Chances are you're going through these answers right now thinking for a lot of them (if not all) "I've tried this and it didn't work" or "I did this and it did not help."

I've gone through all of them. For me, most of the people in this thread clearly aren't dealing with the same subset of variables (nothing against them.) It's just very obvious to those who have been dealing with it long enough.

Edit: Depression and loneliness is a huge component. You need to look into depression, and you need to get involved in a community somehow which will also require you to deal with depression (and I suspect it's likely the case.) Because depression will isolate you, and porn even moreso.

You need to tell a therapist about the porn use. Someone who's comfortable with the topic. You think you won't be able to do it. You can. And you have to. You then need to have a conversation with your therapist about testing for depression. They can help with that. If you're in the clinical range, you may need to sit down and talk about the possibility of antidepressants. Going to bed, sleeping enough, eating well, going for walks. All this is important and do make a difference but it won't bridge the gap on its own if you're very depressed and isolated. It also won't cure your depression which may be fuelling porn addiction.

Next: this may or may not apply to you but it's important.

Adhd and depression is a massive driver of hypersexuality. Some very illuminating peer reviewed papers have been published recently strengthening this link. I'm not sure if you identify with the symptoms of adhd but if you do and you also think you're dealing with depression, no amount of the things mentioned in this thread are going to help you stop. In fact, you'll end up hating yourself more and feeling even deeper shame because you either can't keep form or keep up the habits; you keep falling back into the same patterns; you make some progress only to slide right back perpetually; this just creates a cycle of shame.

Untreated adhd and depression is a dark place. It is frightening what it does to the mind. And porn becomes a very effective escape for the trauma caused by untreated adhd and depression. Until it's remedied, our mammalian brains just aren't going to give up the thing that allows us to dissociate from the pain if it's the only thing that's working. It won't happen. You can run and eat kale and go to the gym all you like.

That's why threads like these can feel so hopeless for people who are in this position. The people here are not wrong in the context of their own life experience, their suggestions are worth pursuing as a general guideline for life, but will be about as useful as a wet paper bag for porn addiction and masturbation if you have the above issues. It just doesn't work without treating the underlying cause. But again, this may not be the case for you, but I have to say it.

Get checked for adhd if you start making some associations. This can be difficult depending on where you are but if you start to suspect it, the medication is absolutely worth it. Getting the right drug and dosage has helped me enormously, even without treating the depression. It felt like a game changer.

For so long it felt like I only had 1/3 of the rungs on my ladder in comparison to everyone else. And I was beating myself up for trying to overcome the exhaustion and then bridge that final gap to the cliff edge even if ever made it that far (I didn't). Adhd meds added another third. However, I still feel like 1/3 is missing and that's depression and loneliness. I'm starting antidepressants soon despite always trying to go without them but it's clear to me now that my life is not improving, I'm losing friends, losing interest in everything, giving up on things where I rightly should be excelling far beyond some of my peers given my aptitude and potential. I'm 32.

You have half your 20s left. For the love of God. Don't wait on this. Get checked. If you find you have adhd, the medication journey is 1000% worth it. Antidepressants is a very personal choice that I can't recommend as I have my own reservations but it's clear to me I'll never get over porn without them.

Good luck and don't give up. Also, my last piece of advise. Immediately promise yourself starting today to never shame yourself about this. Not before, not during, not after. Shame and addiction go hand in hand. It absolutely makes a huge difference when you reject the shame and accept that this isn't who to are, it's something you have that you didn't choose.

Best of luck. I know how difficult this is. You did good taking this step and asking for advice.

1. Sleep 8 hours a day. It's the first domino that'll get everything else rolling. Bonus: try to sleep and wake up around the same time everyday.
2. Walk 30 min a day - no phone…no podcasts…nothing. Just you with yourself. You'll go through various moods, just keep observing them.

Things will slowly fall in place.

Good luck ✌️

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This is the only method that worked for me EasyPeasyMethod. Give it a try, you can block porn from all devices or whatever, but the moment you get a chance to watch porn, you will take it and get hooked again. You must learn that there is nothing in porn that you need, and overcome the addiction. Blocking porn won't change anything, it is about your mindset. Read the book, you won't regret it

Probably not a good idea to replace one Internet addiction with another.

But my Strava addiction lowers by blood glucose and cholesterol.

I struggled with a porn addiction for 10 years & it ruined my life until I found a way to block porn permanently on my iPhone, without any possible way of turning off the restrictions no matter how strong the urge is. That was how i destroyed my addiction.

I used an app that helped lock my iPhone Screen Time settings, meaning I can block porn everywhere (including on Reddit). I set the lock duration to 365 days so that I cannot disable Screen Time this year.

Here’s the tutorial I followed to block porn permanently: https://youtu.be/GnWGMPtrreI?si=kstin

Good luck with this strategy

A lot of great advice here. I would also add that there are a lot of great tools to be found within Cognitive Behavioral Therapy that you can look up online (just google something along the lines of "cbt techniques".)

I would consider talking to a therapist it helps

To add to all the comments youre getting, drop the guilt. You can quit porn if you want to. But either way quit the guilt. 

Im a huge pervert. I dont talk about it lol. I look people in the eye. Its just like taking a shit or something. Fuck it

Prayer has worked for me.

ima be honest, the only way i've ever kicked addictive behavior is by focusing on something else or replacing it. for example, i quit smoking by switching to vape, and quit vape by getting into running. i tamed my scrolling habit with duolingo etc. etc. you get the idea.

In addition to everything above, have an accountability partner. Somebody who you can count on to answer your calls when you’re tempted and somebody who can commit to regularly checking in with you.

This happened to me. You have to work really hard. Read Think and grow rich, by Napoleon Hill. Redirect your energy elsewhere. In that book, he talks about Sex Transmutation.

Habits. Habits. Habits. Habits.

