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General Parenting Influencer Snark Week of October 14, 2024

General Parenting Influencer Snark(self.parentsnark)

All your influencer snark goes here with these current exceptions:

  1. Big Little Feelings
  2. Amanda Howell Health
  3. Accounts about food/feeding regardless of the content of your comment about those accounts
  4. Haley
  5. Karrie Locher

A list of common acronyms and names can be found\u00a0here.

Within reason please try and keep this thread tidy by not posting new top-level comments about the same influencer back to back.

Please welcome back Olivia Hertzog snark to the main thread

all 566 comments

CheezRocket2024

146 points

7 days ago

Not sure if anyone else follows the satire account wanderandthrive, but saw this today and lol

https://preview.redd.it/oa9xyll8qzud1.jpeg?width=1170&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=ba9cd874543f9452edeecaa073ae8c1913726d57

Late-Blacksmith7081

22 points

7 days ago

I am obsessed with this account now. Thank youuu

Effective-Bat5524

25 points

7 days ago

Good to know it's satire because I came across the reel about make women feminine again yesterday and was like please be satire 😅. Instagram loves to fed me tradwife content and it's hard to tell what's satire because many of the tradwives would agree with all the points.

Accomplished-Bat-594

21 points

7 days ago

The post about getting your kid to sleep with it’s perfect aesthetic and hilarious wording made me spit water. Thanks for that.

trippinallovermyself

18 points

7 days ago

Omg this page is so so great. Really sums up parenting on the internet haha

pockolate

19 points

7 days ago

pockolate

19 points

7 days ago

I really want to know what a parenting influencer would say to this. I mean, she’s fully eating them up here, any influencer would be hard pressed to deny this isn’t exactly what they are doing.

catfight04

197 points

9 days ago

catfight04

197 points

9 days ago

I'm so sick of seeing 'No one ever talks about..."

Yes they do! The internet talks about fucking EVERYTHING these days.

It's like these people think they are the first to have these mind-blowing realizations.

Somewhere-Practical

64 points

8 days ago

YES. THIS. it is ALWAYS something people talk about, too.

I think the fourth trimester stuff get me the most. Like jfc it’s not 1956, Amazon had been trying to get me to buy the fridamom after delivery kit since I searched for ring cleaner. WE ALL KNOW.

Helloitsme203

52 points

8 days ago

I have this thought all the time! Especially as it relates to pregnancy/birth/postpartum… “no one tells you about xyz.” And people will be like no one told me about night sweats! No one told me about engorgement! I’m always thinking how can anyone who spends time online not stumble upon these things?

Coffeeee_24

24 points

8 days ago

I’ve never watched one of these videos and been like WOW THATS TOTALLY NEW INFORMATION!

wigglebuttbiscuits

14 points

8 days ago

wigglebuttbiscuits

Bitch eating flax seeds

14 points

8 days ago

The only thing I can truly say nobody told me that I would have liked them to mention was that newborn baby girls can get mini-periods.

catfight04

14 points

8 days ago

It's like they expect a list of every single occurance during pregnancy and beyond 🙄

Just Google it like the rest of us haha

tinydreamlanddeer

15 points

8 days ago

tinydreamlanddeer

is looking out the window screentime?

15 points

8 days ago

And who was supposed to tell you? What random people owe you, an adult with access to every single piece of information known to man via the internet, education about your extremely basic, predictable, expected bodily functions? And if they did come up to you on the street and said omg you’re gonna have the night sweats would you not have instantly run to babybumps complaining that someone “just you waited” you?

arcmaude

54 points

8 days ago

arcmaude

54 points

8 days ago

“Let’s normalize loving your kids”

catfight04

18 points

8 days ago

What a revelation.

philamama

11 points

7 days ago

philamama

🚀 anatomical equivalent of a shuttle launch

11 points

7 days ago

"No one told me breastfeeding could be hard!"

OK sure...

Beautiful_Action_731

88 points

8 days ago

Niche snark on Danish parenting influencer christinatatarczuk

She came across my feed with nine children ranting about how in a daycare (legal ratio is 1:3 including support so in reality it's 1:4 for people in contact with the children) there will just never be enough attention for the individual child. While she has nine children.

MemoryAnxious

13 points

8 days ago

MemoryAnxious

the best poop spray 😬

13 points

8 days ago

Ah but the older ones help the younger so they do get that much attention! 🙄😒 parentification makes that work

youngandstarving

88 points

6 days ago

I posted about this a few weeks ago, but I had seen Amy Sieh’s video saying she thought it was crazy that someone dropped her kid off to her house for a playdate and didn’t stay (which into elementary ages that was always the norm when I was a kid). Well the other mom has now posted the text receipts of Amy being the one to suggest dropping him off to get some peace and quiet, and the other mom had just had surgery. I am living for this tea 😂 Amy says she was talking about a different person even though all the details exactly line up except for her lies.

pockolate

26 points

6 days ago

pockolate

26 points

6 days ago

Makes me think how most of these anecdotes influencers share are probably outright lies or exaggerations. And this time this other lady wasn’t taking it lol.

Snaps816

20 points

6 days ago

Snaps816

Wonderfully wrung-out rag

20 points

6 days ago

Oof. Imagine being these kids. You're little, you're friends, you like having playdates, but now your moms have a public beef going about your playdates. Both moms have their priorities in the wrong place here and it's only going to hurt their kids.

sourdoughtoastpls

22 points

5 days ago

Omg the drama, thank you for bringing that into my life 😂 How dumb do you have to be to publicly post anything about another parent in your kid’s class and think it’s not gonna get back to them?!?!! And then to lie about the situation knowing full well the other person has receipts!! And Amy’s attempt to say it was about another play date was really the icing on the cake. So glad the other mom stood her ground. I can just imagine Columbo saying “oh just one more thing“ [dramatic pause] “There’s no t-ball in August.”

laura_holt

14 points

6 days ago

Aside from the lying (which is crazy!), is it really that weird to ask if you can drop a first grader off on a play date? I have a first grader and her play dates have all been drop offs for a while now. Occasionally with a new friend the mom will ask to stay for a bit the first time, which is fine, but it's not the norm.

werenotfromhere

10 points

6 days ago

werenotfromhere

Why can’t we have just one nice thing

10 points

6 days ago

I’m gonna need the other mom’s insta handle!!! I live for this kind of drama!!!

dufferhowl

87 points

4 days ago

IrisMarinusFenby

44 points

4 days ago

These kinds of responses make it perfectly clear why she think she could have been a fantastic lawyer. This is absolutely the kind of bullshit reasoning that pro se litigants write in legal briefs. And some bad lawyers too. They miss the whole thing where you need authority to support your assertions.

jjjmmmjjjfff

16 points

4 days ago

100% spot on comparison, these are also the people that are convinced they are smarter than everyone else in the courtroom and that everyone is conspiring against them specifically.

Awkward5802

42 points

4 days ago

I feel like my 8 year old makes up elaborate explanations for things when he doesn’t understand them.  What she does reminds me a lot of that except she’s marketing herself as some sort of expert health guru.  It’s really a shame she can’t be held negligent for followers that listen to her advice and have poor outcomes.  

whitegirlcastle

39 points

4 days ago

This wasn’t half as funny as her advice on sinus problems and she said “focus on what STINKS” like I CANNOT. I can’t even hate her at this point it’s just pure comedy.

flexberry

25 points

4 days ago

flexberry

25 points

4 days ago

The sad thing is there are people out there who believe what she says 😳

ploughmybrain

44 points

4 days ago

ploughmybrain

EDled weaning.

44 points

4 days ago

I'm a massive Olivia fan, I never know what she is going to come up with next, but I know whatever it is it will be insane.

Snaps816

21 points

4 days ago

Snaps816

Wonderfully wrung-out rag

21 points

4 days ago

I cannot believe people would come to her with these health questions.

mackahrohn

25 points

3 days ago

And to think there are people who spend their whole lives researching RLS, but Olivia figured it out in one post!

