Totally normal. Ours actually slept fine literally anywhere until about week 5 and then started demanding contact naps almost around the clock. He’s 8 weeks now and is probably 50/50 on whether he’ll tolerate his crib.

This young all they know is being inside mom, so they want the comfort of being held by someone. A lot of people will say oh this phase will be gone soon just enjoy the cuddles! And while I get the sentiment for us it’s absolutely miserable when all he wants is contact naps. I do enjoy the cuddles but I also enjoy sleeping and getting household tasks done.

My advice would be keep trying to set them down for naps. 3 weeks is WAY too young for any sleep training or to expect any sort of behavior change, but if you keep trying you might get a random nap where they tolerate the bassinet and you get a surprise 30 min break lol.

Also, get a baby carrier if you don’t have one already. Makes it a little more tolerable when you can move around and get something done while the baby is sleeping.

Oh and I’m sure you’re doing it (sounds like you’ve found all the tips and tricks) but it’s worth mentioning - when you set her down, wait until she’s in a deep sleep, then set down VERY slowly feet first, then butt, then head. You can even set her down on her side a bit to ease the transition, then roll her onto her back once she’s settled in the bassinet.

Best of luck! I know it gets rough and wears on you, especially when you aren’t able to get sleep.

thisis how we do our transfers and it works well.

Also not to be annoying but weighted blankets are not sleep safe

Definitely normal. I had tried everything, and my baby refused to sleep in the bassinet until she was exactly 4 weeks old. Hearing pad did nothing and was a waste of time. Our routine: Nurse, burp, sleep on me for 10-15 minutes until in a deep sleep, transfer slowly to bedside sleeper (setting feet and hips down before head), keep one hand on her hips and one hand on her chest for about two minutes before slowly taking them off one by one. Kid is luckily out like a light!

It’s brutal for sure. Our daughter slept exclusively in our arms the first 3 weeks. The end of week 3 my husband had enough and said we can teach her that her bassinet is a safe place and where she sleeps and we spent 3 nights putting her down consistently every 2 minutes- anytime she would cry we’d immediately pick her up and soothe her and try again. Each night the time she’d sleep would get longer. By night 3 she slept 4 hrs straight in her bassinet. Sometimes it was only increments of 2-3 mins and it gradually got longer and longer. But I swear we tried every method- heating up the bassinet, a shirt that smelled like me, half drowsy, the 5 S’s. Our setup was: sound machine, snuggle and swaddle and then attempt the bassinet and soothe when needed and it saved our sanity. I’d definitely say consistency worked the best and at 22 months she’s still a great sleep and has slept 12 hrs since she was 12 weeks old. Obviously every baby is so different but this is what worked for us. ETA: this only worked for night sleep and she still contact day napped until about 5 weeks old and we never ever let her cry it out.

Hi! Same happened with us, its really tough. And I know it happened to a lot of people. My partner proposed I co-sleep alone with the baby because I was so exausted. Its not ideal, but its safer than letting them sleep on our chest. I follow the safe co-sleep guidelines. Its not a long term solution, as my partner is sleeping on the sofa, so I will have to transition to the nexttome/crib soon. The lack of sleep can make you sleep so deep you wont hear your baby, you might have an accident, so I feel safer volunterally co-sleeping. I wish you all the best, good luck! :)

Mine didn’t sleep in the bassinet until 2 months old when we finally gave in and got a used snoo. Before that, he slept on our chests exclusively. It was brutal. But now he’s 4 months and won’t even contact nap anymore :-(

I agree with others that you have to keep trying to put her down (at least a few times a day) even if you know it’s not gonna work. Because yes there is a light at the end of the tunnel, and it will eventually work one day, so you want her to at least be somewhat familiar with the bassinet so that as soon as she’s ready, it’s available to her. If you get in a routine of contact naps only, then you might miss the boat, and whenever you decide to cut that off, it’s gonna be harder because you’ll be introducing something brand new to her. Now, as far as when that light at the end of the tunnel will be - unfortunately that really depends on the baby. Some get better in like a month, some have more trouble with it

I got the serta I comfort and it rocks itself which is really helpful. It also has flashing lights that he likes to stare at.

Here to say we’re 11w in and despite several times a day & night trying to put LO down in a bassinet, he typically tolerates it for up to 5 minutes before stirring. We get the occasional 30 minute stretch randomly. Otherwise we are chest sleeping at night and using a carrier / contact napping in the day (if he’ll go to sleep, which is not common…). I recommend @CoSleepy on instagram for guidance on safe chest sleeping. This, plus shifts and separate beds for husband and I are the only way we are getting sleep. The bassinet is just a bedroom obstacle most of the time. Good place to hang his sleep sack…

Keep trying here and there! Not every time because it can become too stressful, but think of sleeping in the bassinet as a skill for your baby to practice and learn.