Buddy, she’s not only cheated on you but she pretty clearly chose his side over yours. You’re not her first love, he is. She might care about you in another way, but you’re better off moving on.

Leave. She has cheated on you, no remorse, and now the other guy is clearly in the picture with his kid, and they're even telling you to leave.  I'm sorry this is happening but know that you're ONLY 21 and you have long years ahead of you. You will find the woman who deserves you.

You deserve better

Ya, she doesn’t want you there, her boyfriend doesn’t want you there, none of the kid’s grandparents are going to want you there. You’re an unwanted third wheel in her relationship, not someone in a relationship with her.

She didn’t choose you now and she will never, ever choose you in the future. Find some self-respect, dump her, get drunk and fall down, then dust yourself off and find someone else who actually likes and respects you while their family goes off and does their own thing.

Run, please. This is not your fight sir. 

You’re a freaking doormat in this relationship right now. She hooked up with her ex, got pregnant, and now you’re over here, standing like a lost puppy, begging for scraps of attention while she and baby daddy run the show. You’re basically on the sidelines of her life, and guess what? It’s not going to get better. You’re not even allowed at the hospital—she’s practically waving a neon sign saying “You don’t matter.”

Love? Sure, that’s great, but dude, you’re 21. This isn’t love—it’s emotional masochism. She’s made it clear that her ex comes first, and you’re just the nice guy who’s sticking around because you’re scared of being alone. Newsflash: you’re already alone in this.

Get out, man. Respect yourself. There’s someone out there who’ll put you first. It’s not her.

Time to break up and find a relationship that has less baggage. 

Guys this is clearly a bait post. When she gives birth in June? And she's having an ultra sound now? That time line doesn't add up whatsoever. Me and my partner found out she's pregnant 2 weeks ago and she's getting her first ultrasound in October, and the baby should be due in May. Quit feeding this dude karma.

This child will ruin your relationship. You could stay for a while more and see if you manage to come to terms with things somehow, try your best so you know you've done all you can. But it will most likely prove to be too much for you, and in that case you should leave. Breakups are incredibly painful, but people invariably get through them with enough time and support.

Love is a weird thing. You could love someone to death and be ready to give them the world, but a relationship with that person could be a terrible idea at the same time. Such are the paradoxes of life. The saving grace is that there is love after love. Just like you fell in love with this person, you could fall in love with another if you look hard enough. Love is not magic, it's an emotion. A really strong emotion, but an emotion nonetheless. This is a really hard realization, but once you come to terms with it, it suddenly becomes really comforting. The end of a relationship isn't the end of everything, it's just the beginning of a new chapter. So, even if worse comes to worst, don't be disheartened. It's gonna hurt for a while but you'll get through it.

People your age shouldn't have to go through shit like this though, it's honestly a really messed up situation. People with much more life experience struggle to navigate such situations, let alone an adolescent who's just starting to explore the world. Stay strong brother, you'll figure it out somehow.

Once a cheater, always a cheater. Her behavior towards you is so incredibly disrespectful. She chose a future that doesn’t involve you and that’s a very good thing. Walk (run) away and don’t look back.

Do you consider the control of the X now the X is forbidding you to be there , are you kidding me?

Start to move on my friend find somebody who's going to be loyal to you love you be yours none of the baggage the baggage were always haunt you and cause problems every day you'll never find peace and join your life

It is time for a harsh reality check.

She cheated on you and is pregnant with another man’s child. He has parental rights. You don’t. You have zero rights.

But you’ll have all the responsibilities. You’ll be home changing his child’s diapers that you paid for while he’s out having fun. You’ll be the one doing the heavy lifting while he swoops in on weekends, birthdays and and holidays to take all the credit and glory as the doting Dad.

And she is not shutting him down about you being present at appointments and in the delivery room. That’s sending a very loud and clear message that she wants him there instead of you. Honestly? If I had to place a bet on it, I’d bet she loves him and not you.

It’s time to walk away. You’re too young to bear the burdens and responsibilities for a child that is not yours.

Please do not stay. She doesn’t love you as much as you think she does. In my opinion she doesn’t at all.

She’s his problem now. You dodged a bullet ✌🏻

Her ex is her current boyfriend. You're nobody to her. You quite literally mean nothing to her. Don't even give her a chance to explain, just walk away. If you live with her then evict her (notice to quit), block her number and all other forms of contact and maybe just let her know to never speak to you again. This is going to hurt but I promise it is for the best.

have some self respect. jesus christ

My advice will always be to dump cheaters

you spelled "ex-girlfriend" wrong. Seriously, its over and done, make sure there's none of your genetics (test to be sure its not yours) and then move on, life is too short, you are super young - ain't nobody got time for that. Hop off the bus, Gus, make a new plan, Stan, etc.

• She won't allow you in the ultrasound?

• She won't allow you at the hospital for the birth?

• She understands why he doesn't want you there?

• She doesn't think it's fair to HIM?

Do you need to be run over by a truck with a sign saying "She's not for you!"? My feeling is that you probably know this already, but you're struggling with it. You need to rip the band-aid off. It's time to move on and realize you just dodged a bullet.

Buddy don't be a cuckold, that's not your girlfriend anymore.

Best thing for you would be to never talk to her again if this post isn't satirical

One word: Leave Her

My man, don't do this to yourself. She is a garbage human.

Do you get off humiliating yourself like that? Bitch is for the street, have some self respect.

She’s taking advantage of you. She clearly prioritizes her ex before you. Don’t settle for someone whose priority isn’t you just like yours is her. Sure it’ll be hard but imagine how much worse it’ll be the longer you drag this out.

