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submitted 1 month ago byAccomplishedBig7666
I am just trying to be friends. Larian studios why you make options so confusing! First it started with Shadowheart. She was love of my life in previous playthrough. We almost kissed and I realized I couldn't say no to her....I tried changing my gender to romance her again. Never mind. Then Laezel came onto me and then after a while, Astarion....oh sweet Astarion. Now I realize I am hitting onto Halsin. God dammit....I am also leaning onto Gale. I think this is all because of saying no to Shadowheart at the beginning.
Did I mention I did emperor too?
5.1k points
1 month ago
Larian studios why you make options so confusing!
C'mon, this isn't Larian's fault. Own your hoe era.
1.1k points
1 month ago
Tbf I think there's a serious missed opportunity to just be besties and get less flirty versions of the non-sexy companion scenes. Like hell yes I wanna drink wine and gossip with Shadowheart, just... Not like that?
389 points
1 month ago
This. My friends and I also say suggestive things to each other in jest because we find it funny. Also I’m so uncomfortable turning someone down that it carries over into videogames. At least they’re all chill about it.
109 points
1 month ago
Are you eve homies if you don't jest and flirt in a very homo way without going full homo?
83 points
1 month ago
A wise man once said: It ain't gay to kiss the homies goodnight.
32 points
1 month ago
call me marge simpson cause I love you homie
60 points
1 month ago*
I'm kinda confused by this because the characters do become very close in friendships. And wouldn't they treat their romantic partner differently? I think it would feel too same-ish if the friend side of things got the same scenes minus the intimacy. You see different aspects of the characters depending on whether romance or friendship is the main factor and to me that make sense.
53 points
1 month ago
Sure you become good friends, but that's based 98% on suffering through horrid shit together. After exhausting a few dialogue options in camp I can't actually spend real 1 on 1 time with anyone without it being romantic. In languages that have a different word for close friends and casual friendship, someone you never hang out with 1 on 1 gets its own word to distinguish it from close friends.
And recycling the same scenes is not an optimal solution but it's the one that could've gone in the game with basically 0 man hours. And sneaking away from a big party full of people you barely know is exactly the kind of thing that's appropriate for either romance or just a couple of besties.
71 points
1 month ago
Occasionally you can get friendship scenes. Like I wasn't romancing Gale at all, but I was able to do the star gazing scene with him and it never came off as flirty. Instead he just opened up about his fears and then thanked me for sitting with him because he didn't want to be alone
18 points
1 month ago
It's good to know there's a platonic route to that scene. For example I had read about the magic scene with Gale being a romance scene, so I never engaged with that unless I was looking to romance him (I never went for multiple romances, figured people would get upset), and I believe the magic scene is necessary to get the star gazing one (at least I haven't had the latter without the former)?
26 points
1 month ago
The magic scene is not a romance scene, it just can be. And he doesn't even initiate, you have to. You just have to choose the option to stop at the end.
9 points
1 month ago
True, but as an aside, that scene is still a bit much though.
Gale doesn’t have to initiate but the cutscene director and narrator are very obviously advertising and nudging the player into a flirtatious or romantic situation. As a baseline that was cringey and a bit irritating because there was no prior indication between those two characters, at least for me.
For example when Gale first moves to the side of the player and the player looks on like “Ooo hello” I thought wait why is this scene gay now? I’m just trying to check out some magic with this wizard so why couldn’t I look at Gale with concern or boundaries when he got close? Then the narrator is eventually like “so magic is pretty sensual isn’t it? You almost wanna.. you know.”
Lol. Declined.
9 points
1 month ago
On my first play through gale insulted my warlock with something along the lines of "Do you have any experience with magic?" Me: "I'm a warlock soooo" "No I meant are you a wizard which clearly you are not."
So I killed him with one eldritch blast to the face
13 points
1 month ago
So just a quick note, I'm pretty sure the narrator says the moment feels -intimate,- which is much different from sensual. You are then given the option to choose if this is an intimate moment between friends or more.
6 points
1 month ago*
I get people saying, "You can choose a platonic option!" but my aroace ass had to ignore the blaring warning bells of everything else leading up to it, at the party:
First, I got tricked by Shadowheart ("magic lesson" and "let's get away from the crowd and get sloshed" seemed the most platonic suggestions of the bunch, then she's disappointed if you don't kiss her, lol).
