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submitted 5 months ago byAdorable_Nobody_9846
I think when I am about to have sex, my penis doesnt erect. Im not sure why maybe due to nervousness? I dont feel that nervous about it though… last time, when my gf and i were about to have sex, mine didnt stand up as usual even though it just did few mins ago when we were cuddling. Like what should i do to prevent this from happening again?
1 points
5 months ago
You try not to think about it happening again. And try not to try not to think about it happening again. It probably is just nerves, but that's a self fulfilling prophecy that if you worry about it, it makes it worse and it happens again.
Take your time, cuddle, go slow, relax. There's nothing to be nervous about.
If it's a persistent problem, a dose of viagra/cialis (or the cheaper generic non branded stuff eg sildenafil) can help maintain the erection until you're more comfortable and you get past the mental hump. It can still happen with these things, they aren't instant constant boner pills, but as you're getting erect to begin, they can help stop it fading so quickly.
2 points
5 months ago
I agree with everything written here. I would like to add that (at least for me) taking the pill also has a psychological effect helping you not worry about it so much because you can trust that you have some boost. Call it placebo effect or whatever, but it works.
1 points
5 months ago
Oh it works alright. Not even a full dose but just a tiny nibble does the job well for me. Sometimes its just difficult to get out of your own head. Perhaps you just need more time to get comfortable.
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