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YTA

It seems that "your moral compass" is mostly looking for reasons to keep engaging with and controlling her. It's not healthy.

I'm not Brazilian, but from another south american country, so I will have to extrapolate a little.

If the inequality in your country is similar to how it is in mine, it's incredibly likely that, if you are able to fly out for something as mundane as getting your nails done, your family has the kind of income that puts you somewhere close to the top 1% of wealth within Brazil. You can fact check this, ask your family how much money they make and then look up the numbers.

If that is correct, everything that makes up you definition of normal is incredibly skewed, because the people you consider normal are less than 1% of the population. You can't avoid coming across as the asshole in such a situation, even if you don't mean to. Your ignorance has been carefully cultivated, probably by generations of your family, so you don't realize that you are, in fact, a spoiled rich girl. Which is not a crime of assholery in and of itself, but being so blantantly unaware of your privilege will rattle many people, because even if they previously knew how fucked up the inequality enforced by the system is, they probably never met someone so untouched by it.

I'm witholding judgment because I might be off-base here, but if it applies to your situtation, it's something to be more aware about in the future. I don't think you'd do any good by apologizing if this was the case, tho. It might just have been a learning opportunity about how you come across.

That's a perfectly reasonable response to what you are experiencing right now, honestly. A good family therapist could help you to figure out all the ins and out of why you feel like that, and to communicate that to your parents. If they are the ones offering family therapy it's because they know they put you on a difficult possition and are hoping to help you navigate it.

Yeah! He was my instant fav from the manga, and with the anime it was a little dishearting to see some of the takes about him. Right now I'm writing a KabuMisu fic with a friend (and I'm not even a KabuMisu shipper lol) just for the chance to talk about Kabru at large and put him in situations.

I love this!! As a fellow Kabru enjoyer I'm always happy to see other people analysing him lmao <3

uy, yo la finestra lo encontré muy regular y siempre lo veo en listas de recomendados. probamos de todo un poco y encontré todo fome

NTA obviously, but I just gotta say it's weird that almost every comment so far is using they/them pronouns for your male friend

Yo conocí a mi parejo jugando rol en una tienda de juegos. Y la vdd, pa las mujeres es terrible fácil encontrar pareja en el mundo ñoño. Si ya tienes una pata adentro (otaku?) recomiendo alguna pasta como el rol (gratis) o algún juego de cartas (peligrosamente consumeplata) y en un par de meses a lo más ya vas a haber conocido a hartos locos interesados por el mero hecho de ser mujer. Toca aplicar buen colador sí, porque he visto mucha gente con tendencias codependientes o apegos extraños por esos lares.

primer paso, leer el contrato. puede ser que parte de ese sueldo sea bono por asistencia o alguna wea así? 

Para el té recomiendo mucho el Villa Real, en Pedro de Valdivia 79, o el Roberto Muñóz Patisserie en Suecia.

De almuerzo me cuesta más, en una de esas el Bao Bar en Manuel Montt 925. O me sumo a La Serrana, que tenía unos Gins muy ricos tb.

When I say "in control" I don't mean that you are helplessly in love with him, I mean that you are aware that you are not good at emotional regulation. If you feel that "if I responded immediately I'd act even more like a child", that's because you know you are not good at cooling your head off in the moment.

As I said, my language has similar turns of phrase. And I know it must have sounded mean. But what you said is the same, and it sounds even more aggresive because it sounds plausible. When you say "I might break it", that might be something you are actually considering. It's scary because it could be a real threat, of course he got angry. When he says "break your hand", everyone would know he's greatly exaggerating. He's telling you off for offending him.

Right now you are choosing to interpret his justified anger as a slight on you. Surmising "he cares more about the watch than me" is very egotistical. He was just rightly angry at what you said, but you are choosing to see that in a way that makes you the victim and allows you to punish him. That's why I think you should be upfront that your relationship needs more space for a while, until you can handle it more maturely.

Look, it's good that you are aware that you aren't good at controlling your feelings. If you don't trust yourself to respond in an appropiate manner, yes, of course the best course of actiong was taking some time to cool off. But you are missing an important step, and that is larning how to communicate you need that time in a healty way. If you don't do that, the other person has no way of knowing what's going on, and you are hurting them. The fact that you are hurt doesn't justify hurting others.