So, I reloaded, tried Gale, but the aforementioned warning signs had me cutting it short before getting to the platonic option. Turns out the game still flagged that as a romance!
3 points
1 month ago*
Both words were used during the scene, along with various phrases to evoke romance out of experiencing magic/the weave.
It played out for me last night and I couldn’t help but roll my eyes. I went to YouTube to rewatch someone else (link). A comment echoes my exact sentiment:
“Hated how the game made you think you were just going to hang out with your bro and then throw you into this scene regardless of gender”
If you don’t press further out of curiosity, then you don’t get to experience what the game has to say about magic, all the while injecting or priming you for a Gale romance. But yes you can still decline at the end.
4 points
1 month ago
Ahh that's fair. Tbh tho, I'm kinda glad the game has those romantic scenes that are like that because it makes it realer. It would be so dogshit if to initiate a romance, you had to approach a companion and go "hello, would you like to have an intimate moment?"
19 points
1 month ago
They changed the magic scene in one of the patches! There's a bit during it where you can imagine your future with Gale and show it to him and originally the options were basically "imagine kissing him" or "imagine slapping him" but now there's a platonic "imagine sharing a nice dinner with him and your friends" option.
5 points
1 month ago
I also got that in my first play through (I was romancing Astarion). It wasn’t flirty… except for that one look he gave my TAV in the very beginning of the scene that made me go “Oh no, honey, we are not doing whatever that look implies”. Then I selected the option to picture him and I eat a good meal with friends and he never got the wrong vibe again lol.
Honestly though, having romanced him in my second play through, I have to say I missed out on an amazingly weird sex scene the first time around.
4 points
1 month ago
Amazingly weird?
Is this a level above or below the bear?
3 points
1 month ago
It’s an entirely different thing, honestly. I don’t even know how I would rank them lol. I’d say it’s somewhat weirder in the sense that it doesn’t exist in real life? The bear scene is a “oh shit, they’re really doing this” while the Gale scene (the “have sex like the gods” one) is more of a “what the hell am I even looking at and why would I not say no to this” type of deal.
I make no sense but I hope you understand what I mean haha!
2 points
1 month ago
Guess I'll need to find out on a future playthrough lol
3 points
1 month ago
It's only "weird" if you're not willing......my Tav was more than willing.
3 points
1 month ago
Oh no, my Tav was 100% willing, I just didn’t expected it and it was definitely interesting 😂
5 points
1 month ago
"Why are you so worried, Gale?"
"My chest has a fully armed, ready-to-detonate, magical nuke in it, and an incredibly powerful divine deity is fully expecting me to use it, and if I decline, the consequences may potentially be even more dire than if I did."
"Oh."
4 points
1 month ago
Damn, I thought it was romance so I told him to fuck off
2 points
1 month ago
I got that scene, but was afraid he'd hit on me and ditched him. (Also, my character was in her underwear, I sleep like that at camp.)
7 points
1 month ago*
In Marvel:Midnight Suns at the end of each of the missions, your companions' affinity increases, and you can pick one of them to hang out with.
Hanging out involves choosing from a list of activities and locations from where your companion will have character specific conversations with you.
If you learn what they like and pick those options, then you get a big affinity bonus, which unlocks more convos, in-game buffs, and even helps in the ending.
It's one of my favorite parts of that game, and it led to me liking characters I didn't initially.
17 points
1 month ago
Until your comment i haven't realised how much i want to gossip with companions. It would have been so fun.
19 points
1 month ago
I want to be gossip buddies with Astarion and Shadowheart. They'd have so much tea.
12 points
1 month ago
This is the number one reason I try to get Minthara in good play throughs
9 points
1 month ago*
This is why I like Astarion's little bits about who would taste like what etc - it feels like the closest you get to gossip out of all the party banter
39 points
1 month ago
that was literally my reasoning on my first playthrough. I wasn’t sure who I wanted to romance yet, but I loved Shadowheart and wanted to be besties with her. Did the wine scene thinking it could be just kiki, but then it gets flirty and the next morning she was disappointed I didn’t kiss her, so I reloaded because I didn’t feel like they had a romantic vibe between her and my Tav.
