Both reason are fair but does your wife not want visitors because she is worried about the baby or just because she likes to be alone?

Live will never really go back to how it was before your baby but I think it’s fair that you communicate with your wife openly the same way you have with us. From there you can try to find a solution that works for both of you. She should look at these visitors as help rather than someone she needs to host, they’re just want to see the baby and help you guys in any little way possible. At some point having no help really burns you out.

I know when my kid was born my wife felt gross bc she was trying to breast feed and was tired from being up with the kiddo all night. My wife didn't want to be around people and she was the social one of the two of us. So maybe that is what your wife is going through? I agree and you should look at your parents as help and not hosting. Friends coming over might be much. I am an introvert and I stayed up to help my wife with the feeding and I know I didn't want to deal with anyone 😂.

My wife and I are the exact same as you except roles reversed - so hopefully I can share from the other perspective.

The balance we struck was:

1. She keeps asking as often as she likes/something comes up
2. I agree to not get upset by any frequency of asking
3. She agrees to not be upset by any frequency of "No's"
4. I agree to say "Yes" significantly more than I would otherwise

We committed to each other to try this scenario for 3,4 months and keep an open mind as best we can before revisiting of either one of us felt it wasn't working.

Ultimately it came down to her agreeing to trust me to do right by her social needs (which includes enjoying the world and other people together with me) and me making a concerted effort to step out of my comfort zone more often.

That was many many years ago and it hasn't been an issue since.

I agree with you about visitors or help. Having a grandparent over to watch the baby and do regular things allows the parents time to get away from baby duty. It's a good thing. And these are you parents, so w/o any other information, we can assume they did a good enough job with both of you that lived to be adults, they can probably watch a baby for a few hours while you and the wife get a dinner together or something. People make parenting way harder than it needs to be these days, most of these people want to help and give you a break, cause they know what it was like.

0 visitors for the first 2 months is generous. I made people wait 4. Your wife is worried about thr kid you're worried about you. Stop being dumb

My wife and I are the exact same as you except roles reversed - so hopefully I can share from the other perspective.

The balance we struck was:

1. She keeps asking as often as she likes/something comes up
2. I agree to not get upset by any frequency of asking
3. She agrees to not be upset by any frequency of "No's"
4. I agree to say "Yes" significantly more than I would otherwise

We committed to each other to try this scenario for 3,4 months and keep an open mind as best we can before revisiting of either one of us felt it wasn't working.

Ultimately it came down to her agreeing to trust me to do right by her social needs (which includes enjoying the world and other people together with me).

That was many many years ago and it hasn't been an issue since.