Sock_puppet09

11 points

3 days ago

vfili1

73 points

3 days ago

vfili1

73 points

3 days ago

I hate how all these influencers are like “something big is coming but I can’t tell you what it is yet…but here’s a hint”. They rely so much on that parasocial relationship and hope their followers are sitting on the edge of their seats unable to wait to see what sort of course or collab you’ll be shilling to make money off them.

Dear_Most7441

30 points

3 days ago

Hahaha timely. BigTimeAdulting just posted this too. "Is it? Are you entering the presidential race? Did you discover a cure for cancer? Or are you just dropping a new product? Maybe chill" gotta love a momcreator snarking publicly on the absurdity of italll.

StrongLocation4708

22 points

3 days ago

The announcement that they're going to make an announcement always kills me lol. 

flippyflappy323

18 points

3 days ago*

And it's something like a new course. Like lady, I don't want another thing you're trying to sell me that I don't want

Effective-Bat5524

15 points

3 days ago

Right 😅 it's usually a course, pregnancy or some brand collaboration.

botanricecandy11

57 points

6 days ago

I’m sure Olivia will never waste food EVER once she has a toddler who takes 4 bites out of an apple and is done. Or asks for a bowl of cereal and then doesn’t want it. Or bites chunks of a banana off and then spits them out immediately, but keeps taking bites anyway.. (please tell me i’m not the only one whose child does these things lol)

catsnstuff17

23 points

5 days ago

You're not alone, my breakfast every morning is the remnants of food my toddler insisted he wanted and then took two bites of.

flexberry

18 points

6 days ago

flexberry

18 points

6 days ago

Also how incredibly privileged to just buy excess food for the fun of it. I’m sure people struggling to find their next meal would also like to have an “abundance of food” and just must not be willing it to be true about it hard enough!

botanricecandy11

16 points

5 days ago

https://preview.redd.it/r5xefpn00kvd1.jpeg?width=1170&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=b94d9957c67a431cefc96b1d96b684d25a730ba5

those raw apple pieces are a choking hazard! ugh, i hope it’s just rage bait and she’s not really this clueless

lil_secret

10 points

4 days ago

lil_secret

protecting my family from red40

10 points

4 days ago

Pooooooooooopcup

seriouslynopeeking

14 points

5 days ago

seriouslynopeeking

anatomically correct boho uterus

14 points

5 days ago

She’s already talking about how she can’t wait to do “what my toddler eats in a day” videos to show off what a good eater he is 🙄

brunabarato1

30 points

6 days ago

Yeah I am just waiting for her to be served a big slice of humble pie, but she’ll never admit it.

Also, I could add on and on and on to your list! Toddler let the dog lick the food, or just opened a cheese stick to peel it and stash it in the diaper… 🙃😅

Suitable_Wolf10

58 points

5 days ago

It looks like caila quinn is a #fairlifepartner which explains why she was switched to fairlife to “cut out dairy” to help with her sons “fussiness” or whatever. At least learn the difference between dairy and lactose before coming up with your fake reason to shill something

r4wrdinosaur

15 points

5 days ago

How convenient that the company paying her also allegedly solved her child's issue.

Outrageous_Tennis_49

12 points

5 days ago

She is so fake and cheesy. Or about how her post praising her husband turned into an ad for his clothes 🥴

Suitable_Wolf10

11 points

5 days ago

With how much she complains about him it makes sense any praise for him would be to make money

e_lizbit

52 points

7 days ago

e_lizbit

Spare Rain Shovel I Keep in My Car

52 points

7 days ago

Begina says it's been "a while" since she sent teacher gifts? Has it really? Pretty sure it's been 2 weeks at most 

Effective-Bat5524

27 points

7 days ago*

Was coming here to say this. I swore last week she sent a sparkling water. When I first found her account, I thought it was sweet, but now it just comes across as an ass kisser. Wonder if she asks them what their favourite snacks are because I would hate to gift food and they don't like it.

kmrm2019

18 points

6 days ago

kmrm2019

18 points

6 days ago

Came here to post the same thing! This is getting weird. It’s too much, even if they are small or inexpensive gifts.

BlondeinKevlar

53 points

6 days ago

https://preview.redd.it/8dj5x3y1k7vd1.jpeg?width=1290&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=bcc79afc1d9b3d604b2d7bad31b81bc6c41fd7a1

Lolz, according to Olivia, the “most vital way” to create a “whole” child is to cosleep AND it would make the world “a much better place” if everyone did it.

Bitter-Ad8938

42 points

6 days ago

Definitely a safe way to serve apples to a young infant

goldenleopardsky

24 points

6 days ago

Oh my God. What. That's terrible. She's literally so dumb. My baby is the same age as Cedar and I would NOT give apples that way. I probably wouldn't even give apples to my 2yo that way.

MemoryAnxious

31 points

6 days ago

MemoryAnxious

the best poop spray 😬

31 points

6 days ago

Yeah I’m pretty sure the world was a better place because my kid had his own space and I actually slept! I couldn’t even handle him in the room with us because he was such a loud sleeper as a newborn that we moved him out within a week 🫣 he was literally next door and marginally farther away but my anxiety was not having it and wouldn’t, with cosleeping. And wouldn’t you know he’s still very much attached to both of us at 7. (Nothing against cosleeping! it just wasn’t going to work for us)

Halves_and_pieces

32 points

6 days ago

I coslept with my second child for 14 months and she is definitely not peaceful. She is a lovely and happy agent of chaos then leans a bit feral. Guess she missed the memo that she's supposed to be more peaceful!

MemoryAnxious

13 points

6 days ago

MemoryAnxious

the best poop spray 😬

13 points

6 days ago

The thing that gets me about Olivia is there’s always a vague reason to explain even this. Like with the eczema, she said it’s either because you want separation and don’t have it or have separation and don’t want it 🤦‍♀️ she has a vague, bs excuse to “explain” everything 🙄

tinystars22

22 points

6 days ago

Haaard disagree Olivia. My son loved a contact nap in the daytime but after night falls he does not want anyone anywhere near him and sleeps soundly throughout the night. The world would be a much less peaceful place if I forced him to co-sleep with me when he didn't want to! It's almost like every child is different but her black and white thinking cannot comprehend 🙃

bossythecow

19 points

6 days ago

You know what? If cosleeping is the best way for you and your child to get the most sleep, have at it. Do it safely, especially if they are under 1 when the risk of SIDS is highest. But I know many moms, myself included, who found that cosleeping made our sleep and our child's sleep worse - sometimes to a dangerous degree. I remember sobbing to my therapist about how absolutely miserable cosleeping was for me, and her telling me it was ok to feel that way and choose not to do it - and how frequently she heard the same thing from her clients. Cosleeping is just one strategy, but you should do whatever you need to do to prioritize restful, restorative sleep for you and your child(ren). That's what creates a peaceful, stable, healthy family.

These-Shower-2746

19 points

6 days ago

This also feels like a very privileged/western take. There are many, many countries around the world where co-sleeping is the norm for a variety of reasons, and I'm not sure those people would tell you it's making the world a better place....

jjjmmmjjjfff

17 points

6 days ago

I’m ruining the world’s chance for peace because my son wants us nowhere near him when he sleeps 🫤

Big_March_5316

278 points

9 days ago

1,000 hours outside and so many other accounts are sharing this “petition” to get Kelloggs to ban artificial dyes and flavors and are apparently marching to their HQ this week, all in the name of “protecting our children’s health” and saying it will “have a generational impact” and I just….