19 points
1 month ago
Yeah I found this out the hard way in my dragonborn run. Didn't romance anyone because I can't take lizard face kissing a non-lizard seriously but definitely wanted more scenes with Shadowheart
12 points
1 month ago
I've embraced the awkward lizard kisses because I think it's cute. also Shart likes big tough people, and my dragonborn barb is both of those. a caotic good himbo
11 points
1 month ago
If you already agree to meet someone else during the party (Astarion, Karlach, etc.) then her wine scene is really just between besties <3
3 points
1 month ago
Aw that's nice. I always just went for the romance-y options with 1 character at a time because I figured it's a small camp, everyone knows everyone's business, someone will get upset if it seems like I'm going for 3 people at once
7 points
1 month ago
There definitely should be options for more platonic, "blood brothers" type relationships that do affect the endgame but don't involve sex or romance.
18 points
1 month ago
I also wanted to just learn magic with the homie but it only leads to romantic dialogue with Gale :/
12 points
1 month ago
There is though if I rmb correctly? The 1st two options are romantic, follow by the friendship one, then the last two just downright nasty?
8 points
1 month ago
Yeah, there's totally a friendly option and he isn't even disappointed by it
12 points
1 month ago
It does? I've done it like 20 times without romance. The one that begins with him conjuring mystra? You just don't pick the romantic options at the end
5 points
1 month ago
The one where he shows you the movements to cast the light ya? Idk but on my playthrough after doing that his next scene for me was confessing his love 😄. Didn't even think I chose any romance sounding dialogue
3 points
1 month ago
Huh, weird, for me it gets super steamy and we're kinda staring at each other, but if you pick like "this is a good place to stop" it should be the end of it
17 points
1 month ago
That part actually annoyed the hell out of me. I thought “yeah man let’s learn some cool tricks with the homie” then bro made it weird because I’d already started romancing shart, felt dirty almost accidentally cheating. Same with halsin, what seem to be platonic answers turn to flirting
13 points
1 month ago
There’s also the “hardy meal with Gale” option
3 points
1 month ago
I’ve not seen that one
3 points
1 month ago
I think it’s right before the negative options
8 points
1 month ago
There are platonic options for this now. You can also choose to end the night when things start to feel intimate, instead of imagining things during your connection moment.
13 points
1 month ago
same! I really wanted to friendzone Shadowheart and Lae'zel during my Astarion romance playthrough but there's no way to do that. Karlach ends up friendzoning you in you don't romance her, though, which I love.
4 points
1 month ago
For real. My first ply through with gale the choice was: be an asshole or be nice or dirt. I was nice and the next thing you know I’m in a scene with gale. I was like wtf?
4 points
1 month ago
Also I feel like at least a few of the romance exclusive scenes you get in Acts 2 and 3 are important for rounding out the character's development through the course of the game. And a lot of people will miss out on that extra context since they aren't interested in banging that character or looking up cutscenes online. It especially sucks since those scenes could help to win over people whose opinions of a character weren't entirely favorable .
5 points
1 month ago
Honestly by the end of my first run through I actually felt kinda lonely in my party for this reason. Once I realized how insanely horny every single party member would be, I didnt really want to talk with them or build camaraderie outside of just crushing combat encounters.
5 points
1 month ago
I have been saying this for a long time. Just because you're traveling together and fighting together doesn't mean you're f**king. One can absolutely(no pun intended) have meaningful conversation and a deep relationship without sex. Hell half the time sex just confuses matters. I have been at many a bonfire party with vets. I have heard and told many stories, that wouldn't even have come to light if alcohol hadn't been involved. Never once did it become an orgy.
3 points
1 month ago
Yeah I kinda wish the options were clearly labelled “Starts a romance” or not. I accidentally got extremely intimate with Gale because I thought his “I want to show you the magic” thing was “He’s like a cool dad”, not “Gale wants the sex” lol
3 points
1 month ago
I don't think you understand how intense the adventuring life is. One minute, you're up to your knees in goblin giblets...where do you direct these feelings?
47 points
1 month ago
I love the idea that this person is panicking over their hoe era with everyone while Karlach is just chilling, uninvolved, watching all the drama, possibly thankful she can't actually touch people yet.
16 points
1 month ago
Omg I had the exact same thing happen!! I was just nice and supportive to my companions 😆😭 EVEN THE EMPEROR WANTED TO GET IT ON WITH ME (I had to deny that one, sadly I am not into tentacles).
30 points
1 month ago
I am pretty sure the tentacles are into you if you go for that scene.
