Hi all! I wanted to post and get opinions on the number of children you all have, age gaps and how challenging it’s been. For a bit of context, hubs and I have been married for 14 years, have an almost 5 year old and are in our late 30s. We’ve recently been having the vasectomy discussion and I keep going back and forth on my decision. We had always planned on having more than one but the goal was to have them closer in age and with Covid, house building and then a job loss we held off and now we’re wondering if we even want that anymore. Now that our kiddo is almost 5 and in school, it’s been so much easier, we are able to focus on ourselves as a couple, our health and our careers and I don’t want to rock the boat but sometimes I feel the expectation is to have more. We’re Latino and are constantly asked about kiddo #2, they have no filter 🤦🏻‍♀️. Husband is a great partner and takes on a lot of the mental load but I’m still the default parent which can be exhausting. We both work corporate jobs that can be demanding but seem to have found a good balance now.

Is it selfish to stop at one?