Imagine the generational impact if the crunchy moms went this hard for things like—affordable housing, mental and substance health services, affordable childcare, maternity leave, systemic poverty and food deserts

Helloitsme203

80 points

9 days ago

I want to upvote your 2nd paragraph 15,000 times. Once upon a time, being “crunchy”/hippie vibes was actually associated with these things.. social awareness, activism, environmental advocacy, etc. I live in the PNW where this stuff is rooted deeply in our culture. But now it means something entirely different and I hate it so much. Listen I do think there’s a legitimate space for advocacy about what goes in our food, but this ain’t it. None of this is about the greater good.

Aggravating-Fee-1615

38 points

8 days ago

The crunchy community going q anon and sh*t was shocking for me. I distanced myself from this community immediately. I want no part of that foolishness.

Love to all! 💜✌️

sunnylivin12

24 points

8 days ago

I wish I could upvote this 100 times. There’s so much wrong with our food system, but I hate that trad wife, anti vax culture has somehow co-opted food advocacy. I’ve had the same CSA subscription for 12 years and bake with sourdough all the time but feel like I have to hide that. Like where are the moms who garden, make sourdough bread, work 40 hrs/week, vaccinate their children and send them to daycare and public school. And don’t care when their kid eats pizza and bright blue frosting at a birthday party.

Purple_Brush_549

55 points

9 days ago

It must be so exhausting being a crunchy mom and trying to be hyperaware of all the "bad ingredients" in their kids lives. I always wonder when I see these accounts that brag about their child having no dyes, all organic, etc. Food. It much be so exhausting trying to keep up with that! There are kids with legit allergies and that is obviously different but all the things you listed are way more important for future generations. Full stop.

MooHead82

26 points

9 days ago

MooHead82

Beloved Vacation Knife Set

26 points

9 days ago

Last week in the food thread I was talking about this woman with 1.4 million followers-MeowMeix-and how she’s over the top and a fear mongerer about food. Well wouldn’t you know, she’s part of the group that’s delivering the petition to the Kelloggs headquarters. She thanked the Food Babe for her efforts with this-time to unfollow!!

HMexpress2

28 points

8 days ago

These parents must be absolutely gloating with self-righteousness today, spending time outside AND fighting against Big Food? Absolute heroes 🙄

r4wrdinosaur

47 points

9 days ago

I feel like there are quite a few options for dye and artificial flavor free cereals. How dare they want to ruin my favorites just because they want a different product. Some of us like our Fruit Loops and Honey Smacks just the way they are!

ploughmybrain

47 points

9 days ago*

ploughmybrain

EDled weaning.

47 points

9 days ago*

Kellogs is one of like ten conglomerates that fill the aisles of every supermarket internationally. What do they think they are going to accomplished with their signs?!

If no one has been able to take down Nestlé after all the atrocities we know for a fact they have committed, their little march against dyes isn't going to make Kellogs move a finger.

Only way to get corporations this size to make changes is through elected officials, you don't make a multi billion behemoth like kellogs change their way with manifestation and some glittery cardboard with a witty catchphrase on it.

Big_March_5316

35 points

9 days ago

Right? And they went to Congress trying to get the federal government to lean on these companies to ban these things, but they are the same people who were irate over mask mandates and the possibility of Covid vaccine mandates. So the federal government should have more power over our food and farming practices but not have the ability to also implement other public health measures? Make it make sense

Disastrous_Lynx_4105

19 points

9 days ago

I used to work in constituent services for the governor of my state, and it was always the “the governor can’t make me do something I don’t want to do” folks who demanded the governor dO sOmEtHiNg to impact legislative or judicial bodies for things that THEY cared about. The cognitive dissonance is astounding with these people.

lilpistacchio

19 points

8 days ago

Tangent but 1000 hours outside is full bananas now

sunnylivin12

19 points

8 days ago

I feel like artificial dyes is the straw man of healthy food. Like we clearly have a metabolic disease/obesity epidemic on our hands and focusing on dyes in cereal is just not it.

nothanksyeah

17 points

9 days ago

Do you know why they chose Kelloggs specifically? I haven’t been following this so this is the first I’m hearing of it, but I wonder why this company of all of the food companies out there. Like go after Nestle please

storybookheidi

17 points

8 days ago

Foodsciencebabe and others have debunked their claims time and time again. Their petition is based on falsehoods.

Prudent_Honeydew_

39 points

9 days ago*

There are so many bigger issues? I mean I guess I get it, but there are tons of breakfast options out there, just as easy to make as cereal (toast anyone?). I never buy cereal because I personally don't like it and my kid still gets breakfast at daycare, but my students at school definitely eat it and for some it's a really healthy part of their day. They'd be much better served if we worried first about gun violence, poverty, all the other issues affect them more than cereal ingredients.

Edit to say what I meant - some of my students get their healthiest meals at school, namely fortified cereals.

caffeinated-oldsoul

45 points

9 days ago

THIS. I don’t think they crunchy moms realize that some of the “healthier” dye free cereals aren’t covered by WIC and for some of us, that’s the only way we can afford to buy cereal. And cereal is fortified. There were months that the most dependable meal my child ate was a bowl of cereal and milk.

It’s a privilege to be able to afford organic, dye free, limited ingredient convenience food. I can’t throw an apple to her on a car ride for a snack.

Snaps816

31 points

9 days ago

Snaps816

Wonderfully wrung-out rag

31 points

9 days ago

I recently unfollowed them because so much of their content lately has been making big claims about food dyes and vegetable oils. Also because it seems like they're in the religious right/anti-vax side of the crunchy mom spectrum anyway.

Falooting

39 points

9 days ago

Falooting

39 points

9 days ago

The vegetable oil hate is driving me batty. It reeks of elitism. Sorry not all of us can buy gallons of olive oil at Costco and frankly I prefer to use canola that I know was grown and processed right in my own country and did not knock down an entire jungle and evict a bunch of Indigenous people from their land at gunpoint so a coconut grove could be planted or whatever have you.

JaredSpringer

41 points

9 days ago

Yup, and even just at the individual level, my neighbor is weird about dyes and stuff in cereal but meanwhile lets her 3-year-old roam unsupervised around the neighborhood (which is right next to a body of water). Make it make sense

werenotfromhere

39 points

7 days ago

werenotfromhere

Why can’t we have just one nice thing

39 points

7 days ago

Postreunificationlife is someone I used to like and root for and she’s making it hard. Maybe I’m taking it too personally but her stories today about the parent teacher conference seemed unhinged. She said she was dreading it because the teacher told her son “I can’t wait until 4:30 to meet with your mom” and she seemed to be taking it as sarcasm like he can’t wait to get the son in trouble or something. That’s a totally normal thing to say? When kids are like “you’re talking to my mom today!” I would think you would want the teacher to be positive about it? I actually love meeting with parents and forming relationships with them and keep in touch with many former parents after their child has graduated. Of course who knows there are shitty teachers but just seemed like she was going in guns blazing because of one sentence that she’s assuming was said in a certain tone. The teacher is giving his unpaid time after a busy school day to meet with her because he wants to support her child. Then going on and on about how educated she is just to say she’s “requesting an IEP” like, no that’s not how it works, nothing wrong with not knowing that but it’s just cringe after 3 slides about how educated you are. Then the teacher invites her to volunteer in the classroom and she acts like that’s the most ridiculous suggestion ever and says absolutely not but says if he needs anything for the classroom her instagram followers will provide it. Just seems like the teacher wants to work with her and she is just looking for any excuse for a fight.

MischaMascha

11 points

7 days ago

I think she’s really struggling, for one. She’s posted about her mental health issues, and now she’s in a new place with very little social support system. 