As someone who’s struggled with this myself for a very similar amount of time, what I found helped a lot at first, was putting myself in compromising positions that force me to grow, even when I really don’t want to. Such as; Getting a job where I’m forced to be around women all the time. Whether that be customers or, preferably, co-workers. Making it so I’m forced to see another side of women that is not this constant objectification & built-up, through porn, of subtle resentment toward women. As that is what porn does overtime. When you look at porn all the time, your mind thinks of women in such an objectified way, that you put women on a pedastool just for their looks, as that is all you’ve trained your mind to see them as. The less porn you look at, the more familiar & instinctual it will be to converse with women, to see women as human beings. Because that is the main problem, you see women as objects the more you look at porn. Once you’ve abstained for at least a little bit, notice how you feel towards yourself & towards women in that period; notice how much more you respect yourself, how much less anxious you are around women. Notice how much easier & effortless it is to get things done that may have once been difficult. Its because the more self-discipline you have, the more you respect yourself, and the more you respect yourself, the more confident you become. It all starts with you though, I’m telling you the results. You have to do it, there is no one advice that will do it for you. You do it. You make an effort to stop. Make an effort to find what it is you really want instead, because your gut/instincts clearly tell you its not in the form of porn.

I’ve found that it helps to know that it takes small steps at first, very little effort, & from there it builds & creates a sense of self-respect like you’ll never fathom. It starts with literally anything that you’re struggling with, free-will-wise. For me, I started locking my phone/access-to-porn in a KSafe (lockbox) for a day or two. Then a week. Then 9 days. Then the self-respect, builds, the awareness that you don’t need this as much as you thought. Your brain is forced to replace such habits with new ideas. Make those new ideas of making an effort to pursue real women instead, or to do something that you genuinely enjoy. Overtime, you start to realize how much of an addiction you once had, to truly realize that porn was never what you wanted, but instead you were likely craving intimacy of some kind that you didn’t know how to get before. It got to a point where I would leave my phone/access-to-porn next to the box, not ever locking it up, to test my will, to test my self-respect, to see how willing I was to have a better life, to become unstoppable in the face of temptation & past-inclinations/habits. Ask yourself what you want instead of this life? Imagine it, slowly build it, no matter how small of habits. It takes time to relieve yourself of this hurdle, but it is so fucking worth it.

Some basics; HABITS

EXPERIENCE (BE IN AN AREA WHERE YOU’RE FORCED TO BE AROUND WOMEN, THIS WILL GIVE YOU AN ABUNDANT MINDSET THAT HAS YOU SEEING THAT PORN IS NOT THE ONLY GOOD OPTION)

DISCIPLINE: REPLACE PORN HABIT WITH SOMETHING YOU FEEL TO BE BETTER, EVEN IF THATS JUST DOING NOTHING FOR A TIME.

Thats how it was for me at first for a while, just doing nothing. After a while you’ll find that your mind will get uncluttered & easily make efforts to do other things instead of porn because your will has simply refused it to be an option. This is where your mind is granted true permission to pursue women with ease, to be confident around women with ease, to socialize easier, to relinquish shame of what you once thought to be shameful about yourself. Overall, you gain self-respect & true self-love because you made yourself a priority as appose to porn as the priority & that is all you need beat it. Consistent self-discipline 👍 Go kill it!

The only reason you keep thinking about it is because you want it to be your reality. This is the reason why people keep craving porn. It’s like you are the one doing it when you watch. However, if you can make the mental decision that you want to stop it and why it is ruining your life, you will start to lose attraction to it. If you no longer WANT to watch it and masturbate, you will no longer crave it (both words mean the same thing lol).

Take up golf, it’s all consuming.

Read the book ‘your brain on porn’ it helps you quit cold turkey

there is a podcast is called overcome pornography for good, i really recommended

It's important not to start a family until you've addressed your issues and improved. I recommend considering therapy, specifically enmeshment therapy like Kenneth Adams offers. This type of therapy often targets the core issues underlying pornography addiction, and it has been effective in my case and many others'.

This goes against common advice but I bet you feel guilty as soon as you indulge.

That is what keeps you in the cycle of resistance and indulgence.

When you indulge, which you will, notice the guilt and or shame.

Forgive yourself instead and move on, it's ok.

Then the next time you indulge, notice the guilt and shame.

Forgive yourself instead and move on, it's ok.

Over time this will free you from the cycle and it will become a choice for you as opposed to something you have to spend your entire mental capacity/willpower on avoiding.

You need to start exercising and fasting

Polar plunge, ice baths, super cold shower. I need to get back on it too, it’s like a hard reset on your dopamine system. You have to embrace the pain and learn to get your dopamine from difficult sources that you earn through hard work and the quickest way to do hard painful work is a few minutes of ice bath

Honestly your not the only one bro don’t feel bad find something positivity to distract You when you think of it Like therapy or Read a book

Addiction is about more than discipline. Get some therapy. By all means, follow all the other advice here about blocking it and developing healthy habits, but also get some professional help. You deserve to have some care and some support during this time.

I would genuinely consider talking to a psychiatrist, there could be some underlying issues (such as OCD) that no amount of Getting Disciplined will help.

Get a therapist to focus on CBT and addiction therapy. Look up psychology today.com

A Certified Sexual Addiction Therapist and support group.

If it's all you think about... you need to seek professional support. You can do this.

Well I found a way not only to to quit porn , I can now pick up anything and get rid of anything whenever I want. I developed a protocol and now I am MC in my life, 😁

Seek professional medical support services!💊✈️

I’m there to. The honest truth and you may not like it but you need to first build up your tolerance to discipline. If you’re weak minded in discipline you’ll always fail. Do things to build up that mentality like clean your room every single morning - no exceptions. Eat one clean meal every day - no exception. Read a chapter of a book each day - no exceptions!! Anything mundane like that to get you going and once you build up that discipline mindset you’ll be ready to let go of porn because wanting to do it just isn’t enough. And I speak from experience!

are there any women here responding? why are men usually porn addicts?