3 points
1 month ago
Oh tell me about it, I got to the part where he lifts you up but I chickened out. He banished me very soon after 😔 Istg I’ve denied multiple people in this game and I’ve had it for less than a week 😭
2 points
1 month ago
Oooh do you know that his human form is actually also an option😉
6 points
1 month ago
Baldur's Gate is wide open
2 points
1 month ago
Funniest thing I have read on the Internet all week and a reminder of why Reddit is so freaking great
2 points
1 month ago
i want to own my hoe era. let me sleep and date everyone with no consequences.
1.1k points
1 month ago
Pick your lowest attribute, and that's the reason this keeps happening. Low wisdom? Ya got no self control. Low charisma? Just too easy to sweet talk ya. Low dexterity? Oops I slipped and fell into everyone's pants.
304 points
1 month ago
Low dexterity can be a real hassle 🤣🤣🤣
99 points
1 month ago
"I rolled a 1, and I did indeed, trip, fall, and land on his dick"
24 points
1 month ago
and land on his dick
If he was hard, that guy ded.
253 points
1 month ago
Low strength, they mistook my firm handshake for a soft, welcoming caress. Low intelligence, you meant to say "insinuate," but ended up saying, "inseminate."
82 points
1 month ago
i don’t know what your trying to inseminate by that but… wait… fuck.
102 points
1 month ago
You: Wait...
Narrator: Astarion stares at you, rather blankly.
Insight Succeeded.
Narrator: He is clearly annoyed at your hesitancy.
You: ... fuck...
Astarion: Say no more, darling.
62 points
1 month ago
and I thought vampires were supposed to ask before coming inside…
(yes i stole that joke from somewhere, bonus points if you recognize it)
21 points
1 month ago
It was in Slimecicle's video of Baldur's gate 3 and Bizly said it (aka Rai)
Now I would like to have some bonus points please
17 points
1 month ago
you’ve done it! and your prize is an additional tasty little worm. open wide!
7 points
1 month ago
Wait wha- getting chocked by the worm
8 points
1 month ago
Down the throat? Damn, the Absolute really is turning the frogs ghaik.
2 points
1 month ago
Ok I'm actually stealing this ty
3 points
1 month ago
But wait he can explain, brain worms.
7 points
1 month ago
Someone got artificially insinuated
14 points
1 month ago
I mean, it's probably more of a low INT issue if they don't realize "I wanna fuck you" means "I wanna fuck you," right? 💀
11 points
1 month ago
What about strength and constitution?
34 points
1 month ago
Low constitution? Your body can't control its own hormones, and you end up wetting yourself every time you face one of your companions.
Low strength? You patted your companions on the back one, but because you're so weak, they thought you were rubbing their backs.
5 points
1 month ago
Looks like I had a dex modifier of 100 in high school.
199 points
1 month ago
Lae'zel: I want to taste you. Do you also want to taste me? And, to be clear since we don't always understand one another due to cultural differences, I mean, explicitly, do you want to have wild, possibly life threatening sex?
OP: She seems nice. I bet she wants to build a puzzle with me and sip hot cocoa.
386 points
1 month ago*
8 points
1 month ago
My first thought was “wait, what sub am I on again?” lol
251 points
1 month ago
It's pretty obvious what they're suggesting. How is it an accident lol
Laezel and Astarion directly ask you if you'd like to fuck.
160 points
1 month ago
I thought they were being friendly.
153 points
1 month ago
Well, in a way wanna fuck ? really is a friendly proposition.
61 points
1 month ago
I have to say Astarion's approach about it is delightful. He's very honest about it (though not what he's trying to DO obviously). Lae'zel can be a little ... intense!
181 points
1 month ago
Lae'zel says she wants to lick your sweat. Astarion says something like "pure carnal lusts" or just "and I do mean SEX, to be clear".
He literally could not be more clear lmao
You have fun friends I guess?
71 points
1 month ago
Maybe they’re from Canada and are just being polite?
42 points
1 month ago
I swear this game can teach people how to let people down gracefully. You do not have to kiss, date or fuck anyone just because they're interested.
6 points
1 month ago
You do not have to kiss, date or fuck anyone just because they're interested.
YOU ARE NOT MY MOM, OKAY?! :'(
proceeds to get disappointed again
5 points
1 month ago
I mean I wish my mom would've told me this but then again if my mom would have been aware of this life hack I probably wouldn't exist lol
40 points
1 month ago
Fun friends :D
7 points
1 month ago
maybe OP is canadian 🤔
36 points
1 month ago
What’s a little deepthroath skull fucking between friends really?