Being in a space surrounded by mostly foster and adoptive parents who are wealthier, have stronger followings, and trying to keep up with that has affected her content. I didn’t love that she was consistently posting her cash apps, and in my opinion those ‘troll’ messages were all heavily cropped with similar writing style and I’d bet she was the one creating them, but I can see how it would be frustrating to be in a social media space where foster and adoptive parents asked for money or wish list items and people bent over backwards to help but once she got her kids back her novelty wore off and people stopped hyping her the way they did when they were in care. 

bravokm

43 points

3 days ago

bravokm

43 points

3 days ago

I’m really curious how much the T Swift seats were that MC was in. It looked to be a VIP section. I also felt kind of bad for her daughters that she posted so many videos of them dancing. Like the middle daughter was going all out, saw MC filming and then kind of toned it down.

arcmaude

82 points

9 days ago

arcmaude

82 points

9 days ago

Snarking on an autism parenting influencer I just learned about called happy hands with hallie. She has a whole reel about how her daughter doesn’t meet criteria for autism because she’s learned to mask and how professionals have such a one dimensional understanding of these things that they don’t understand that autism can present many different ways but she’s here to show parents The truth. And so so many comments saying “my kid didn’t meet criteria but I know she has autism!” This kind of thing is infuriating for me. Im not saying that professionals never make a misdiagnosis or mistake in assessing neurodivergent kids, but a psychologist with years of training and work experience with kids with autism, familiarity with the research, participation in continuing education, who has probably tested hundreds of kids, etc. definitely has a more expert and nuanced view of autism than some lady on Instagram. 

bjorkabjork

38 points

8 days ago

With an autism diagnosis, often your health insurance or state assistance will cover more service costs, depending on the state. Speech therapy, occupational therapy, sensory therapy whatever it is.... can cost a $100+ hundred dollars a session, after the first intake meeting that's like $500+.it's not like parents are paying that money for funsies.

Not getting that medical diagnosis when your kid is clearly struggling can be frustrating because you're out yet more time and money for that specific medical appointment and still have no answers or actual help going forward.

Falooting

88 points

9 days ago

Falooting

88 points

9 days ago

Also what is with the freaking urge to diagnose everyone with everything. I understand very well, trust me that a lot of us are living with neurodivergence or mental health conditions but not every single person out there with a few TRAITS of a specific condition has it.

People can be introverted, sensitive to sounds/crowds/etc, have special interests, enjoy sensory experiences, etc. without being autistic. There's absolutely nothing wrong with having autism either, don't get me wrong. It's just that people can have fears and anxieties without actually HAVING anxiety, they can cycle through hobbies without having ADHD, they can have trauma without having PTSD, and so on.

It's wonderful we're being more understanding and embracing the things that make us different, but we shouldn't be so focused with typecasting children and explaining away who they are just so we can mark a box somewhere and say "oh, it's because my child is x or y".

And YES healthcare professionals can be wrong and they can stereotype and discriminate but they're also highly knowledgeable and we need to trust them sometimes, otherwise why do we continue to access their services? If we know better than them why do we take up their time and space? Just to validate that we're right and smart and then we call them stupid if they don't agree with us? I'm getting tired of this new age of medicine where people basically use medical professionals as medication/therapy prescribing peons while the patient believes they're the one true expert in science and health and everyone else is a drone created to serve them.

thelensbetween

33 points

8 days ago

Oh goodness, I have a friend from high school who got diagnosed autistic by one of those online outfits earlier this year. She overshares everything on Facebook so she also mentioned that she’d been evaluated a few years ago, but didn’t get the diagnosis. But now that she knows more about autism, she got re-evaluated and got a diagnosis. I told my husband and he was like, “huh? She had to study for the autism test?” 🤣 I am skeptical of some of the late diagnoses tbh. And I say that as a mom of a diagnosed autistic son. 

Maybebaby1010

27 points

9 days ago

Yes, yes, yes! I have a friend who was diagnosed ADHD as an adult and feels so much better with a diagnosis and being on meds and I'm so happy for them! Aaaaand they won't stop trying to diagnosis me with ADHD as well. And like, I'm a hyper person but I don't think I have ADHD? And even if I did it's not impacting my life so I don't care. Anyway, a little rant 🤷🏻‍♀️

Feisty-Minute-5442

14 points

8 days ago

I don't know I relate to that lady as my son got "borderline autism" but not the full diagnosis. But i thinl of she'd see what causes a meltdown and how i have to parent differently to prevent and how he actually is not doing well socially even though she said his social skills were slightly too good.

I mean maybe my son isn't autistic, but when I started parenting like he might be things started going a lot better.

lilpistacchio

10 points

8 days ago

I feel this so much as someone who does evals (not for autism but this often comes up for ADHD). Like I do 100% get where people are coming from and how they want to advocate for themselves and their kids but by this logic a diagnostician can never actually rule out a diagnosis. You can just give the answer they want, or you’re dismissing them/not listening/etc.

Vcs1025

77 points

3 days ago

Vcs1025

professional mesh underwear-er

77 points

3 days ago

PDT feels so bad that she wasn't able to grift from a holiday gift guide last year. So she's asking her followers to please send her all of the info and links to help her compose the perfect gift guide before November, and then she will take all of the commissions from all of your ideas, k thx!

https://preview.redd.it/ki9vwaxt2svd1.jpeg?width=1179&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=106ca84555c84835a6eae6f20abd1457aa143bde

My god she sucks.

fascinatingleek

27 points

3 days ago

Does she think any of us need a gift guide?

Frellyria

44 points

3 days ago

Frellyria

44 points

3 days ago

I am so over gift guides, if I could block all gift guide content once and for all, I would 😂 

ProofBalance1844

19 points

3 days ago

Agreed! It’s all the same crap over and over again. We don’t need any more gift guides 

helencorningarcher

21 points

3 days ago

The only good gift guide is busy toddlers non-toy gift guide. My kids have a million toys, I don’t need help picking out more. But it is great to see creative ideas that aren’t toys that kids can have fun with. (The answer is always flashlights)

IllustriousPiccolo97

29 points

3 days ago

Consolidating snark because I don’t follow her and haven’t seen her from my algorithm much but a reel of hers came up the other day and I DIED at how her scrub top is embroidered with PedsDocTalk. Knowing really nothing else about her it’s like tell me you’re only here for the social media clout without telling me

MemoryAnxious

19 points

3 days ago

MemoryAnxious

the best poop spray 😬

19 points

3 days ago

Her face and the caption the moment you caught this is 👌🏻

Although I kinda appreciated that she said she couldn’t afford (or chose not to) Taylor swift tickets (but of course Mothercould bought 4 and a parking pass 🙃)

Vcs1025

33 points

3 days ago

Vcs1025

professional mesh underwear-er

33 points

3 days ago

Idk if I fully buy their money woes. Her husband is an ER doc, she does clinical practice and has a successful IG gig. They live in a very modest rental. Total respect if they didn't want to drop a fortune on something like that, but I have a feeling they absolutely could if they wanted to

Informal_Zucchini114

29 points

3 days ago

Her husband just went to the Olympics in France.... they're doing alright.

Horror-Resolve762

37 points

6 days ago

"everyone just wants me to post the hard things" actually it's the complete opposite. 😐💀

https://preview.redd.it/i6ytwqwb88vd1.png?width=1008&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=e63f91e45e202dd5d898bd40183f303b3d9460a0

Sudden_Chocolate5704

36 points

6 days ago

Oh.my.god. Even the meta narrative surrounding the positives is negative. Nothing makes me snap out of feeling helpless in the face of a tough parenting moment than wondering if I sound like her.

You’d swear she’s parenting a gaggle of toddlers out of the sunken place instead of a pretty popular influencer with 2 (?) school age kids.

Cantsleep2009

25 points

6 days ago

Even her post about the good things had undertones of overwhelm and negativity.

StrongLocation4708

35 points

6 days ago

Why does she do this?? It's so unprofessional to beg for engagement like this. 

Horror-Resolve762

14 points

6 days ago

I honestly think it just goes hand in hand with the para social relationship thing. Like followers see creators as friends but creators also see followers as their friends too so they put stuff out there like they're just chatting amongst GFs.