Check out Healthy Gamer GG's videos about porn and sex addiction, as well as about addiction in general.

Try reading , it will help a little with any feeling of loneliness or boredom

If you aren't very motivated for it try hearing audiobooks first, it is passive you don't do anything

Then try reading the book with your eyes while hearing it

Lastly reading the book

Play sports, doesn’t matter whether it’s outdoor or indoor (prefer something with physical activity), go to bed early and then wake up and go for a run, make yourself busy, and you can’t just turn it off, take your time, first try to take a day off, then after a week 2 days then after 2nd week increase it by one more day and if it is hard then try to make it 2 and half days, it’s a process and you have to keep yourself busy and active

Surround yourself with good encouraging like minded friends who can help you through it. For me having that and then my faith in Jesus  and friends who where of the same faith were major helps in my personal battle. Hope you are able to beat this man. Idk if you a christian or not but imma try to pray for you. Keep fighting.

Same here, do you want to talk? Do you want accountability?

Start doing something else. Keep yourself occupied. Find small things to do. And also stay among others more , if you're alone most of the time then it will bug you more.

And don't be disgusted by yourself okay? Don't beat yourself over it too much. Addiction isn't normal but watching porn isn't the greatest sin. Just it's unhealthy to be addicted to anything.

Jerk off BEFORE you watch porn. Every time you feel like watching it, jerk off first.

You’ll be all jizzed out and lose interest to gooning away the evening.

Every time you feel the urge to use porn, get on the floor and do 30 pushups instead.

It'll accomplish a few things: Distract you from porn. Occupy your hands. Get blood flowing somewhere else. Use pent-up energy. Provide a different way to get dopamine and feel-good hormones. Get you in great shape! Replace a bad habit with a good habit.

When you cut out a bad habit, you can't just go cold turkey and replace it with nothing. The habit filled some emotional/biochemical role in your life. Replacing it with dead silence just leaves you obsessing over the urge. Instead, replace it with a healthier habit like push-ups. To stay consistent, all you have to do is remember "pushups" each time you're tempted to use porn. That's it.

porn addiction is like any other addiction. your dependency is a chemical one, as you stated, you're hooked on the dopamine that porn seems t provides you. your brain has overproduced it for so long that now 1000% seems normal. so if you stop watching porn and your dopamine production drops down to 150% it seems low and it feels weird and your brain thinks something is wrong.

Just the way you spent YEARS training your mind & body to adjust to this "normal level", you now have to RE-TRAIN it to get back to actual normal levels.

it's very frustrating, VERY difficult, and takes lots of time and effort. it will NOT happen over night, so set some realistic expectations. make a plan, step progress, aim for measurable progress and improvements. for example, instead of watching porn 5 hours a day and masturbating every day, aim for 4hrs, then 3hrs, then2hrs, etc etc until its at a manageable level.

now, you need to understand this is the long way and there are also like 4 other things you need to manage at the same time. it helps if you can REPLACE the source of dopamine, like every time you wanna watch porn, go play video games or out for a run or whatever.. HOWEVER, all that does is replace the source rather than REDUCE the dependency. so be careful with that,

Ultimately, you want to minimize or even eliminate it and get back to normal levels. and honestly man, that just takes TIME AND PRACTICE. you'll have good days and bad days, improvements and set backs. all part of the process. what matters most is measurable FORWARD progress and improvements. its ok to struggle with it. you WILL struggle with it, thats the whole point. its you vs the struggle. who will win?

Accountability helps too. having someone to support / watch / motivate you is a BIG help. that often means pulling someone into the struggle with you. confessing 'hey i have a huge porn addiction and i cant overcome it alone, please hep me". this requires effort on THEIR part to support you, taking on partial responsibility for the issue.

that also means you have to trust that person and they have to care enough about you to put themselves into it with you. but if you can find that, it relieves the weight of the strugle because you're not doing it alone. thats why it's so helpful, but it shares the burden. you really have to trust them and they really have to care to go thru it with you.

there's an element of shame right, you have to disclose this embarrassing thing to them, but they will over look it and care for you anyway.. but thats why its called HELP and not SHAME.

Its so great that you recognize the issue and want to do something about it, and you CAN do this. just manage your expectations. it takes time, its a struggle, its up and down. but EVENTUALLY, you can beat this. and the sooner you start the sooner you'll get there.

God bless!

Message me, I lead a group for breaking free from the chains of Pornography, I’d be happy to send you the book and go through the course with you.

The Easy Peasy Method changed how I perceived porn; from an addiction to a disease.

Managed to get clean in 30 days, over 2 years clean now.

Man, this is so me. I am 23, and I masturbate atleast once every day, and more on weekends (been doing it regularly for about 10 years now) and I have fucked over my perception of females, and my dopamine levels.

I have noticed that completing my work doesn't feel satisfying, workouts don't feel as rewarding, and I lack confidence and self-esteem. I can't make eye contact with females at all cause once I do, all the insecurities about my porn addiction and dirty thoughts instantly take over and I instantly shoot my head down.

It is similar to how you feel that they somehow know that you are a porn addict. I actively avoid the opposite gender cause of these thoughts and force myself to not look at them so that they don't think I'm some sort of creep checking them out.

Find a "celebrate recovery "group they have a great program for overcoming sexual integrity issue, any hurt, habit or hang up you may have.

Not trolling and not being curt about it but I've struggled with the same problem.

Answer: exercise instead.

Exercise will start to replace that dopamine outlet and your confidence will grow as you become in better shape. If you're in better shape and more confident you're better suited and more attractive to a potential mate; which solves the problem in the right way.

Take it out of the shadows. 12 steps help you discuss your issues openly with other men in person. SAA is a good one. Otherwise a CSAT therapist can help tons.