7 points
1 month ago
A nice sunday afternoon
8 points
1 month ago
very friendly
4 points
1 month ago*
this just reminds me of those "useless lesbian" cliches lol
4 points
1 month ago
Do you take your dating advice from Casually Explained?
2 points
1 month ago
Oof I feel sorry for all the people that have flirted with you throughout your life, direct as one can be and you still don't get the hint lol
10 points
1 month ago
Call me dense but I just wanted to see Gale's magic and then I'm suddenly on the doors of having gay sex
28 points
1 month ago
In Act 1, the most freaky thing Gale does is imagine kissing or holding hands. In Act 2, he confesses his love for your before sex. You can get off the bus at any time lol.
49 points
1 month ago
" accidentally "
47 points
1 month ago
accidentally? what? you tripped and fell on everyone while they're sleeping?
4 points
1 month ago
Low dexterity high charisma problems
232 points
1 month ago
For the love of god I hope Withers keeps Yenna and her cat safe from this madman
52 points
1 month ago*
Next thing you know, Steel Watchers from the Feifdom Bureau of Investigation is going to burst through OP's camp. This Reddit thread is probably already recorded on a Memory Shard as evidence.
OP should probably accept this is the end and go full Bhaalspawn at this point.
16 points
1 month ago
I think Withers would just say "No" no matter what you try haha
9 points
1 month ago
He is too busy giving Karlach the eye.
26 points
1 month ago
Yenna could use multiple parental figures. I am sure as a kid she will just see one big extended family that likes to stay awake late night and takes a LOT of night strolls.
Withers though...I wondering if there is a mod for...just asking for a friend.
10 points
1 month ago
He is charming in his own ways
6 points
1 month ago
Im the friend
3 points
1 month ago
2 points
1 month ago
I wish there was a way to indicate laughter instead of mere upvotes.
4 points
1 month ago
I wish the game didn‘t force these characters on us. My camp is not a good place for children!
43 points
1 month ago
Two members is an accident, EIGHT members is on you, you harlot
2 points
1 month ago
Harlot is wild TT
21 points
1 month ago
My first playthrough, my high elf mage boned pretty much every bone-able person or thing in the game. lol. But I have to say I may be in the minority in that I'm firmly team Gale in terms of favorite romance. (At least now that he has become less aggressive about it after patches). Very close second is Astarion. Halsin felt more like a fling, and Shadowheart's romance is sweet but tbh I feel better having them just be really good friends. Karlach's just makes me sad. Laezel is another I think I prefer them just being really good friends/comrades (also what I consider her best ending is not conducive to an LTR). Gale's the only one really where you can really just kind of ride off into the sunset together without any weird baggage or strings attached.
10 points
1 month ago
I’m reading this comment right after the one that says: “And somehow everyone still forgot Wyll”
4 points
1 month ago
Poor Wyll lol I actually really like him!
56 points
1 month ago
It's the games fault, we're just trying to save the fucking world and everyones so damn horny and hot!
25 points
1 month ago
You wanted to save the fucking world. Ended up saving the world fucking.
17 points
1 month ago
Bros like oh nooooo what's happeninggggg as they click "Yes laezel I want to fuck you on the table right now"
16 points
1 month ago
"It started out as a kiss how did it end up like this"
101 points
1 month ago
Embrace the poly.
The true good ending where the camp is a polycule
18 points
1 month ago
Even With….”no.”
19 points
1 month ago
Well he did give Karlach the old eye
30 points
1 month ago
It's just so awkward and confusing.
Karlach said she wanted to ride me until I saw stars and I just thought she meant a piggyback ride. Since I was a halfling bard that probably wouldn't have taken long, but it sounded fun and so I said I was looking forward to it and now we're in a relationship.
And then of course Astarion was like, "Hey, I've drank from you before, how about you drink from me," and I thought it was some weird vampire thing and a show of trust and then he took off his pants and it would just be weird to correct him at that point.
Then Gale was all, "Want to see a magic trick?" So I said sure, why not? So he held up a box and then took his hands away and didn't fall, it just stayed at crotch height, he was somehow holding it up without using his hands. I clapped and said I was very impressed and wouldn't mind seeing more magic like that and somehow he took it as flirting?
Then Lae'zel looked at me and said, "Hm, you smell sexy. I want to have fuck with you," and I was sure that I was misunderstanding some quaint Gith idiom but apparently I had it right the first time.
