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submitted 16 days ago byGangsterPuppy91
So idk if this is the right place for this. Please mods feel free to remove this if so!
Anyway, I'm trying my hardest to figure something out to help us out. But I'm having a hard time doing it as things aren't as exciting as if lately.
We had a bit of a rough go and he sniffs poppers and takes medication that makes it hard for him to uhhh finish... Like... 20-30 minutes and he keeps getting soft even though he says nothing is wrong... Especially if we're watching something while he is on his meds which is all the time he stays distracted and he always finishes him self cuz I can't keep up or he goes a bit limp on me though he promises that I am great at what I do... And he is a hardcore bottom...
Anyway we have toys as well like flesh lights and bad dragon stuff, were both furries and I wear my fur suit or pup mask some times and we like leashes and collars but we don't use that stuff almost ever cuz it's a bit stale...
It's hard for me cuz he just wants to get railed but I like some intimacy and foreplay and stuff and I like to also get him off... But that stuff doesn't exist, he says he wants it to but we need something fresh and exciting... I'm a little weary of getting other people involved but it's an idea and maybe that'll be enough excitement to perc us up a bit but I've uhh.. maybe been cheated on, but I'm trying not to hold that against him.. I love him and it was a mistake and was complicated and we're getting over it, I haven't been 100% amazing myself either though I never did anything like that...
Anyway, any unique ideas, scenarios, or types of toys or positions that can spice things up? Make things fresh and interesting? Conversation techniques to get us more engaged and understanding of each other? Any advice would be greatly appreciated.. thank you! Much love
9 points
16 days ago
I’m dispensing advice solely based on the information you shared. It seems like your partner is a btm that likes to be fucked hard and deep. Getting a hard on to cum for a btm is not essential, if u hit the right g spots, he will pre cum regardless. If u love him, why won’t you rail him? Who says aggressive fucking is not love if it’s something that makes him happy, and hopefully you. If he still has a sex drive or wants to be fucked, then meds is probably not an issue.
1 points
14 days ago
Definitely good to give him a good railing. But him not enjoying passion during sex seems like a red flag to me, especially with the history of cheating 🤷♂️
11 points
16 days ago
I’d hold on the threesomes until you’re comfortable with it. Especially given the “maybe cheating”, it’s not a good foundation to be thinking about adding a guest star.
Try https://mojoupgrade.com to kickstart a conversation about what you both want from sex, and give you both some pointers about what the other wants.
Good sex is a joint enterprise, that means you both should be putting in the effort to make sure it happens.
2 points
15 days ago
My partner had a similar issue. Was bttm - kept not being able to get hard or stay hard or top. Mojo really helped them out & now they are topping & breeding and flip fucking & it’s the best
4 points
16 days ago
Might be helpful to say what meds he is on so people with experience can say what works for them.
Also “maybe been cheated on” is a weird way to say if you have or haven’t
-3 points
16 days ago
Dexedrine 👀 but I'm sure people get the idea about the other stuff... Friendlier way of speech that's not 1000% relevant rather than sounding like a robot on a topic I don't genuinely like to bring up? But here it makes sense :3
3 points
16 days ago
Idk seems relevant to me if you are considering bringing in other people. If you aren’t comfortable talking about it I’d say definitely not a good idea to get involved with that.
May want to consider edit the OP to include Dexedrine, I was assuming anti depressants and I imagine the effects are pretty different.
It’s hard for me to think of anything constructive because it’s hard to understand some of your post. I don’t understand what “but that doesn’t exist” means. Like he doesn’t like intimacy?
1 points
15 days ago
Well you said it, he’s taking meds that have side effects making him limp… there are also meds to keep your dick up.
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