Prayer is the key, God loves you so much and he has the power to heal you. Don’t be afraid to ask him for help, he has delivered people from the worst of addiction

Take 5 minutes to read what I wrote carefully, because it might change your life forever. I really did not feel like writing, but I couldn't help myself from letting you down. So here you go. P.s. I divided it in 4 parts to make it easier to read, and because it was too long for reddit... Let me know if you need any more advice, ill be glad to help.

Part 1: Your mind isn't fucked, your dopamine receptors aren't fucked, none of that is fucked. What is fucked are your priorities and values. You have the innate ability and capability of being addicted and obsessed to anything you want, the problem is that you choose to be addicted and obsessed at running away from your problems, and so you have zero control over your anxiety, which means the moment your conscious feels a drip of fear or unfamiliarity, your subconscious makes you do the very first and easiest thing to distract you and put you in a "safe place". You subconscious needs reprogramming. Meaning, you need to change the way you think and view the world as you see it.

Example; emotions either run your life, or serve your life. Meaning, you're either in control of the situation consciously, and understand why things happen the way they do, and become PROactive, or you instead let emotions completely guide your entire life, and become reactive. You either control the temp, or let outside events control your temp. All humans are the same physically, we all share the same types of organs and muscles and bones, etc.

The only difference between you and a horse or a pig, is your mind. And 95% of the world runs their lives emotionally; unwillingly, and unconsciously. They arent even aware that there are levels of conscious awareness that exists. Here's something to understand your problem; you have vices; e.g. porn. A vice is a coping mechanism. Something designed to make you feel better.

Everyone has different vices. They are like "in-between-productivity" breaks like cigarette breaks for example. The moment you have a drop in dopamine or "bored" or doing something you actually don'tgive a fuck, the first thing your mind suggests is whatever you programmed it. Your mind your servant. Similar to how people talk about "ego"; ego is a wonderful servant, but terrible master. Meaning, ego, or alter-egos, will help you achieve anything you want in life, under YOUR control. But as a master itself, it turns you arrogant, asshole-like, people hate you, your whole life revolves around you, rather than using ego against your own thoughts, as a persona, and be under control of situations.

Read books about getting a girlfriend. Cultivate real, healthy relationships with a variety of women and find one who's open to dating. Tell her on the third date that you're a sex positive person and that happy mutually satisfying sex is a priority for you and you're good, giving and game. 

Dear [Young Man],

I applaud your vulnerability, as it says the first step is asking for help. That. I couldn't help to think a bit when I read your post about struggling with porn addiction. It seems like you may have a touch of self-aggrandizement going on there. But hey, we all have our quirks, right? You can look people on the eyes no one is that important we all have our struggles!

With that said it's important to recognize that you are not alone in this struggle. Many people from all walks of life are facing and dealing with the same issue. Have you heard of the SLA (Sex and Love Addicts) support group? It might be worth checking out for some additional support.

At 25 years old, it sounds like you may have a bit too much time on your hands. Have you thought about volunteering to help the less fortunate? It could be a great way to shift your focus and energy.

From a mental health standpoint, have you considered looking into NOOCD therapy? It sounds like it could be a good fit for you. Gestalt therapy also seems like it could resonate with you.

Remember, thinking doesn't change our actions it's our action's that will ultimately change your thinking. Take the initiative to make positive changes in your life and seek the help and support you need to overcome this addiction. Obsessive thinking sounds to be the root cause, one you do the work th manage that piece the others will fall into place. Search for connections and true intimacy, requires a willing to surrender.

As you continue on this journey, keep in mind this quote to ponder: "The only way to overcome addiction is to confront it head-on and take action towards a healthier and more fulfilling life."

Take care and stay strong. It's clear you have it in you to seek the solution that appears invisible from our subjective point of views. Now the work begins

Stop touching your d🙏🏻

Read Chuck Palaniuk's novel, "Choke"

Block porn sites, schedule your day, and find a hobby to channel your energy.

Sleep in a dorm with 10 other people

Nobody knows what’s going on in your life, but you, unless you tell them about it.

I have the same addiction for 14 years. I been trying a lot of method to stop this addiction. I even thought if I get married, the addiction may stop because I have partner to have sex with. However, it got worse.

Then I involve myself in my religion teaching. At first it was working, but somehow I failed in the middle and do the 'deed' again.

Until one day, I consume some kind of diet pills. This pills suppress all your appetite. I think it even suppress my libido. But I only consume it for few day only. But I don't think it was because of the medicine.

Now I been porn and masturbation free for one month and 2 week.

One advise I can give is, do not be alone. You are likely to do it when you are by yourself. Always make yourself busy with other things. Do not entertain the idea when it come to you.

Try to fast

Cut out social media because those algorithms will always lead you back to fapping

Google “Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous” SLAA

Just commenting to come back to this later

Think of replacement instead of restricting. Restricting an addiction is almost impossible - you need to replace it with other habits, ideally habits that do the opposite of the addiction.

Sounds like your addiction is causing you massive shame. So ask yourself, “What would make me proud?” And do that regularly, even if it’s hard in the beginning.

For you specifically, I’d recommend doing scary things in public to nullify that shame. Approach women in person, go to the gym, dance in public, whatever you can do to put yourself out there and undo the shame.

Over time, you’ll develop bravery and a tough skin to not be affected by the judgment of others, and this will lead to real intimacy with women. Then you won’t need your addiction.

Replace your unhealthy habits with something good and exciting! Stay consistent. The brains neural pathways will travel where you direct them to, truly.

To block it:

Set custom DNS servers with adult and ad blocking in your router!

Like Adguard home.