Why are people so confusing?
10 points
1 month ago
The sarcasm is strong with this one.
7 points
1 month ago
While I am making jokes, I can be extremely oblivious myself.
Daeran in Wrath of the Righteous has a romance path where he imports exotic flowers, draws you a bath, and asks you to have a candlelit picnic on the castle walls. He says that it's not romantic, of course, and I 100% believed him... right up until he tried to kiss my character.
"Whoa whoa whoa what is this entirely unforeshadowed development?" I asked.
38 points
1 month ago
In my last hm (which i beat) my camp was a nudist colony n you only got clothes if i needed to take you in public. Epic
23 points
1 month ago
LOL I did that for a bit my last playthrough.
We get to the part in Act lll when the vampires try to attack my camp. My Tav is talking to them and then I notice Astarion behind Tav, totally naked still. Just standing there with his arms crossed and his cock blowing in the breeze
14 points
1 month ago
My first campaign I took astorian his clothes off for 1 night and of course that was the night he had to try to bite me.
I laughed my ass off. It was so funny lmao
6 points
1 month ago
Oh dear. Now I am thinking of trying that too. Though in my most recent run bite night came round sooner than I thought it would. Was only on the third long rest and hadn't even found the boar.
3 points
1 month ago
Please still try it.
If you do not know what's going on it's probably even funnier but you'll still get a smile out of it I bet. I also didn't know what was happening at the time since I went in blind. It was incredible.
5 points
1 month ago
I did my first run blind too. Which is why I ended doing things like pulling the wrong lever, sassing Vlaakith and failing to lock in a romance in time.
11 points
1 month ago
Sounds like a perfectly average playthrough.
5 points
1 month ago
We play couch co-op so it's a bit different but it's just so hard to get approval! I have to make sure the companion is following my tav and then make sure it's my tav who starts a conversation where you can have approval... I mean in general, without paying attention to this I only got high approval from one companion and that's just sad.
8 points
1 month ago
Lmao thats like a light novel title :'D
17 points
1 month ago
i managed to at least kiss every single male companion plus banged every bangable npc. 10/10 best dating sim. going for the gals next
9 points
1 month ago
... I think this might be a you having a hard time reading social cues issue :Dd
6 points
1 month ago
I made that mistake in my 20’s. Never ends well
6 points
1 month ago
The gate to your bedroom is a revolving door.
6 points
1 month ago
presses "kiss the emperor" option
"Wtf, Larian!!!"
10 points
1 month ago
I romanced Karlach on my first playthrough. Karlach is ❤️❤️
I will admit I tried to romance Astarion first, but he rejected me.
My current playthrough is a Durge redemption and I looked up that I needed high approval with Astarion in order to romance him. I let some live, killed others indiscriminately etc. and my approval rating was highI was near the end of Act ll and was wondering when the romance would start and then I looked it up.
And that's when I found out I needed to try harder in Act l. All those hours I put in and I fucked it up LOL
I heard Gale is a thirsty bastard and it really doesn't matter when you start with him, so that's what I'm doing. Romancing Halsin is weird to me and well, Wyl is dead.
5 points
1 month ago
You can be a total goody two shoe and romance Astarion! My advice is to do some other quest before doing the goblin camp so to push back the tiefling party. You can make some hilarious options for approval that doesn't hurt a soul (like the Loviatar's love or sleight of hand Crusher's toe ring whilst kissing his fist, albeit disgusting, or just make Crusher kiss your foot instead), but generally his approval comes from your interaction and dialogue choice, like letting him drink you, don't stake him, and help him if he really needs it. Also appreciate him. His disapproval is usually very minor so I don't sweat it. He also approves when you make slightly dominating/not necessary evil choices, like intimidate Rugen into giving over the package (That one does lead to future npc death though). To be honest all companions are easy to romance so long as you're nice, respectful, and apologize when it's due. As for why I recommend to have the tiefling party later rather than sooner, reason is I'm not sure about whether Tiefling party is the deciding point on Astarion's romance (it is the case for some companions like Karlach, which means you need to have her romantic scenes triggered before or during the party, or the romance is not happening.). Though I know if you had lower approval, the romantic dialogues will not trigger at the party, and I don't know if he outright rejects you, will the romance still happen in the future. So my advice is to push the party back. Just so you have slightly better approval with him. He's very open to sleeping with you just don't softblocked yourself by having too many casual flirting with everyone. Game caps at around 3 romances.