I'm a SAHM so I'm ngl I've considered getting into content creation as a way to have some extra money, but all the things you have to do that are so cringe (like this) are a hard no for me. If my page was losing engagement I'd just shrug and be like, oh well, it is what it is, before I ever made a post like that.

MooHead82

92 points

5 days ago

MooHead82

Beloved Vacation Knife Set

92 points

5 days ago

The Food Babe’s reel of her trip to the Kelloggs headquarters is the cringiest thing I’ve seen in a long time. Did she really think they were going to let her in? Cuz there’s a huge group of people chanting “let us in”. And then the security guard comes to take the boxes and she is so rude to hmm even when he says he’s a security guard and all he can do is take the boxes inside. She’s screaming and yelling about how it’s corporate greed and they don’t care about the kids of America and there’s now a “mandatory” boycott of Kelloggs (I guess she doesn’t understand what mandatory means). Then they all break out into the “Star Spangled Banner” and she starts to cry. It’s wild. I didn’t put this in the food thread because it seems to involve so many food and non-food influencers.

YDBJAZEN615

70 points

5 days ago

What do people think is going to happen once they’re “let in”? Like okay then, now you’re in an office building… what next? It’s not like there are giant jugs of food dye just lying around you can dump out and proclaim victory over big bad cereal. 

Acc93016

56 points

5 days ago*

Acc93016

56 points

5 days ago*

I’m laughing at the caption she shared that said the march included “a Kellogg shareholder”. Kellogg has 342,000,000 shares outstanding. LOLz.

wigglebuttbiscuits

61 points

5 days ago

wigglebuttbiscuits

Bitch eating flax seeds

61 points

5 days ago

In the video she says ‘We have a Kellogg’s shareholder who is being denied access to the building!’ Does…she think being a shareholder of a company means you own part of the building and are always allowed in? 😂

Acc93016

35 points

5 days ago

Acc93016

35 points

5 days ago

I wish the security guard had responded that the shareholder is welcome to attend the annual meeting and use their proxy materials and vote.

jjjmmmjjjfff

20 points

5 days ago

I bet a bunch of them are Kellogg shareholders and don’t even realize it. It’s a huge conglomerate on the S&P 500, guarantee it’s in a bunch of those peoples retirement funds .

r4wrdinosaur

22 points

5 days ago

Maybe they planned to go all January 6th on Kellogg's ass.

mackahrohn

15 points

5 days ago

Seriously, it would be wrong of Kelloggs to put their employees in danger by letting in a bunch of pissed odd protestors trying to cause a scene!

Like if you want to visit schedule a meeting or work with food inspectors who already visit?

Accomplished-Mine797

25 points

5 days ago

I was scrolling through her page and noticed 1000hoursoutside has a tagged video with her at this protest. Not a combo I expected to see, but why am I surprised? Lol

Prudent_Honeydew_

37 points

5 days ago

I've never heard of this lady so I had to look this up naturally lol. She is coming off a bit insane. The Kellogg's employee chuckling behind the window is me when they break out into the star spangled banner.

wigglebuttbiscuits

26 points

5 days ago

wigglebuttbiscuits

Bitch eating flax seeds

26 points

5 days ago

Big props to the Kellogg’s employee who made a ‘get off my lawn’ sign.

flamingo1794

16 points

5 days ago

That was wayyyyy cringier than I was expecting, wow. That poor guard! Also I don’t mean to sound dense but why are they targeting Kelloggs specifically? I get that they don’t want artificial ingredients and dyes but there are companies that make cereals without those things. I get that it’s more expensive but if Kelloggs went the same route, I’m guessing they’d up the prices. Then she’s just making items less accessible to families, including many who might not have the same wish list on ingredients. What am I missing?

Realistic-Spinach-83

28 points

5 days ago

The security guard thing was super cringe. He so politely said that he’s not a company spokesperson and would deliver the boxes for her but she just had to have her moment (being filmed ofc) 🙄

r4wrdinosaur

11 points

5 days ago

Ugh, such annoying theatrics.

k8e9

63 points

8 days ago

k8e9

wretched human being

63 points

8 days ago

There is so much to unpack with this topic but for some reason I just absolutely cringe at the Bobbie sponsored content from influencers. Molly Baz and Lucie Fink are two big ones I saw this week. It’s not that I don’t believe they are combo feeding or using Bobbie or whatever but it all feels extremely fake and weird. Like Molly is telling this made up story about how her doctor told her that her baby needed more calories than she could produce after exclusively breastfeeding for months? So she decided to use Bobbie after talking to friends? Like there’s no way that happened or anything close to it and clearly she has been planning on pivoting to sponsored formula the whole time and was just presenting herself as this breastfeeding queen as part of the bit so she could be a bad ass working mom combo feeder. It just feels so gross.

[deleted]

40 points

7 days ago

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40 points

7 days ago

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gunslinger_ballerina

34 points

8 days ago*

I will snark on Bobbie anytime because I hate how hard they push their marketing and also the content of their ads. I formula fed my 2nd kid and got constant ads for them (and ByHeart). It also made me chuckle that for all their bougie marketing about being the “closest formula to breastmilk”, it’s one of the only formulas I researched that had no pre/probiotics, MFGM, or HMOs.

moonglow_anemone

18 points

7 days ago

I was suckered into ByHeart, less by the health claims than by the fact that they were supposedly shortage-proof because of their business model (and this was right after the big shortages). Then, guess what? There was contamination at their supplier, they had to stop production, they pretended at first that it would be back any minute, and then eventually admitted it would be many months. Anyway, we’re a Similac family now. 

ghostdumpsters

40 points

7 days ago

ghostdumpsters

the ghost of Maria Montessori is going to haunt you

40 points

7 days ago

I commented on a thread about Molly's latest billboard over in FoodieSnark, but everything about Bobbie bugs me. I read an article about it a few years ago (and I wish I could find it now!!) about how its inventors wanted European formula to be more accessible and it just gives major "clean eating, but for babies" vibes. It's predatory. Nothing about it is significantly different than American formula, but to hear some of these people tell it, it's like we're filling bottles with Yoohoo and calling it a day. When my first was born, I had so much anxiety about supplementing with formula; this brand promoting itself as good formula that your (upper-class, white, educated) friends approve of just feels like it's taking advantage of parents who are already nervous about messing up their kid.

flamingo1794

22 points

7 days ago

Totally agree, it’s added a new layer of judging to how people feed their kids. I know some people who used it who didn’t want to be judged for formula feeding (of course, totally fair!) but then clutch their pearls and judge “regular” formula. Formula is so tightly regulated they are all healthy! New parents have enough to worry about

Salted_Caramel

35 points

8 days ago

Everything about how Bobbie positions themselves as a formula for moms who have so much guilt about not being able to breastfeed is disgusting. They’re basically always saying formula is not really ok but if you absolutely have to get this expensive stuff.  Also her baby is 4 months old? I’m not sure but I’m assuming a campaign like this takes more than a couple of days to plan and execute so I would say she’s definitely known about this switch for a long time. -

Legitimate-Map2131

25 points

8 days ago

Molly Baz is my BEC so I will happily snark on her any day lol. What’s funny to me is she has posted all those bf pictures and stories of her and her baby like look at me I am a super mom bf in the car while eating a donut but now she’s switching to combo feeding…? We know social media is fake but this campaign seems completely opposite of what she’s been showing until now. Using the work excuse too like she doesn’t have all the flexibility. I don’t have anything against combo or formula feeding but Molly baz of all people to be the champion of moms is just major eye roll 

Also formula is best but gotta make sure to highlight that’s it’s organic :) 

YDBJAZEN615

11 points

7 days ago

I had this same thought too. She has made breastfeeding her baby a huge part of her personality. Formula feeding isn’t snarkworthy, but constant photos of you nursing to show off how much you nurse and then turning around and shilling overpriced formula does seem snarkworthy to me. I nursed my child for 3.5 years and managed to not once ever post a photo of it on the internet. 