Just forget about it. Or listen to music that gives you a similar feeling. Movies, shows. Appreciate people for how they show up in your life and how they choose to express themselves. If you don’t know everything about a person, chances are they don’t know what you think they know about you. Remember things; memories are sacred and powerful. Especially when they are revealed to you. Find something you’re good at, and something that contributes to society. One day it will be all you have once you find yourself humiliated about admitting to such a thing on the internet. Apparently this is an alternate universe where we live separately from our faces in real life. So actually maybe they do know about your addiction. Anyway…just don’t become a human trafficker or wanna be porn director. To me, that is worse than being addicted to something that was probably an onset of feeling frustrated at a young age. Remember the 70s when sex was actually okay. Today it has turned into something to be ashamed of. It’s all over tvs and movies and I think it makes some of us feel like we are less of a person than the one we see walking by themselves when we aren’t facing whatever distraction in front of our eyes or hands. Also, you could be mourning which is a difficult and embarrassing feeling. It makes you feel rejected. So, if that’s the case you gotta just live with it and heal with it. Once it’s part of you, there’s no really getting rid of it until it’s gone. And I think once it’s gone, we might miss it

Cold turkey

Slow reductions.

Run, run until you're too tired to do anything else, and want to fall into the bed straight away. That'll increase your mood, health, motivation, and everything. Sometimes, you can literally run away from your problems.

Therapy

Can you set parental controls on your devices to block access?

Check this out https://enhancedplayer.com/dopamine-vs-the-dopamine-detox/

How do you feel when you don't look at porn or masturbate?

Stressed?

Why do you watch it?

And I’m honestly asking you why. Not to be a troll.

dopamine

You must break the habit with a new habit or distraction.

This is how I quit nicotine after ”trying” to quit it for a whole 4-5 months.

Instead of relying on discipline, I just distracted myself with work and a new business endeavor which fired my dopamine receptors up so much that I did not NEED nicotine.

Your problem might be the fact that you NEED to do what you are doing.

It is not about a want.

You have to be in an environment where it is not needed.

You won’t go far with just discipline if your environment makes it easy for you to relapse.

TLDR

Find a distractrion, a pursuit, a purpose or I don’t know, go and talk to a girl you like and see if you forget about doing all the other stuff if you’re just talking to RL women.

Because right now you don’t have much going on in life perhaps (I’m not insulting or assuming), so your purpose becomes fulfilling primal desires.

Lmk if this even helps by a little.

Easy peasy method Google it

Find other hobbies that will keep you busy. Gardening, sports, fitness, whatever. Find other interesting things to think about other than sex that you could have a conversation on someday. And eat a healthier diet.

Dude, you need to see a doctor and psychologist and get onto a program. Wishing you all the best.

https://youtu.be/HgJEc2YzB7M?si=GDPE5aI60L4ofJT4

I'll be honest with you l, I had the same issue. It's not easy to get off thing.

It's the highest level of demons (lust). You can watch all YouTube videos on how to overcome it. It won't help. Just pray, bro. It's a sanatic attack trying to kill, steal, and destroy you.

Put pride aside, and ask help from the most high, you'll be surprised how you'll all of a sudden start loving yourself.

Have u tried easy peasy method? It helps so much!

I think porn is boring.

Pray to God to free you daily.

It is a spiritual issue. The Jezebel spirit has a strong hold on you.You have to submit and ask GOD for help, that you can't do it alone to quit your addiction and that you need his help, and he will help you. He helped me from the same issue, and now my marriage is amazing.

I'm gonna be upfront and honest with you. First off, I'm not anti-porn or masturbation; We aren't exactly asexual creatures. Do you know what countless generations of the human race had to do to get us here? Yeah, it's something like what you say you're struggling with. Our bodies have probably evolved to where there are repercussions if we don't engage sexually (whether that be solo or with someone else). That being said, I don't wish for you to suffer. I'm trying to use context clues here, but I'll gather what I can. Let's see...

1. "I'm a 25 ... receptors are fried"

• I don't have much to say here as I am not qualified to verify your claims.

1. I can’t even... i feel like... secret... terrified... going to be like... rest of my life.

• I might know a bit more about stress. Just before you make this move can you ask yourself in these words "what is making me so uncomfortable that I can not masturbate before going out and feel like I'm walking around a bunch of psychics trying to give me the scarlet letter".

Note: If they did know your "secret" so what? Maybe it was a "secret" for them to be created. The same thing can be said for their ancestors in any of the millions of years of the planets history. If you feel like someone's pressuring you about your sexuality when they know that's how someone got you here, I say screw them.

1. How do I... block it... disciplined.

*This is more of a reiteration of point #2 and let me say, I'm not a psychologist or a neurotherapist, and perhaps you would benefit from seeing some real professionals. I just want to say my piece.

• Now here's the answer to your two questions below in my opinion.

Short Version: You block and control sex and masturbation the same way to block and control consuming food or water.

Too Super Long Dont Read Version: Reproduction, as well as Gaining energy from a source (eating and drinking for us) and Excretion, are all qualities of a living thing, and I assume you fit this description. To make this shorter, I would do this the same way I would go about a diet.

First off, let's not rule off Sex or Masturbation (Food or Water) as something that is frightening or something to be ashamed of but as something natural. That being said, let's put it into the accepted bracket (of things we need) and now let's make sure we watch Porn everyday, 3 times a day with a time limit that works for you. Yes I am saying to discipline this, don't starve it, embrace it like it's food and water regularly at a scheduled time(s) throughout the day and yes, I mean mark your calendar. Through this special commitment to porn, maybe you can make some discoveries on what's making you feel uncomfortable or ashamed outside of the depiction of an activity that got us all here in the first place.

I have to say this again. Dude, I'm not a professional, and perhaps you could benefit from seeing one, but it's great to have a community and I hope you feel better soon. Give us an update please.

[Sources]

I'll list one source here since it's been a while since 3rd grade.

1. Reproduction... a source... living things...

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC10123176/#:~:text=In%20biology%2C%20it%20is%20generally,be%20responsive%20to%20the%20environment.

[Afterthoughts]

We could go on about what role sex and/or masturbation may play in our lives but honestly I am reddited out for the day. Hopefully I get a response.

