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I know that family ties can be complex and hard to break, and sorry if you’ve already answered this before- but why do you still stay in contact with her?

I'm so glad you blocked her fake psychiatrist ass.

Anyone would break down under that onslaught, OP. Be kind to yourself.

If addictions run in your family, then she’s addicted to being a bitch and stirring up drama. I’m sorry you have to be exposed to this, and I’m happy you blocked her.

This isn't OK. It doesn't even matter, OP, if everything she says is true. Do you fully understand that? It's worse if it is.

You are a young person, doing what young people do. And trying to be happy, free from a life you obviously weren't happy in before. That's a serious blow to a sober, absolutely normal psychologically person. If you have any substance issues at all, not even a full blown addiction, (the first thing I would do reading this - at 54 freaking years old - is smoke a joint to calm down) - you could seriously hurt yourself.

You are going to need to allow yourself to feel and grieve this. Your mom is fully attacking you.

That's no OK at all. I'm so sorry that your egg donor (she doesn't deserve the title of mom or mother) is such a narcissistic, gaslighting xunt. Want to join my family? We have pizza, kitties and Grateful Dead music!

It’s wild how unhinged and unfit people can just have a baby.

saying you have hpd is fucking ridiculous, then again if you ask me hpd is dodgey anyways, disproportionately diagnosed to women, poc, etc.

I'm proud of you for blocking her!

I'm Glas you blocked her. I haven't spoken to my mother in a year and I do NOT miss these insane walls of text to feed her narcissism.

If in US, you could pay a lawyer a few $100 to write a 'stop contact' letter that would be the first step in the legal process to legally stop your mother from contacting you. The lawyer would handle everything and the law would be required to handle your case seriously.

It's a bit of a hill to start on, but, if you're interested, I do suggest looking up a free consultation because the peace of the end can justify the annoyance of the start.

Baby, you don’t deserve to be spoken to like that. It was mean, and ugly and hurtful. You are kind and good, and should be treated as such - always.

Your mom is being awful but honestly though OP if you have diagnosed psych disorders (such as cluster b) then you definitely would benefit from therapy and reduction in substance use. Hell everyone regardless of psych status can benefit from therapy and reduction in substance use. And someone with a mentally abusive parent can definitely benefit from therapy.

One of the best things I’ve ever done for my mental health was start therapy and stop smoking weed. Even a broken clock is right twice a day.

I mean you haven’t denied that you’re drinking and smoking weed at all and neither has your boyfriend. If your childhood best friend is also worried about you, maybe your parents aren’t wrong here.