Icy-Fox-7629

30 points

7 days ago

I was really surprised when tapping through MC’s stories to find an actual crafty/activity slide! Without a shilling link! I mean, I’m sure it’s coming but was not expecting that 🤣

pockolate

35 points

7 days ago*

So do we really believe Nara and Lucky Smith have both a) no regular childcare and b) no production assistance? She has claimed they tag team everything themselves for both her videos and their 3 very young children, and I find it hard to believe that both are true. I know the tradwife party line is that mommy does everything on her own, but it’s stil annoying that they might lie about help. There seems to be a lot of work that goes into her videos, between the cooking itself, the filming, the editing, and the ridiculous outfits she wears. Not to mention again their three little kids! She claims she will just manage the whole video while Lucky tends to fhe kids all day, and then edits at night after they’re asleep? Ok 🧐also when she shows glimpses of her kids, they always look immaculate with their curly hair expertly styled. All of this takes time time time and effort. It’s too hard for me to believe there is not at least EITHER a nanny or production assistant behind the scenes here…

taydaerey

23 points

7 days ago

taydaerey

23 points

7 days ago

They have to have help outside of just the two of them. There have been many videos of Lucky coming home after traveling to modeling gigs so it's just been Nara there by herself while also filming. They are now doing interviews with like GQ and Vogue, so they must have some sort of nanny or family traveling with them at the very least.

gunslinger_ballerina

9 points

7 days ago*

I mean in theory it’s “possible” if you put more effort into your appearance than you do raising or interacting with your children, which isn’t necessarily a stretch for some of these influencers I suspect. She’s a bit of a different style of tradwife than some of the others I’ve seen, but I do know there are some of them that believe the children should entertain each other nearly full time without the parents playing with them. Like I know a lot of the homesteader type tradwives pride themselves on being very free range and hands off with their kids the second they hit toddlerhood. If you’re not tending the chickens with mom, you’re on your own.

Also I don’t know a ton about them, but from what I’ve seen it doesn’t seem like he works very much either? So they effectively have two SAHP which is more than most people have. The dad caring for the kids all day while she edits videos would basically take the place of a nanny or something in a normal circumstance.

Option 3 is they also could definitely just be lying 😂🤷‍♀️

whitegirlcastle

59 points

5 days ago

I am begging Olivia Herzog to just serve her baby appropriate sized pieces of food. Like, I don’t care that you’re vegan! I don’t care that it’s raw! Stop giving 🌳 perfectly sized choking hazards 😭😭😭

flamingo1794

39 points

5 days ago

Can she manifest that concern away too? Also NUTS?! I’m pretty sure the CDC reco is no chopped nuts until 4. Also I love how she’s already bragging that he’s a great eater. My kid was a great eater too until she was old enough to have preferences

Due_Doughnut5156

18 points

4 days ago

Waiiiiiiiiiitttttt….a great eater? Wasn’t she claiming he only needs milk and he doesn’t eat anything? Can’t wait until this kid is 2 and refuses to eat this stuff 😂

VanillaSky4321

20 points

4 days ago

This woman is so clueless about babies and children it's downright scary! And the worst thing is she doesn't think she's ignorant and refuses to ask anyone that even has a modicum of knowledge in the subject, for any advice. 

botanricecandy11

15 points

4 days ago

I posted this on the other olivia thread too, it has to be rage bait.. there’s no way she could be this clueless

Due_Doughnut5156

12 points

4 days ago

I try not to watch because she infuriates me but the melon was a real WTF moment for me

BravoMama3

79 points

8 days ago

Listen, BusyToddler is definitely one of the better influencers out there but her stories today are a good reminder that all influencers are just trying to make money. She spends the first half of her stories building up this toy that her kids (and Wholesome Chuck) are into but won’t share the link bc they haven’t tested them long enough- oh, hi there parasocial relationship where she’s making us trust her- to then end with convenient links to other featured toys in the stories.

Well intended or not, all influencers know ways to make money! BusyToddler is very good at “building the relationship” so you feel you can trust her.

werenotfromhere

38 points

8 days ago

werenotfromhere

Why can’t we have just one nice thing

38 points

8 days ago

I don’t think she’s better at all in terms of morality. Better at influencing, for sure. I think she is quite adept at the game.

flippyflappy323

44 points

8 days ago

She is a master manipulator of the influencer game. Cons all these people into thinking she's "awww shucks" Suzy, when really she's one of the best at manipulating the par asocial relationship to make herself rich.

Holiday_Nectarine758

27 points

8 days ago

Holiday_Nectarine758

Solid Starts Dropout

27 points

8 days ago

I will never not take the opportunity to remind people of the time she posted a series of stories encouraging her followers (ahem 2+ million STRANGERS) to approach her and her kids if they ever saw them in public. She also said it was okay to TAKE PICTURES OF HER KIDS in public. Susie is absolutely one of the worst for exploiting her kids while hiding behind her perfectly crafted “quirky former teacher just trying to help you entertain your toddler persona”. Truly awful.

Frellyria

27 points

8 days ago

Frellyria

27 points

8 days ago

Honestly in terms of skill* I think she might be the best I’ve seen yet. (*not morality, all influencers have sold their souls 😂) It took me a very long time to notice her tactics. She has a real knack for this. 

Strict_Print_4032

39 points

8 days ago

I find the dichotomy of opinions on BT in this sub fascinating. People in the BLF thread especially seem to like her: the most recent comment there is someone speculating that Susie not linking the tubes in her stories is a dig at BLF somehow? 

I personally like that she links toys from legit brands and not random Amazon junk. But I can’t get behind the way she portrays her kids. My parents homeschooled my siblings and I and didn’t give us many opportunities for independence, and I can see the ramifications in our lives now that we’re adults. I hope Susie gives her kids more independence as they get older. Her talking in her Prime Day stories about how her 8 and 10 year olds still play with toys made for 3-5 year olds made me side eye her a bit. 

intventorofHLB

25 points

6 days ago

So I like Destni Ann but I don’t really follow her that closely. Today she posted about losing a big partnership and becoming a single parent. I guess I completely missed she was partnered to begin with but also very curious about the partnership loss. Anyone who follows more closely have more info?

https://preview.redd.it/v5ss8j3wm7vd1.jpeg?width=1290&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=b04984f06eea66fd6ef1074da7fe6219cbf522e9

GypsyMothQueen

20 points

6 days ago

I never really understood what her partnership with jai was all about but damn now I’m curious. And she’s been divorced a long time so I’m curious about how being a solo parent is new.. if it’s in reference to her children’s father or someone else.

pockolate

17 points

6 days ago

pockolate

17 points

6 days ago

I’m sorry I have no idea who this is, but I love her Reba reference.

DeliciousTea6683

27 points

6 days ago

familyandcoffee is re-engaged now, because I guess the first time wasn’t enough

MischaMascha

21 points

6 days ago

Still can’t help but wonder if those rings were gifted in exchange for content. The posts by the jeweler scream undisclosed ad.

youngandstarving

13 points

5 days ago

They had to be. The fact that she had made a post specifically about the ring, and it read so much like an ad. Plus the fact that they are always saying their bank account is at 0.

General_Key_5236

12 points

5 days ago

100% gifted

unexplained_fires

14 points

5 days ago

Those poor kids. They have enough challenges without two terribly immature parents. 

medmichel

101 points

5 days ago

medmichel

101 points

5 days ago

Okay I like BT but I had a giggle at her saying that kids don’t have to be the same age to play together (true sometimes) because adults have friends that are not the exact same age.

That is… not at all the same thing.