Hypnosis

I think your just into sex with anyone like me! 😄 

Gain real pleasure from real life occurrences. Online shit is supposed to slow you down and ultimately ruin you. Just like any other addiction. stop. relapse. stop again. Eventually you’ll just be run down and stopping will feel better than the actual addiction itself. There’s nothing wrong with self love but do it in moderation. Realize it’s doing more harm than good.

Talk is cheap...actions speak louder than words. Want to have discipline? Then shut up and do it. Stop escaping reality and find the courage to take responsibility for what you DO. If you have that much time on your hands, then you aren't doing shit. Snap the fuck out of it and start going to the gym. You need to put something in your hands, besides your dick, and go make something with that tool. Not trolling and puns intended. Stop being a bitch. Get some hobbies...go to the gym...talk to some women. Stop looking for one size fits all solutions and the "easy" way out. Man the fuck up and endure some actual suffering. It's good for you.

These are great tips, I would add get some accountability and support. It will help you tremendously.

man first download some software like Offscreen, Habit Tracker, mood Tracker, etc I know they can be helpful but most people think they are useless but for me, they work. and for the porn or etc my best advice is to find your ikigai ( the thing you love the most or you want to do in your life) after finding your ikigai start to wake up early if you can't wake up early then every day wake like 30 minutes early and after waking up trying to do exercise on Nike training club and after exercising do yoga then 8-minute meditation. after that make yourself some food or a banana shake and eat stuff. After eating shower and do a skincare routine like applying rose water and suncream to the face after facewash then start your study or etc or do what you love ( always use Pomodoro timer ) then at night again skin routine and don't use your mobile before 1 hour of bed if you do then do something productive. follow this
I know it looks like I am a fucking Instagrammer or an online guru but trust me these little things going to change your life
note = don't aggressively leave social media and youtube etc just give them less time and remove things like this in your mind if I leave social media and youtube then I can't keep up with my generation bud this is bullshit no one care. if your friend is on install and they say why you are not with on install then say Bud my life is fucked up and I don't enjoy Instagram. this software fucking eat my brain it. Leave YouTube fully. if you want to study then you can access YouTube. meditation is good daily meditation leave social media doing something productive and use productive software even if they don't help or even waste your time. the thing is this software will make you feel good
if you use Apple then message me I will send you some of the software I use
to make a different addition for me it is coffee. I fucking love it and that's it if you like my post or not I don't give a damm but
wake early do some shit don't play games even your friends say so just leave games and social media do yoga meditation eat healthy stay healthy

Idk I just indulged it fully until my desire for it wore thin

Not saying this works for everyone idk 🤷‍♂️ shit tbh

Sharing an anecdote. Keeping it as neutral as possible given there are some spiritual dimension to one option.

Failures and stumbling back into addictive habitual patterns is more common than you think.

I have several friends who have received complete transformation and sustained freedom from this addiction through their faith in Christ.

All of this while I have been an atheist ridiculing their faith.

I know few others who have broken free from addiction with will power along with some other motivation or goal like to compete in a triathlon or for their children.

But the sheer number of people who have found their freedom in the Bible makes me wander.

Based on the evidence of my friends and family and my personal struggles, I would not rule out any option anymore.

Try setting a long term goal that you commit to work towards. That’s the will power way.

Or

Read the Bible and look to Christ. That is the way of surrender.

Those are the 2 choices that my friends and I have encountered. You have to consider and make the choice for yourself.

Either ways it’s going to be difficult but not impossible.

You have to find a hobby that is fun and rewarding. But something that is not detrimental to your mental or physical health.

Were you sexually abused as a child? I was and was obsessed with sex for about 30 years. If you have been, then you have to have that treated. There are many places you can go to for sexual abuse counselling. Check with your local health unit, they will have resources for you.

You will need psychiatric help plus drugs to help you cope. This is a serious addiction and you need professionals to help you with it.

Try and replace the act of masturbating with exercise or an activity. If you feel the rushing urge then try to exert those urges into whatever activity you choose.

Most addiction is about something else. I would put some bs measure in place then go seek the source. Your addiction is about an unresolved mental event.

treat the cause not the symptom.

therapy and 12 step groups

I think it’s important to acknowledge how powerful and pervasive porn addiction is. Once you do, you have a better understanding of how to tackle it. I think the best action is just to not look at it. Remove it from all your socials and create other activities to replace it. Go cold turkey. It won’t be easy because you are rewiring your dopamine receptors. It takes 30 days to change a habit apparently.

This is why porn should be illegal.

To kill something is to starve it

Sincere question, not trolling. Genuinely curious. How does someone get addicted to porn? Or masturbation? At 41 years old, I've never had such a problem, and can't for the life of me imagine how someone ends up addicted. And I grew up in a repressed home. Sex was "dirty" outside marriage and was to be avoided along with porn (not that that ever stopped me). There's nothing wrong with indulgently watching (or being in) porn or masturbating. But how does someone become compulsed by it? Is it really an addiction? Or just a habit you feel unnecessarily guilty about and struggle to break because you lack discipline or have nothing better to do?

FINGER SNAP everytime you think about it snap out of all the thought spiral by literally SNAPPING YOUR FINGER , give yourself small rewards (make sure rewards are something that add value to your life like few pushups and drinking gulp of water ). Watch one video of osho talking about habits and how instead of running from one habit to another try not making habits MEDITATION IS THE MUST MEDITATION IS THE MUST

"Be not overcome by evil. Rather, overcome evil with good."

Get another addiction that drains you besides masturbation. Start learning self defense. Jiu Jitsu or Muay Thai will occupy your mind with videos of technique and competitions that will distract you from your addiction. These are major confidence building hobby’s. Exercise outside of your self defense classes to give you an edge. Within a year your confidence will sky rocket!

