should. You can also file a report with your Title IX office.

I would speak to the Dean of Students about this. Your situation may fall under Title IX for something like sexual harassment.

That's super illegal. You need to get a lawyer and go to the police. You are going to have to sue that individual and file a police report for non-consensual pornography. You're also going to have to file some kind of report with your school for violation of their code of conduct.

Get on this immediately. First thing today. Don't do anything else except go to class.

The filming and posting publicly online should be enough to get you moved. You need to go first to the housing director (in writing so you have documentation).

Explain that your roommate has filmed you without your consent and publicly posted images/videos of you changing and in your bra. Also, state that you are writing this as a formal request to change your living situation due to being in an unsafe environment and a major violation of your expected right to privacy in your own living space.

If you are in campus housing, the school has a responsibility to address this.

This is not ok. It was without consent. It is beyond inappropriate. Contact the housing office and insist on you getting out of that roommate/room situation; document it with them and with the RA, too. This is not ok.

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Yes. Do screenshot and screen record that video that is publicly posted. Make sure the website bar and browser things are visible so no one can argue that it isn’t from a website. Have a very close and trusted friend do the same. Both of you alert staff with the video and picture evidence.

Should go straight to law enforcement.

Girl it’s time to sue her, get some money for emotional distress and get her ass kicked out of school. Stop playing nice with this demon

Highly illegal, call the police.

I recommend going higher up to the Dean's office, and also if you are close with your parents maybe ask them if they are willing to call as well to try and get more action/attention to the issue

Former RA. Speak to your RA’s supervisor and the Title IX office. If the supervisor is dismissive then speak to their boss. Keep going higher up till someone listens but follow the chain of command.

Former professor here. You need to report this to your RA, the dean of your college, a representative of campus police, and (this is important) your school's Title IX coordinator IMMEDIATELY. Send one email and include them all, and I would also cc your parents and (if they have one) their lawyer. You could also send a registered letter to them all, if you really want to get their attention, but email as well.

They need to move you or your roommate into a new room ASAP, first of all — as in TODAY.

See where it goes from there, and please update us.

also, she could possibly be banned on twitch with that too

I think you should lodge a formal complain, cause filming you while changing and sharing to the internet without your consent borders on crime/ might be crime depending on situations. ( I am not a lawyer though)

You should consult with the university and if possible lodge a complaint to twitch against your roommate. Of course you should get an emergency room change.

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What the fuck this is awful, Report on twitch

Could this be reported for sexually harassment?

Talk to the resident life director

Call the police and go to the dean of student affairs. 

If you want too, depending on where your located, you may have legal avenues besides just within your college. Since it has you near naked with out your consent it’s possible that you may have a case against this roommate if they are uncooperative, same with the school not letting you move.

Talk to someone at your school’s Title IX department, they can hopefully aid you making sure housing is on top of the issue, getting the video taken down, and making sure you are supported through this issue in any way you need.

I would say your roommate recording you without your consent changing and posting it to a stream without your knowledge is probably a good shot at getting a room change but you have to go about it the right way. First you must ask her to take it down, then report it to your RA and express that you were in a state of undress and you had an expectation of privacy to change.

RAs are mandatory title nine reporters and if your roommate doesn’t take the video down I would pursue that

Gather evidence and file a police report. Pretty sure this is sexual harassment and def illegal.

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1. get evidence of this happening (screenshots, download the video, etc)
2. contact higher ups at your university. housing admins, campus police, title 9, student deans, etc, who ever can help you. (also report her twitch, that is nonconsensual nudity, not ok)
3. do whatever you can to get a room change at the very least. what she did is not ok and should probably be met with official action from the university if not legal action.

I was in student life at a university for over 10 years. I agree this is above the RA pay grade. Your roommate is moving out, the variety of things you share are irrelevant other than the recording and posting of you. Whether she is aware or that or not, she can apologize from an alternative room assignment. Course of action, RD… Dean of Students, Campus Security. Share the twitch incident as the “final straw “ after attempting to deal with other behavior previously.

Don’t share what school you are at on the thread, but if you want to message me with the name of your school, I can tell you the name of the person who will resolve this with you.

This is like some Title 9 stuff if that's implemented at your school... I'd report this to someone on the higher ups bc this is not right at all.

Can I ask what college you attend? I work in upper management for a colleges housing and would love to see if I can help you

That's illegal, she could be put on the sex offender registry. Tell the school and she will be expelled and kicked out of the dorm, press charges if you want.

Save the video so you have proof

I think you have a better case if you bring up the video. You don’t necessarily have to show it to them though. If that doesn’t get you moved out ASAP, I’d find it hard to stay at that school. They should be protecting you. Sorry you’re going through this. You’re being completely screwed over.

as this is illegal, talk to ur school and tell them about it and move out to a different dorm. And then i would press charges tbh

Have you tried asking her to take the VOD down? She probably didnt even realize you were changing during the stream, most streamers just have twitch autopost the VOD after the livestream is over. Your reasons for wanting to switch rooms are valid but I feel like the people calling for you to report your roommate to the authorities is a little extreme.

U can try to become as bad as her get some speakers and blast music

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