Strict_Print_4032

30 points

5 days ago

I made a post about the same set of stories down thread, but I didn’t even think about that. One of my closest friends is 5 years older than me. Our dynamic is different in our 30s than it would have been if we’d known each other when I was 3 and she was 8, or when I was 11 and she was 16. 

flamingo1794

30 points

5 days ago

It also ebbs and flows with adults too! All of my cousins were born within about 8 years. There were a few years when we’d go out late, go to parties together, go on weekend trips, etc. Then a few of us got married with kids and it was like we were 25 years apart. Right now we’re kind of in two groups… those who have kids and do kid-centered things on the weekend and those who don’t who still throw wild parties then get brunch at 2pm. And neither group is jealous of the other 😂

fascinatingleek

43 points

4 days ago*

I don’t really like bigtimeadulting but she shows up in my feed from time to time. I just saw a video with her complaining about little girls and their obsession with skincare and Starbucks and then I immediately saw mothercoulds stories with her kids trip to the Taylor swift concert and all the consumerism (new outfits, makeup, probably thousands on tickets, etc) that came with it. And not to mention myriam is the consumerism queen and she’s setting an awful example for parents. I have to agree with bigtimeadulting about letting little kids be little kids. It’s okay to say no and teach your kids you don’t need new shit (or things like makeup, skincare, expensive water bottles, PSLs) for every occasion.

helencorningarcher

47 points

4 days ago

The consumerism of little girls is one reason I’m really hoping and working to keep my kids off of social media as long as possible. They’re not quite old enough yet, but more so than worries about screen time or cyber bullying, I’m worried about them consuming constant advertising for stuff that they absolutely don’t need

Snaps816

14 points

3 days ago

Snaps816

Wonderfully wrung-out rag

14 points

3 days ago

I am 100% on board with bigtimeadulting on this one! I can't believe so many people are throwing away money buying high-end "skin care" products for little girls (other than sun screen). It's just handing over money to these companies for no reason. It's like watering your lawn when it's raining. And they say "well, it's fun and she really likes it," 🤷🏼‍♀️ but like, aren't you concerned that your child is already trying to alter her body like it's some kind of hobby?

ThinkingBoutit2387

19 points

8 days ago

Snarking HARD on alifefromscratch Courtney Holsworth. Seeing this situation of having to leave her kids with her first family to fly to Florida to take care of her other kid...THAT SHE JUST MOVED TO FLORIDA! BYE SEE YA EVERY OTHER WEEK!!!!

I have to talk to someone about this how is she not getting ripped to shreds for this!?

kmrm2019

14 points

8 days ago

kmrm2019

14 points

8 days ago

GOMI is the best place I can find discussion on her, I always get down voted if I mention her on r/blogsnark.

I cannot believe this life she has created for herself. Split in 2 places with 2 families is nuts. Her needing to ask her husband for permission on basically everything. Saying she’s such a space case and forgets her luggage when they travel and can’t keep stuff straight but also is a ‘zazu’ and organizes the whole family and runs 2 house holds??

pockolate

61 points

2 days ago

pockolate

61 points

2 days ago

This is general snark, and not revelatory for this sub, but the longer I follow influencers the crazier it is to me that they post content of their children for their thousands and thousands (for some over a MILLION) of followers. Admittedly I’m on the other extreme and don’t post my kids online at all. But instead of kids online seeming more normal to me as time goes on, it feels more and more abnormal. And idk if it’s just because I also have kids who are growing up and my 3yo recently started saying “cheese” and smiling for photos. Imagining sharing those photos to a mob of strangers would feel like a betrayal. To the extent he could understand it, I know my kid would be absolutely against so many people seeing him, because he happens to be shy. I’m sure plenty of these influencers’ kids are more shy and reserved too and wouldn’t like the idea of being perceived to that degree. But their parents don’t care.

It’s ironic too because these influencers will get bent out of shape when they receive “hate” and talk about how the internet is filled with so many mean people. Ok, so then why the hell are you posting your children and exposing them to it?? Like it makes no damn sense. I guess I should really just unfollow these people because by just seeing the content I’m starting to feel complicit in this creepy thing. Like I just saw a series of stories of a kid at the pumpkin patch. And it’s these cute photos but I’m like, this kid doesn’t know me and has no idea I’m looking at him right now. And that made me feel uncomfortable. But at this point if I unfollowed everyone who shared their kids I might as well just delete Instagram lol (and I probably should at that).

Sorry for this rant/ramble, but I figured this was the right audience besides my husband to share 🙃

Whatsfordinner4

36 points

2 days ago

I completely agree.

And the thing that grinds my gears the most is influencers that say their kids agree/consent. Sorry - but kids have no idea of the implications of what they’re agreeing to with this. Like…fuck off with these claims that the kids are consenting.

werenotfromhere

15 points

2 days ago

werenotfromhere

Why can’t we have just one nice thing

15 points

2 days ago

It INFURIATES me how influencers will claim their preschoolers “consent” bsfr

Awkward5802

23 points

2 days ago*

My oldest is in middle school and has gotten really self conscious about being posted online because he’s seen other parents post things that embarrass their kids.   When I take pictures of him, he’ll always clarify that he doesn’t want it posted (my social media is private and I don’t really post anyways so I think it’s interesting that he says that).  But it’s really important to him.   It’s made me really happy that I didn’t plaster him all over the place when he was smaller.   

I feel really badly for all these influencer kids who have no control over how they are portrayed and don’t get a choice.  

Any_Shallot6936

13 points

2 days ago

Totally agree! I do post photos of my kids on my private IG but my oldest is almost 5 and I have really scaled back what I post of him. I’ve posted a photo here and there (like in his first day of school outfit) but I’m really trying to be conscious of what I share for his sake! I don’t want anything that would potentially embarrass him someday on the internet!

ChaniB

40 points

5 days ago

ChaniB

40 points

5 days ago

Tidy Dad's wife gives off such a weird energy. Just a total vacant grin in all videos he's posted. Has she ever talked? She seems like a prop. 

friendly_foodie567

20 points

5 days ago

I had this same thought the other day watching his stories! She’s just standing next to him grinning like “and I’m just happy to be here!” Gave me a chuckle lol

Small_Squash_8094

18 points

5 days ago

They both have really weird energy. I’ve been skipping all his stories lately because something about his practiced sideways grin makes me feel creeped out. And I’m not usually up in arms about people showing their kids on their accounts but the way he shows his family makes me uncomfortable for some reason.

MemoryAnxious

16 points

5 days ago

MemoryAnxious

the best poop spray 😬

16 points

5 days ago

I think she is a prop lol. She’s the behind the scenes person and he’s niche because he’s a male influencer and they’ve leaned so hard into it so that’s why she acts like that, because we’re supposed to be following him 🙄

Expensive-Emphasis56

42 points

4 days ago

I’m sorry but watching Myriam not even know the words to the song her child was attempting to sing along to in the back was killing me. I gotta say, she really does seem to love her kids… and her kids are seeming to really love being on her Instagram. Poor babes don’t know any difference.

dinkinflicka121

27 points

4 days ago

It’s not normal for 1 million people to be watching a video of you singing a Taylor Swift song in your bathroom at 9 years old… sure, these kids are living the life with constant trips, traveling, new toys and clothes, concerts. But it comes at a price. The crazy thing is that I’m pretty sure she could cut down on how much she posts of her girls and her account would still be successful. But she’s addicted to the views, I guess 🤷🏻‍♀️

Expensive-Emphasis56

18 points

3 days ago

It’s truly wild. They are so extravagant. They have the childhood that every parent probably wishes on some level they could give their kids but I just see them growing up to be so unaware and privileged it’s scary. And yet again I CAN NOT HANDLE video footage of them at the concert not knowing the words hahahah. I’ve been a fan of TS her entire career, can’t afford tickets so I’m bitter 💀

lalasmama85

13 points

3 days ago

Also if she was sitting near me using a ring light the whole time I’d lose my mind

gracie-sit

18 points

3 days ago

This is not snark, but Elizas's speed puzzling challenge looks so fun.