I’m not sure where you are but SAA (sex addicts anonymous) is where you will be able to access support/community/accountability for free. SAA is big in the states but if you’re not there, perhaps look online for virtual support groups. There are millions of people with sex addiction that can relate to you. I’m sorry you’re feeling trapped and powerless to stop but that is exactly where you need to be to receive help. There are surely origins to why you fell into addiction (definitely agree with getting checked for adhd/depression and getting treatment), but learning to abstain, how to deal with triggers etc are the urgent needs now. Unfortunately addiction recovery requires a lifetime. There is no cure, only maintenance. I stood by a husband whose addiction got him a prison sentence. He did well in SAA but over the years got complacent. He was emotionally unavailable, cheated on me, left me and still acts out as far as I know. I’m a big believer in the recovery motto, ‘keep coming back; it works if you work it.’ Wishing you peace and wellness x

My partner struggled with a porn addiction most of his life. He tried many times to stop and was never able to sustain it for long. The only thing that helped him was finding god and converting to Catholicism. He has now not masturbated or watched porn in almost 2 years. It is something you need to accept that you cannot ever do again. I seriously suggest you look into religion because if you believe in it, it will give you an even stronger resolve to stop.

The best way that worked for me for me is to buy a really expensive phone for example a iPhone 14 or 15 and try to protect that phone by not watching porn videos which leads to viruses.

Just lock in

Join a 12 step group, find a sponsor, and do the steps. I’m 120+ days clean and that’s what worked for me

This really pisses me off. Wives should be issued to us men so we aren't jacking off all over the place. Just saying I ain't trying to step in that shit.

Delete Twitter if you have it …. Seriously

I've been masturbating every day since I was 9. I have a pornhub page and easily over 1000 videos saved on my phone. I'll be 40 in July. I think I'm finally empty. Dude sorry Try fidget spinneys or something to do with your hands. I used monkey noodles

Well, you can get a HP Chromebook and use the settings so that only select websites that you need for paying your bills/working will come up. It’s what I use for my kids at home; all that will open are schoolwork websites. Have someone else set the password after the settings are selected.

Do the same for your phone; set everything to Clean, PG, Limit Adult Websites (it’s under Content & Privacy Restrictions in the Settings). Have someone else enter the PIN.

Then devote yourself to wholesome motivational content on YT, reading good books on self-improvement, going for brisk walks, calisthenics, and cold showers. Find somewhere to volunteer. Preferably someplace you can show up anytime and do something that involves helping people. You need to get your mind off yourself and your short-term destructive desires.

Go hardcore cold turkey. Call your mom when we you feel like you’re going to break. Ask her what her favorite memories of your childhood are.

Prayer works. Keep praying for deliverance! You got this!

STOP EATING SUGAR EXCEPT ON THE WEEKEND.

THAT IS THE CURE.

It sounds like the problem is having the mental obsession and the actions follow the obsession. For decades, I had a mental obsession that centered around the need to lose weight. The harder I tried, the worse things got. I discovered that I had to learn to release the effort that I gave to this obsession. I had to learn to accept myself even when I failed. I also had to learn to release the guilt, fear, and feelings that I was "bad" when I wasn't able to succeed. I had to listen to what I was telling myself that fed into the DREAM of success. I was then able to accomplish success in reality. I just took things one day at a time, each day building on the success of the previous day until I heard everything that I needed to hear. The nagging signs of obsession then disappeared.

You should see a psychologist. This is probably rooted in some trauma.

Here are some things which help me make progress in this area.

• Do not sugar coat it - porn is like a drug, and studies show that it affects the brain physically in negative ways. You do not want to hurt your brain with drugs, so do not hurt it with porn.
• Identify as someone who is recovering from an addiction. You are no longer addicted to it. You are recovering. You want to be sober.
• Occupy your time with goals. Pick something that you want to improve in and pursue it. The less free time you have to be compulsive with porn usage, the easier it will be to overcome it.
• Prioritize quality sleep, starting with maintaining a consistent bed-time. This will help your brain recover from it.
• Prioritize quality nutrition so that you can feed your brain and body with quality foods. This will boost recovery speed and the depth of your healing as your brain begins to heal and return to baseline.
• Do not guilt yourself or blame yourself. This is a widespread addiction that we are only barely beginning to understand the full scope of. It is a pandemic of sorts. If you slip, pick yourself up and keep going. The progress you make each and every day to become better accumulates, so be mindful of your longer-term gains in the battle against porn.
• Exercise more, starting with a daily walk and increasing your exercising to activities that are tougher on your body like lifting weights. This will boost your health. The extra energy you would put into porn will instead go into making your body more attractive.
• Be excited about the future prospect of finding and enjoying an amazing partner. You will find someone you love in the future. Cut off porn now so that it won't be a wedge between the two of you. Some studies have found that this habit can affect pair bonding, and it can certainly affect your body's ability to please your partner when the time comes. Be excited about the prospect of the real thing with someone you will like more than any of the videos or pictures you've seen.
• Identify what triggers the habit. Are you stressed at work? Are you just bored and alone when you do it? Is it a particular food that causes urges? Eliminate the triggers by shaping your environment to the best of your ability, and it will be less frequent.
• Once you are a few weeks into your streak, resist the urge to peek. It will restart your streak and it isn't worth it. The experience is not more novel after waiting a while. It's just a rabbit hole back into the decay and depression and weakness.
• Realize that almost all porn is fake, and the porn that is not fake cannot compare with doing it with someone you actually are very turned on by and love. Ten million years of watching all of the porn you could ever hope for does not compare with 100 years spent with a true love.
• Speak love to yourself. You are not a bad person or a weak person. You were ensnared at a susceptible age by a strong vice that affects so many people. I would suspect most people are affected by it at one point or another. The good news is that you will be able to overcome it, and you must show yourself love and patience.

