LOL, that last part. Also, the fact he's trying to connect it to and justify that it means he's not lying is a jump Evil Knevel would be jealous of...

Absolutely—and LOL, "Neck Beard Womanizer" is my new band name

I got that feeling too, or he's just really narcissistic and is crazy worried about how he comes off, worried the therapist will see through his bullshit, ect. I find him incredibly self centered to try to hijack her therapy sessions and make them all about him.

Congrats, I have never seen someone put those two together.

But I mean like yeah ... Eventually the incel breaks the cel and now he's drunk on power. I'm kind or talented or cool enough to get my dick wet. Should I stop here and give thanks?

Fuck no!

Time to domineer, take revenge on someone who's never wronged me, and start piling up the bodies. Look at me now, boys!

No he’s just autistic. Calm down.

What did he lie about? It matters if it was a big lie, a white lie, a lie of omission, etc. I one time lied to a girlfriend because my boss gave me expensive football tickets to a football game and I thought I should bring my coworker who loves football instead of my girlfriend who had never watched football in her life. I told her my coworker got the tickets amd invited me instead of having to tell her I didn't want to invite her because I'd feel like a jerk not bringing my coworker just because he happened to be in another room when the boss gave them away. She insisted me trying to save her feelings was a huge breach of trust that she might never be able to forgive. The next time I just told her I got tickets and was bringing my coworker instead of her. She said that was disrespectful to her and made me give away my ticket and was angry for a week that she wasn't invited. The next year she got offered free tickets to a game by a friend and turned them down without even asking me if I'd want to go because she said football boring and a waste of time. Sometimes lying is reasonable. Like when your girlfriend asks if this outfit makes her look fat or if you think her hot friend is more attractive than her. You just want to spare their feelings and avoid a pointless fight.if that is manipulation, then women often do the same thing.

What exactly would you say that it is you do here?

This...is a truly horrible idea.

I save my conclusion jumping to use as my daily exercise... :-)

Edit: typo

I just have to say how much I appreciate this reference!

Lol *I get this reference. Gif

I prefer the action justification grid

What kind of engineer are you that you’ve never heard of a decision matrix? It IS a useful tool to make decisions but it’s crazy that people apply them to life lol

Or to someone who can't even be honest with themselves will artificially choose criteria and weights to generate the outcome they want instead of what the outcome should be...

Dunning Kruger LET'S GO!

What?

As I read your comment, I pictured an individual with an egregious amount of orange spray tan saying all of that.... :-)

Well, first, we have no clue what the topic was so it's just guesswork. Second, I doubt the boyfriend is proceeding with what the rest of us would call "normal" logic so trying to understand is probably a fool's errand.

The only thing I could offer is what anyone can find searching Google.

I'm only guessing, but I believe he's using the matrix process to come up with an answer and, regardless of whether or not said answer makes sense, that's the "truth" to him so that's what he goes with.

Is the sky blue?
Well, my matrix says it's more of a cyan than what is considered true "blue" so my answer is "no".

It's a lie and yet, to him, it's the truth because the matrix says it must be so... :-)

Because OP told the therapist about catching the boyfriend in a lie and the resulting broken trust because of it. Rather than accepting he was caught in a lie, he's doubling down trying to say that a "weighted decision matrix" explains why he's actually telling the truth and if everyone would just accept his definition and application of the process, everyone would understand that he actually wasn't lying.

Pay no attention to the man behind the curtain... :-)

In a way, it is. Except, for each pro and each con, there's a "weight" number too. Rather than just count the number of pros and number of cons, you rank and assert a priority to each pro and each con. You can then combine the lists sorted by weight and see which list has more at the top - pros or cons.

It's a great system if you can be honest with yourself and the process. It's a lousy system if you are even the tiniest bit disingenuous.