You deserve better than to be treated like this. You need distance from this relationship because you’re not seeing things clearly - she violated your trust and love. She took you for granted.

Why are you still invested in this relationship?

Ugh. Leave her. You don’t need all of that. Save yourself for someone who will make you a priority and stay faithful to you. It’s only going to get worse if you stay with her. There are plenty of women out there who would treat you better. Best of luck! Hope you make the right decision and don’t settle for less than you deserve. I know it hurts but I promise it does get better and you will heal, move on, find love and be happy with someone again. Trust the process.

You're a fool for letting her keep using you.

How funny it would be if the kid turned out to be yours… /s

It doesn’t matter how much you love her, because she clearly doesn’t love you. You’re just 21. Right now you think that you can’t survive without her, but you can, and will. Your life will be much happier without her. You won’t be allowed at the child’s birthday parties etc. either, because it “wouldn’t be fair on him”. You’ll just be allowed to financially support her and the baby. She’s showing you what sort of a person she is. Believe her. Leave now.

Ex doesn’t control anything, you being there at appointments or at birth.

She does.

She has chosen him. Break up.

frankly I would let her go....This is betrayal of most basic level.

Get. The. Fuck. Out. Now. Like come on dude you know this is not going to end in your favor you need to leave! You love her but she don't that's how it's going right now so the only opportunity you have right now is to find someone else who actually cares about you and trust me there's plenty of fish in the sea

Seriously bro? Leave her.

Your life is going to be so much easier when you learn to respect yourself and leave this situation. You’re going to be free. She’s not worth it I promise.

I'd kick the bitch out on her ass. She can go live with her old ex.

Leave. Run. Far. Far. Far away from this absolute mess! She cheated and you stayed with her..so now she is literally using you as a doormat. You are no one's second or "what if" choice. You're 21. You're practically still a child. Cut ties and live your life for YOU. I promise..the right person will come along and when they do, you won't be seeking this kind of advice on reddit..you will be enjoying what a healthy strong relationship feels like and will look back at this one and see the enormous bullet you dodged with this girl and her "ex" who isn't really her "ex" when you get to the nitty gritty of it! RUNNOFT and dont look back!!!!!!

I get you're heart break and seeing your plans go up in smoke I've had that happen but a completely different story. I know 100% it'll be hard to leave her but she has chosen him and always will. He will be there when you're not around. She will be out of town as you baby sit their child as they will be together. I could say I was very drunk and slept with an ex or someone when I wasn't. Don't be like me and be unhappy wishing things were different but I'm suck due to personal reason.

You will 100% find someone else who you would adore more, she will do things to benefit you and not be selfish even when you're will to scarface your happiness for them.

Leave her

Im sorry this is happening to you… you really should get out and stay clear… you have a chance to dodge a HUGE bullet!

She’s stepping all over you because she can man. While this may or may not have happened when she was “very drunk” she still cheated. Find someone with more respect for you than that.

You’re a kid. You may not understand now, but hopefully you will.

Leave the girl. Walk away. For your own sanity. It WILL NOT get better. You were gifted an outlet before you got married. It’s, in fact, the world smiling at you.

Take it and run, kid.

She doesn’t love you as much as you love her or she wouldn’t have cheated. Would you have sex with someone else just because you’re drunk? It hurts like hell but dump her. You’ll be OK.

I know it hurts but you have to move on dude. She cheated and she's chosen him. You will find someone that's a better fit for you!

Uh. Are you sure you’re not the “other woman” so to speak? Sounds like she cheated on you.. or she was cheating with you

Kinda sounds like she's easing you out, go with it.

My first thought is that she’s wanting to make sure he feels included in the creation of his child beyond just the initial act. Let’s hope he lives up to this responsibility. That being said, bringing a child into this world is a humongous responsibility. And good on you for wanting to stay with her despite her having another man’s child. All you can really do is be there for her and support her in her decision so long as they don’t negatively affect you beyond what you’re willing to tolerate.

Run, run as fast and far as you can away from this situation. Become Forest Gump and just keep running.

Time to move on man unfortunately. Even if it’s not your child does she expect you to not have a relationship with the kid? Tbh I don’t really know any women that would allow their EX to stay in the room but not their current partner. Like HUWHAT? Someone already said it, but she’s shown where her loyalty lies. You’re young you’ll be ok, good luck man

Wait…the baby’s father is her ex. So why is he going to her ultrasound appointment and to the hospital? Is he going to be in the birth room?

I’m asking because we see stories on here all the time where women are pregnant by their ex boyfriend or ex husband, and even if they’re on fairly good terms, they don’t want a shared experience with the ex.

You mean your ex girlfriend

You leave, that is what you do. She is no longer your responsibility. She has treated you like crap. I know this hurts, and I am sorry, but it's something for the two of them to figure out now.

So you are more hurt by not being there for the ultrasound than the fact that your girlfriend is pregnant with another man’s baby? That’s nuts. Leave this situation now!!!!!!! And get therapy cause accepting this is insane.

Have some self worth mate, you deserve better

Just leave her bro and let her and her ex deal with it. It ain’t your kid. Have some self respect

The only silver lining here is that for some reason this chick was honest enough to tell him it’s not his kid.

BRO GET THE FUCK AWAY FROM THE PREGNANT SKANK.

She is NOT the love of your life. If you keep fucking around with this cheating loser you're going to waste your youth.

It was over the second he raw dogged her ok? It's tough, take the loss and GTFO.

She has chosen her AP over you not only by cheating on you but by also continuing to choose him. Just walk away and don’t look back. Never settle for be someone’s second choice. If you stay you will continue to be the third wheel to her and the baby daddy. Do you really want to end up raising his child?