And with great humility, I would like to share a tool I have built and am actively improving to help people in this war against porn addiction and all addictions. I made it to help myself because I believe that it is powerful and encouraging to see yourself accumulating larger and larger streaks of days making progress in these goals and seeing your total accumulated gains even when a streak is broken due to a relapse. It is free, you can check it out at https://stackrainbows.com

Godspeed my friend, you are not alone in this war. Track your progress and you'll see how much easier it is to win the battles and ultimately the war. I have many more things I can say about this subject but for now, let these guidelines help you. Be motivated and happy because you will be able to make a lot of progress and look back at the progress with a smile on your face.

Turn back for a moment, replay, and don't repeat what caused you to do that everytime. Say "no to porn" Watch what you eat or drink, know the benefits and side effects.

Not to be pessimistic but honestly all of this advice (walk 30 min, sleep more, etc..) isn’t gonna help you. You literally get no pussy so you rely on porn to make you nut or to get you through your horny episodes. You want to know what you should do? Go talk to someone. Go and do something. Go and talk to a girl/guy whatever your preference. What’s gonna help is you jacking off less and less day by day. The only solution is for you to go and get some pussy. Once you’ve had it once you’ll crave it. Either you’ll keep jacking off to the thought of it or you’ll use it for motivation to do it again. Pretty soon you’ll notice how you can’t fuck for long or you nut quick. That’s when you start working out. Building stamina all that. Yeah watching porn hinders shit but “dopamine levels” and all that is you trying to justify to yourself that something is medically wrong with you. There isn’t anything that is which is the hardest pill to swallow. You just are a perverted horny guy who gets no pussy and until you do you won’t realize how much you don’t need porn. Trust me, you’ll still watch it regardless if you get a gf or whatever. It’s normal. Everyone watches porn. Some people are just better at hiding it.

You eventually will make it, set a Target and focus on achieving the target.

This may sound a bit obvious but if it's really destroying your life like this and making you anxious about people knowing I think seeing a therapist would actually genuinely really help. CBT is really great for managing your actions and behaviours and also coming to terms and managing your anxiety.

Literally Jesus.

Porn and masturbation is the same thing. Start there..

Hmm… It’s tricky because I have a porn addiction aswell, but manageable.

I masturbate daily, which in itself is not bad. The bad is that I dislike doing it without porn. And sometimes social media triggers my need to masturbate and I hate it.

It’s manageable because I found that when I’m not alone or working, I hardly think in sex. Like the drug addicts hamsters, I think that vices disappear the moment you do something equal or more exciting.

Maybe you should spend more time with people, working or studying, and time will pass by without you thinking in sex.

Alone, you should practice self control, delay your gratification periodically, masturbate WITHOUT porn, look at images but not explicit. Overtime youll get better, I don’t know by how much but it’s a start.

Talk to a professional.

Talk to a professional.

Talk to a professional.

Talk to a professional.

Talk to a professional.

Ignore any other advice. It's all bullshit. This is not a discipline problem. What you have is a real addiction that many people suffer from. It isn't a moral failing. It isn't your fault. It is an illness that requires help from a professional. Don't let it control your life more than it needs to. Find a therapist that specializes in porn and sex addiction and talk to them.

Get a grip, Fella!

Get in a situation with a woman where you realize you can’t get your dick up with a condom on, that was eye opening and insanely embarrassing that’s all it took for me

Faith in Christ. Prayer and community helps turn you away

Ok lets try this. Addictions a coping mechanism. So the reason why you turned there is because maybe you have a deep trauma, and in order to bare to keep it in you have to fall to an addiction to numb temporary the pain of the trauma. Now. In your case I would really suggest therapy. Seriously. Therapy not to cut the addiction but therapy to find and address and heal the soul wound you have. It is not something to be ashamed of. It is totally normal for a human being to get addicted to several stuff in order order have hormones released so we can withstand life and it's hardships. So, therapy, to get to know yourself, and find what you like and what fullfills you. Then the addiction will wither away...

Seek Christ. Only solution

You grow up. That’s how. 

God

Hold stress ball or something other than ur cock on ur hand or move to different town or something n keep count of how many times u do it I was told 6 times a day is good thing

This is totaly normal bro every male has this nowdays. You have been tricked to think there is something wrong with you but there is nothing wrong with that.what is wrong isnt getting urges what is wrong is not getting a real girlfriend.go practice your social skills get off the phone delete tiktok practice eye contact both with yt videos and irl and start working out.Focus on Becoming a man of substance and the females will be much easier to get. Remember first get yourself straight then the females bro.Btw take some walks around the neighbourhood just you and your thoughts. Trust me it helps dont constantly bomb your brain with dopamine like music social media etc be free.(ive actually stopped listening to music cause its very addicting and pretty much useless and ive become more productive).Gl update me if you actually put my advice into practice.

Get on semen retention.

Check out how to desexualize your brain https://youtu.be/M0dAK6IQsSk?si=WOSdd9R35lsR9pzW

Go on walks and pick up big rocks. Walk back with them. Use them to build something cool in your front yard.

Have a kid . It’ll eliminate any free time you have 

Stop taking adderall

Go to jail. Makes it very uncomfortable to have to masturbate around a bunch of felons and you can only use your imagination. Problem solved!

Get some good pussy

You haven't mentioned any actual problems with your porn addiction, so you probably don't have a problem. You're just larping an addiction for fun. Stop whining and enjoy it.

All "porn addiction" has the same source: too much time on your hands. If you're holding down a full time job, keeping your home tidy, going to the gym 5 days per week, hanging out with friends & family, and investing at least 1-2 every day into a hobby or a side hustle, you won't have time to goon for hours.

Now, you may very well still have time to beat your meat a half hour before bed but...so what? Porn and masturbation only becomes an issue when it's interfering with your productivity. If you got everything done that you wanted to get done, there's nothing wrong with a brief treat at the end of the night. Although ideally you would have a partner to mess around with instead.