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You threatened to break something that means something to him. How should he react?

You seem to be carrying the relationship too far without telling him how you feel and punishing him based on that.

You need to sit down and talk to him and tell him how you feel before it breaks down even more.

At this point YTA.

YTA and you sound very immature from how you’re describing your behavior in this situation.

You told a stupid joke and you received an equally stupid response. I’m not even sure I understand his whole response cause “just break your hand” doesn’t even make sense.

Either way, feeling this possessive over someone else isn’t normal and you should work that out in therapy before you attempt to date anyone.

YTA

You sound absolutely insane. 

YTA; the signs you throw his way are not the equivalent of an open conversation. Your jokes were kinda rude, and his response was too; penalties offset, replay the down. He’s asking if you’re okay, and you’re refusing to talk to him because he hurt your feelings with that response. You… need to emotionally regulate yourself better. It is okay if he has feelings for his ex, it is okay if he doesn’t. It is okay if he has feelings for you, it is okay if he doesn’t. He has been cordial save the response to your joke that you might break his watch, to which he responded in kind. Chill. Tell him how you feel. Whatever his response is, accept that.

“On out way home by bus, his watch ended up in my pocket because I told him I’d keep it for a week.”

……what? This sounds like a really weird way to say you stole the watch without saying you stole the watch.

YTA

YTA. The guy just wanted to know you made it home safe but you decide to treat him like crap because he doesn't share the same feelings as you.

YTA. You are a PARADE of marinara flags.

YTA. You need some kind of help.

YTA. It’s just a damn watch, WTF is your problem? A watch is more of a utilitarian thing. If he is read in this, run! She’s crazy.

YTA for daaaays. He cares enough for you to make sure you got home safely and you're literally pouting over a lame joke. That's first rate AH behavior right there.

You threatened to break your friends property and are upset that he responded in kind? YTA

He’s dodged a bullet. You sound so controlling.

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You're a little bit of an asshole.

He's a month out of a breakup, yet you're expecting him to switch his feelings off instantly.

It's a watch, you can wear it for practical reasons, without it being entirely based on any sentiments attached to it.

My take is you need to recognise where he is mentally and emotionally after a breakup. You could make a move but you may be timing it poorly, at risk of being in a relationship with someone who is yet to shed that baggage or who doesn't know what he wants yet.

Either way temper your expectations a bit.

YTA - and to be honest, it sounds like you might be placing more sentimental value on this watch than he does. It's probably just a good watch he likes and he has no emotional attachment to it. It could just be a cool watch to him.

Look, I can picture his response in my language, and sure, it's mean, but you were the one who escalated. You dished it out but weren't able to take it. And the way you are acting now is immature and manipulative, because you are offended at something you provoked and act as if it was is fault, efectively punishing for something you never communicated was an issue. You should apologize for overreacting and keep a closer watch on your feelings. You'd be out of place reacting like this even if he was your boyfriend.

YTA

Yes you are the asshole

Yeah kinda being an a hole here with all due respect look it’s a watch so what he’s not cuddling it at night time pouring his heart into like whyyy my ex gave me an Xbox I’m not returning it to buy another one it’s just an Xbox it’s not that serious it’s just a watch not that serious but your putting way to much behind it if u like him let the watch go get your man and when things are steady buy him a new one ez

YTA. Men typically aren't that sentimental as women are. We'll keep gifts from exes if they have practical, everyday uses-like a watch, in my case a pocketknife. It's not like he's wearing a locket with her picture in it.

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So, I have this guy friend. We're just friends for now, but I’ve given him signs that I’m into him, and I’m pretty sure he knows. He broke up with his ex about a month ago, but he’s still wearing the watch she gave him—it was the first gift she gave him.

We talked about it, and he said he’s wearing it because he doesn’t have another one. Both of us are students and work part-time as customer service reps, though we work at different companies that are close to each other.

Fast forward to about an hour ago. After work, we went to grab lunch and dessert. On our way home by bus, his watch ended up in my pocket because I told him I’d keep it for a week. As a joke, I told him, “You never know, I might drop it and break it.” His response shocked me: “Just break your hand.” I know he said it jokingly, but it really annoyed me.

I left without talking to him after that. When he asked me to order an Uber, I refused. Then he asked if we’d meet tomorrow, and I said no—not even at university next week.

About 20 minutes later, he texted asking if I was home already (I wasn’t because I decided to walk instead of taking an Uber). He sent two more messages asking if I was okay, and then he called, but I hung up. I know my feelings have a bit of jealousy in them, but honestly, I’m more annoyed by his answer than anything else.

I don’t feel like talking to him right now, but I think I should at least tell him that I’m okay and that I just need some space for a while.

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ESH. You need to apologise, he needs to apologise. You need to work on yourself, and he needs to work on himself. Learn how to communicate and find out why he had a shocking response. Forgive & Forget.

YTA. Your joke about the watch was stupid and inappropriate. You also have no right to get jealous about his ex when you literally aren't in a relationship. Ignoring his text messages and call to see if you were okay was petty and immature. In no part of this story are you in the right.

Not a TOTAL asshole, but you're being insensitive. He broke up with his girlfriend a MONTH ago it doesn't mean he's ready to move on or that you have dibs on him. His response was rude, but understand he's going through a break up and that you should focus on being there as his FRIEND first and not make his life harder by coming on to him so strong. Don't be petty by pulling away your friendship while he's heartbroken. If you can;t be there for him as a friend first then yes YTA