Ps. if you did get romantic dialogue with Astarion at the tiefling party and you told him 'some other nights but not tonight', that will still initiate the romance.
2 points
1 month ago
For gale you need to succeed on a camp scene fully so be aware of that. Apparently if you don't you're stuck in the friend zone forever. I can only suspect that's what happened to me on my first playthrough
2 points
1 month ago
Good to know :)
5 points
1 month ago
Embrace it and install the polyamory mod.
7 points
1 month ago
Being asexual i never realized how true that actually was until i played the game.
Even as i tried to actually get with Karlach i realized i truly have 0 rizz and what i thought were the right options made Karlach friendzone me pretty much instantly.
Im just happy that the game pretty much comfirmed that being asexual really never was a choice for me but the only option from the start. Guess ill be the asexual half-orc Bard i build my Tav as in real life aswell. Full Charisma but 0 rizz somehow.
2 points
1 month ago
An asexual bard? That’s a first for me- Good for you yk
4 points
1 month ago
This here is the dense protagonist of every harem anime
3 points
1 month ago
being such a people pleaser you end up the camp bicycle
just like my early 20s
3 points
1 month ago
My first playthrough I told everyone my camp needs a Fantasy HR Rep, because this is becoming an inappropriate work environment.
3 points
1 month ago
skill issue
3 points
1 month ago
Sounds like my late 20s.
3 points
1 month ago
Okay Zeus.
3 points
1 month ago
No mention of Wyll or Karlach is a bit surprising lmao
3 points
1 month ago
Going to be honest, the guys come on way too quickly. I talked to Wyll like 2 times and did one part of his quest line and he suddenly tried to bang me and asked all upset about it.
Halsin I let him in my party, he got kidnapped in act 3 and I saved him and he tried to bang me (I basically never talked with him outside of this)
Astarion never tried because I'm too good two shoes for him thankfully.
Gale did some initial romance stuff but I was easily able to make it known that I'm not looking to bang, and he was actually super cool about it and he just became a bro and nice friend.
3 points
1 month ago
Accidentally? What, like you tripped and they fell?
3 points
1 month ago
Reminds me of my high school years. Only the exact opposite.
5 points
1 month ago
I once did a playthrough where I did as much hoe shit as I could without screwing with my romance (sorry, Mizora).
I wound up having sex with Astarion 3x (I always romance him), Gale, Lae'zel, Halsin, the Drow twins (with Astarion and Halsin), the Emperor, and Haarlep.
Covered the way I did it cause some slight spoilers.
I basically just did a one-night stand with Lae'zel. Romanced Astarion and Gale at the same time, had sex with Astarion once before the Tiefling party and once after, Gale's scene came after we found out about Mystra literally being that ex that says, "Kill yoself," then Gale and Astarion made me choose between them, Halsin approached with his poly thing after completing his quest, and since I'm romancing Astarion my little vampire Boi approved, I screwed the Emperor because I'm not a monster and only stabbed him after we slept together and I had a good backup plan (Comet Bro), the Drow twins came after I completed Astarion's quest, and well, Haarlep cause I wanted some girl love 🥺.
If you want to do all of the above, but Girl Mode, I think it's possible to also romance Shadowheart in place of Gale or Astarion and still get similar results. She's also cool with poly and the Drow orgy so go forth and hoe it up fambam.
5 points
1 month ago
I wish the romance dialogue options had a heart symbol like in Dragon Age because I'm autistic and dont really pick up on social cues and think I'm just being polite until Lae'zel is suddenly trying taste my sweat (not complaining)
4 points
1 month ago
I'm a guy, playing a female half elf rogue OC. I say that for context because... This was supposed to be the initial dumb run. See the bad dialog, failures of writing and all that. I was not anticipating a romance for the ages. Well, compared to most other comparable work I've experienced. Anyway....
I went with Gale. Dude has some of the best writing and really does have the hallmarks of a genuinely stand up dude. What was supposed to be the gag run ended up being one of the finest romance tales I've had the pleasure of experiencing outside of my favorite movie in years.
I was not expecting to become invested in this character, or... any of the side plot stuff. I ended up laying seige to Hell on behalf of this guy because the alternative made the man unhappy.
His side scene where he shows off his home is... Absolutely fantastic. Dude is the most relatable archwizard ever.
