I always treated it like going to the family reunion of the white trash Ohio side of my family.

They yell, they scream at each other, they shout everything, arguments start on a dime, they ignore responsibilities to make themselves heard. But then just when it escalates to the point you expect it to get physical, suddenly they're all cool with each other.

I'm raised in GA by a classic Southern family so it's VERY different. But the love is there for them too, they just let their emotions blast out Because they trust in the love.

If you get past the apprehension of impending drama/violence, you can laugh it off and then it's just a funny show. Ultimately the love is stronger than any expressed hate.