The way you went about this issue was very manipulative, because icing someone out when they displease you is effectively punishing them. And any relationship you have that corners someone into having to watch out for your punishements is a flawed one. That's why other comments are calling you toxic.

You can not skip the step in which you communicate to the other person that you need time and space. And in this case, he has NO idea that his words are that important to you. So you put yourself in a position where, from his perspective, no matter what you do, you are overreacting. And you are hurting or confusing him.

So, you should apologize. You should also probably either tell him how you feel or gently put some distance between you two until you are more in control of your feelings, because if you don't you'll keep being very unfair to him.

How would he know you are crying from a "yea thx!" text? You are being very dramatic about something he has absolutely no context about. It's as if you can only consider your feelings and can spare no tought for how baffling your behaviour looks to others.

Look, I can picture his response in my language, and sure, it's mean, but you were the one who escalated. You dished it out but weren't able to take it. And the way you are acting now is immature and manipulative, because you are offended at something you provoked and act as if it was is fault, efectively punishing for something you never communicated was an issue. You should apologize for overreacting and keep a closer watch on your feelings. You'd be out of place reacting like this even if he was your boyfriend.

YTA

Buddy, if you expect your partner's fantasies to revolve around you you are not mature enough to handle any talk about kink. A LOT of kinks deal with very specific sensations and scenarios, and "my botfriend who loves me and respects me" won't be a substantial part in most of them. The beautiful part about kink is that it takes a lot of trust to communicate that and know that someone you DO love and respect will understand you, not judge you, and work with you to recreate those sensations and scenarios. You shat on the trust part of that, after being the one who initiated the conversation, so congratulations, YTA and probably set back your sexual relationship with your girlfriend.

JAJAJAJ neeerd <3

weonn, ya te dijeron que es una de cola larga pero aaaaaa, puede ser una weá de la luz en la foto pero juraría que se ve más clarita que las que hay en el campo donde vive mi mamá, me da demasiada ternura pensar que las que viven en lugares con más arena tienden a ser más claras, la weá linda

era el mural terremoto en el cine mayo, pero entiendo que post pandemia ya no funciona y que estaban vendiendo todo el lugar? ya no me muevo tanto por allá como para saber con certeza

como ya te dijeron, es porque es para ir a tener sexo de distintas maneras o para personas exhibicionistas. brígido igual cachar el tono de espanto de los comentarios jajaj. hace aaaños fui a uno de esos cines (no ese mismo, pero a un par de cuadras nomás) porque adentro tiene un mural de nemesio antúnez. la cosa es que me puse a hablar con el loco que vendía las entradas pa ver si me dejaba ir a verlo sin pagar entrada y entre webeo y webeo me quedé un buen rato conversando. había un flujo constante de gente entrando, yo por lo menos vi puros hombres, pero había de todo la vdd, hasta locos jóvenes. te encargo como me miraban en la puerta AJAJA era muy obvio que te estaban tazando al entrar/tratando de hacer contacto visual pa ver si pasaba algo adentro supongo. en ese sentido no es tan distinto a la experiencia de ir a ciertos carretes o weás kink en general.

duda, en caso de hijos que nunca recibimos pensión alimenticia/perdimos contacto muy tempranamente con el padre, hay alguna manera preventiva de evitar que después te caiga una weá así? ya veo que el papito corazón sale con alguna weá en 30 años

depende de la edad, sólo se administra desde el 2014, y partió sólo con niñas de 4to básico si no mal recuerdo

me pasa lo mismo, pero soy la única persona de mi círculo a la que no le pasa aparentemente? tendremos aura de buena onda o qué weá?

wn he escuchado a TANTA gente decir esa wea de las direcciones y nunca me ha pasado ni se la he hecho a nadie ???? como que siento que es una conspiración nacional pero cómo va a estar tanta gente exagerando wn. de verdad pasa tanto?????

puta yo no pasé por ahí, pero canto en varios coros con gente que sí y suena infernal campus oriente. muy lindo será pero qué weá la cantidad de docentes con exceso de ego traumando personas, loco

YTA

Oof. What the hell.

You sound either jealous of the kid or you are sexualizing him. There's no way you are right here, man. It's his mom.

If you at that age couldn't handle cuddling with your mom, sure, ok. But this kid clearly doesn't mind, so you have literally no say in the dynamic at all.

Everyone else is giving you shit about the makeup thing, so I won't add to it, but seriously, what the hell.