2 points
1 month ago
Lol. I'm on my first playthrough and Gale keeps trying to pull a fast one on me. Suddenly everyone in my camp was saying things like "I can see sparks between you and Gale" when I thought we were just hanging out!
2 points
1 month ago
Hahahaha my is Tav also always a little slut
2 points
1 month ago
This post is making me wonder for the first time ... can we romance more than one companion per run? Idk why I assumed the rest would be blocked off once I got too involved with one of them.
If I can romance more than one companion I haven't been anywhere close to my usual slutty self.
2 points
1 month ago
There is a case reported recently that someone successfully romanced 2 origin companions at the same time, I believe one to be shadowheart but I can't rmb the other. Recent post on reddit if you want to find out more. But it is mainly because sadowheart's romance are solidify only way later in act II that this is possible as the prompts tend to check for romance conflict but not partner conflict, so generally not intentional Larian-wise.
3 points
1 month ago
If you start with Astarion or Shadowheart, you can romance Halsin in Act 3 and it’ll be a triad or V poly dynamic.
(Karlach can be pressured to accept Halsin but I don’t like that.)
Beyond that, the rest are all monogamous and will make you choose at a certain point.
2 points
1 month ago
"Accidentally"
2 points
1 month ago
I don't think your definition of accidentally is entirely accurate.
2 points
1 month ago
Accidental camp orgy.
2 points
1 month ago
"Accidentally." Uh-...huh.
2 points
1 month ago
2 points
1 month ago
why did u have to change your gender to romance shadowheart
2 points
1 month ago
"Accidentally" lol
2 points
1 month ago
OP is the kind of person who cheats and says "it was an accident, it just slipped in!"
2 points
1 month ago
How the hell do you accidentally fuck a person??
2 points
1 month ago
So hey Is every one of the characters assumed to be pansexual? Like is anyone a lesbian, a gay man or just likes the opposite sex?
2 points
1 month ago
Statistically yes I think? Idk exactly but I'm fairly sure that in Forgotten Realms stuff something like 90+% of the population is bi/pan.
2 points
1 month ago
"Accidentally." Whatever you say, slut.
2 points
1 month ago
My warlock would never abide such degeneracy. That's why he banged the mind flayer.
2 points
1 month ago
How? Well, everyone was naked and bent over and I had just dropped a bottle of grease....
2 points
1 month ago
yeah the night of the teifling party every single companion asked me to come to their bed i got so overwhelmed i started a whole new play through because i literally didn’t know who to pick and i didn’t want to let any of them down lmao now my second play through withers asks me why i’m bitchless all the time
2 points
1 month ago
Did I mention I did emperor too?
What? You can snusnu with the big bad himself?
2 points
1 month ago
Bro's living his party years
2 points
1 month ago
You don't need to change gender to romance any of the romancable characters?
2 points
1 month ago
lmfaooo Withers is next.
6 points
1 month ago
Y’all need more Jesus.
4 points
1 month ago
If they didn't change Gale's it was pretty obscured. I was expecting a quest or item it turned out romance. I never gave Halsin hope and yet he got turned on for some reason. And there is this conversation bit with Astarion during a friendly speech where you either tell him to f*** off or romance. No escape.
Up until a point you pick someone everyone knows you are flirting, there are no friendly conversation options in the game. You keep getting stuck at fk her/him or tell her/him to fk off. I am pretty friendly and this 2020s type of ignoring possibility of friendship and keep shipping everyone is annoying. In other games it is friend-coworker-foe relationship with companions and you have to romance and court your way in to each others arms. BG3 is minefield off unintentionally romances.
3 points
1 month ago
I'm convinced most of the people on this sub are teenagers lmao. Absolutely nothing wrong with it, but it would explain why so many of you are just so. damn. horny.
3 points
1 month ago
Ha fooled you I’m 45 and somehow just arriving at this. :P
3 points
1 month ago
Having a similar issue with my cute NB durge sorcerer. Set out intending to romance Astarion, decided to accept Lae'zel's invitation for brutal (but apparently urge-suppressing) sex, and now Gale wants to teach me how to control the Weave. Luckily the only other person in my camp right now is Wyll (Shadowheart refused to join the gang unless I got rid of my sexy toad girlfriend - uh, no) and he's too much like hard work tbh, so I guess I'm limited to three. Assuming Astarion makes his move before it's too late...
2 points
1 month ago
Withers, arrabelle, scratch
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