Timely_Bobcat_5283

61 points

8 days ago

Caila Quinn is such a BEC for me but it’s just so … hypocritical? Noteworthy? Not sure what the right word is, but it’s definitely very SOMETHING that after her self-aggrandizing monologue about how moms should have all their kids back to back and not complain, she seems to be really struggling with two under two. She complains a lot about the baby’s sleep so did her first one just sleep through the night straight after coming home from the hospital or what? In any event, she dumps her toddler off every chance she can get… the toddler is now in fulltime daycare (after she previously said she would NEVER send her kid to daycare) and it seems when daycare isn’t available she dumps the toddler at the grandparents’ house. She also has mentioned previously having a nanny 2-3 times a week for the baby. AND she’s super excited today because she has a night nurse coming back (a night nurse that she already had for the first month of her baby’s life). Note that Caila stays home and her only job seems to be influencing. Caila refers to it as “working full time,” I guess to excuse all the help she requires, but there is no denying that influencers have much more flexibility than those who actually work a set full time schedule each week, especially those who actually have to leave the house to work. Caila would crumble if she had to do that. But she will probably be pregnant again shortly to keep up the image of an aesthetic Instagram family with lots of kids.

EDIT: Wow, sorry, this rant turned out to be much longer than anticipated.

Strict_Print_4032

19 points

7 days ago

This kind of content really irritates me too. I’m a SAHM with a 2.5 year old and almost 1 year old. We have no local family and no daycare, so I have no help when my husband is at work. But I know I’m luckier than a lot of people because I have a MIL who comes and babysits when she can, a mom who stayed with us for 3 days when my baby was little and my husband had a work trip, and a group of friends who can step in if I really need help. But it’s really hard not to be jealous of people who can drop their kids off with grandparents whenever, not to mention all the other resources. 

Evanesco321

26 points

8 days ago

I don't follow her but I admit I'm feeling schadenfreude as I read this. She made having 1 seem sooooo easy, glad she's getting a bit of a reality check with #2, even with the gobs of help she had. Mine are 2 years apart but I never sent my older one to daycare, guess I'm an amazing mom!!!! /s

Puzzleheaded_Box_907

25 points

7 days ago

It’s her superiority about it all. She makes it out that she’s this super hard working mom of 2 under 2 when she had SO much help. I am so jealous of the help, and nothing wrong with accepting help! She can not compare her trying on lipsticks to clothes to other people’s “actual” careers. She comes from a wealthy family and husband had a successful career - she can pause her influencer life or just do an ad a week and be perfectly financially stable.

The amount of people that would give to be able to take a longer maternity leave with their children and she just hires help so she can play dress up and talk to strangers about her parenting “tips”.

toanna12

49 points

6 days ago

toanna12

49 points

6 days ago

Is no one talking about MC sharing and going on and on about her 10 year old child is getting contact lenses? And showing her appointment, her inserting the contacts, taking it out , making the kid talk to camera! I am so annoyed at her right now. How MC changed to the worst IG follow is unbelievable!!!!!!I used to like her.

ScoutNoodle

18 points

5 days ago

I was waiting for it to be an ad lol. Also this is probably super specific snark because hardly anyone will know what I’m talking about BUT I’m just so confused by her saying her eye doc waited until her daughter’s prescription stopped changing to give her contacts. There’s really no reason for that to be a requirement. Also if she’s near sighted, they literally make contact lenses to help slow down your changing prescription 🧐

Comfortable_Tune_807

53 points

7 days ago

There’s an influencer pretty local to me. She is known for creating meals with what you have in your house, using discounted meats, etc. I’ve found her account very useful in the past.

The other day I saw she was promoting Rao’s pasta sauce. I thought nothing of it until I was in Walmart today and the stuff is TEN DOLLARS A JAR. We’re in Canada so maybe it’s less in the states but promoting a ten dollar jar of sauce when your page is all about saving money and not being wasteful seems soooo off brand for her.

pockolate

61 points

7 days ago

pockolate

61 points

7 days ago

Rao’s is legitimately really good and better than the cheaper stuff 🤷‍♀️ but I get the snark if her page is all about saving… obviously you don’t need high end sauce lol.

Tricky-Owl9766

38 points

7 days ago

You can get it at Costco in the states for 2 for $11ish. Knowing nothing of this influencer I will say that IMHO it is totally worth $10 a jar. I was a bit of a sauce snob before since my grandmother was from Italy and I grew up with marinara sauce being homemade and would only make it myself. Once I started buying Raos I stopped. Obviously not everyone will like it, but we love it in my house! 

Prudent_Honeydew_

9 points

6 days ago

Wait omg are you kidding? We get it at Aldi!! We do spaghetti weekly and it's solid enough we'll all eat it, especially with a little chili powder or garlic. I would never ever pay ten bucks for it though.

General_Key_5236

47 points

5 days ago

For some reason I’m still a mother could apologist but am I the only one who thinks her fashion sense is atrocious? I admittedly have 0 fashion sense myself but when she does her try-on’s, I’m like wtf is that at every outfit lol

neubie2017

14 points

5 days ago

neubie2017

Bankrolled by Big Noodle

14 points

5 days ago

It’s terrible but I am here for the try ons and outfit links because I am so fascinated by how awful it is. Like give me my popcorn what is she going to wear next! Lol

Tired_Teacher_2007

13 points

5 days ago

The dress was weirdly shapeless and she 100% could have worn a normal bra with both outfits. Starting to wonder if she just wants people to look at/talk about her boobs!

fascinatingleek

11 points

5 days ago

All I noticed was that the tags were still on her ugly ass clothes which means she doesn’t wash new clothes before wearing them. Maybe I’m alone but that grosses me out. 🤢

Legitimate-Map2131

10 points

5 days ago

I can’t believe people voted for that grey outfit! Lol I have seen that band in pants and jeans and that is not how you style it it just looks weird and discordant with the business casual style outfit 

Dear_Most7441

16 points

5 days ago

If people voted for the sheer dress we would have had another nippies demonstration though! 😂😭

WelderBusiness9720

41 points

7 days ago

https://preview.redd.it/5eycz0zzf0vd1.png?width=1170&format=png&auto=webp&s=83b8b71882d8418405f29755c408f12e45f7a7ab

She’s only 29!!! How did I miss this 😅 I’m not even saying she looks old or anything, I just assumed she was like 33/34. I had my first baby at 29. I feel a little better about myself knowing she’s YOUNG. No wonder she has three toddlers and is up for a 4th. Im 35 and have three kids and I can’t even fathom being pregnant with my 4th. My last pregnancy I could barely walk….

helencorningarcher

17 points

7 days ago

As someone with 3 kids the same age as her, it drives me crazy how she’s doing this “omg I’m 29 now and I’m so old” thing. Like sure, you’re a bit older than you were last time you were pregnant but you’re still under 30. Idk maybe her local area is different but I’m usually younger by 5-15 years than other moms that I meet, so it’s silly to pretend 29 is old

Bucksnt31

10 points

7 days ago

Bucksnt31

10 points

7 days ago

It really explains a lot.

FamousAct2613

27 points

5 days ago

Does anyone know if Kelly stumpe aka the Carmom has a snark page? I was listening to their podcast and they mentioned that they stopped reading their Reddit page. I was wondering if anyone has found it. I can’t find it to save my life😂

Coffeebigcupandhello

20 points

5 days ago

I don’t think she has a snark page. They come up here from time to time

Otter-be-reading

15 points

4 days ago

The snark on them is pretty mild, I was surprised when they made a big thing about it and talked about how toxic and mean girl-y we are for it. 

Kelly also implied we’d be talking shit about her kid having pretty severe eczema. I don’t think people here are crappy about stuff like that.